trying to do things rite this time - most of the guys i asked said to hold out as long as you can, the guy will respect you more - we are divorced in our 40's & it seems rite - we've been dating 1 month now.
2007-01-03 06:11:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, you are both old enough to know what feels right. especially since you both have been in marriages and other relationships.
I would have to say when you both feel very comfortable with each other on every other level of your relationship.Do you both love to sit and cuddle together while just watching a movie? Do you both like to just spend time talking for hours about your likes and don't likes and things of your past comfortably? Well, if you guys both can do this then that means your comfortable in the other aspects of the relationship enough to start enjoying the sex.
2007-01-03 06:19:43 · answer #1 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage. The statistics show that if you move in together and/or sleep together before that you've just increased your chances of divorce by 60%. Plus, waiting helps build discipline and self control for down the road when you're married and are in an arguement and want to tear each other apart. Wait. You'll be glad you did!!
2007-01-03 06:15:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you feel about the relationship. A month was my rule back in the day (before I married) and if I didn't feel like it was going anywhere at that point I would cut off the relationship. If it feels right, and you feel the relationship is going somewhere, then there's no reason to wait any longer.
If you are unsure, wait a little longer and see if you feel differently in a few weeks or months.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 06:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait it out until you get to know her better. I am sure at the age of 40 you dont want to just fool around, but you want to find that love again. By not having sex you would be respecting her even if she wants to have sex, you will also make it so much more worth it by just having the anticipation of it.
You both can grow so much more without sex, you can learn better, and she will intrigue you much more without it. I say wait until you feel and know its actually right.
2007-01-03 06:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by heatstream44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a general guideline to follow. I think you need to do what feels right. If you are ready, then by all means have some fun. As a guy, I would neither respect or disrespect you if you decide now was the right time...if I truly cared for you, I would want to make you happy.
2007-01-03 06:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Smooth 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a hard and fast rule for this. I think you will know when the time is right. It is true that the longer you wait the more he will respect you, but sometimes if you wait toooooo long, the guy loses interest, especially as fast as everyone moves today!
2007-01-03 06:13:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably the most correct answer for you would be simply to say, whenever the time is right for both of you, you will know. There is no set rule on this one. My wife and I are both in our late 30's and divorced when we met. We felt we were adults...both with kids and we could do whatever we pleased and who cares what anyone else thinks
2007-01-03 06:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by jbradc69 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever it seems right - seriously. You've been dating a month so you're over the "she jumped into bed with me too soon" time period (if he's the kind of guy that would even think that) so any time you are both ready, go for it...
2007-01-03 06:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to do things right then u should wait until you are married. But realistically speaking I say wait 3 months or more.
2007-01-03 06:13:37 · answer #9 · answered by Cocoabutta98 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
about a month or 2
2007-01-03 06:13:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋