Why U.S. divorce rate is so high????

Question

I'm a unmarried young guy and I had a dream of migrating to America in the future. I'm also strongly believes a parent serves as an important role model for their children. But I was shocked to see from the news that the ratio of married couples is lower compared unmarried couples. I just cannot imagine that if I really migrate to America, my children will only get contact with the people who are mostly divorced and this might serves as a negative impact on my children. Every parent sure will always hopes that their children's marriage is successful but when I saw the news I had started to think twice. I have nothing to go against those people who divorce due to spousal cheating or abuse but I find the famous reason is due to irreconcilable differences or no fault divorce is just a bunch of craps! I heard from some sources claim that feminism is indirectly contributed it, is it true?I just want some feedbacks or opinion regarding this issue. thanks

Answer 1

Look at the US culture- it is a throw-away society, meaning there is a lot of waste. Garbage dumps are full, and so are the divorce courts. The message about material things is: "Get something bigger, better, faster!" This means people have to get rid of what they already own. There is also a lot of debt here because people spend more than they have. In the minds of many, people and lives become dispensable. :(

On television, immorality and adultery are portrayed without showing negative consequences to the family. Immorality is conveyed as normal, exciting, and desirable. Citing irreconcilable differences to end a marriage is a way of saying, "We give up. Making a marriage work requires too much effort. We'd rather start over with someone new."

Children are influenced not only by society, but especially by their parents and other family members who provide support. Are your children getting the message from you that marriage is something sacred, precious, that takes work? Do they (or will they- depending on their age) see it as a serious life-long committment? You are the best and most important role models in their lives. I live in the United States but because of my strong moral values and positive example of family members (parents have been married 30 years in June!), I will continue to enjoy working at my marriage as long as we both shall live.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

I've seen questions like yours before so, at the risk of responding to a troll, here goes. You want to move to the US. Inherent in moving to a new country is the acceptance that things are done differently. Yes, the divorce rate is high here but YOU should be the most important role model to any children you might have should you be married. As it is you are unmarried and without children. You have yet to find out what exactly it means to be married and raise children.

Answer 4

I think this article should dispell some of your misconceptions about the divorce rate and the number of married couple versus non-married couple households in the United States:

http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1547431,00.html

As far as why the divorce rate is so high, it is not that much higher or lower here in the U.S. than it is in other advanced Western world countries. There are many reasons for divorce, and not all of them have to do with feminism and the increased freedom of women to leave unsatisfying relationships. Our American belief in "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" is embraced by both men and women. Many men who might have in decades past felt obligated to marry feel no such pressure to do so in today's more liberal society.

Answer 5

Yes I think feminism did have a hand in this. Now women make their own money and dont have to stay married to men who dont treat them right. Before they had no other choice. The problem with the divorce rate is men. Nine times out of ten its something the man does or doesnt do that brings about the divorce.

Answer 6

Ok, here's the scoop on the TYPE of divorces: "irreconcilable differences" usually means cheating, but in order to proove that, the suspecting spouse would have to pay for a private investigator to try to get an actual photograph of the cheating spouse having actual intercourse with the other person. Cheating is a difficult one to proove, so the alternative is to go for ""irreconcilable differences".

The divorce rate is high in the US for the following reasons (among others):
(1) People marry out of lust and not unconditional love. They meet in a bar, shack up, and decide to get married. Maybe they have a kid. Then when they realize that you actually have to have deep down love for this person in order to live with them, they get divorced.
(2) Drugs and alcohol. People get messed up with drugs or alcohol and do things nasty to their spouses (physical, mental, and emotional abuse).
(3) Cheating. This country has a lot of sexual-based advertising and TV shows. When marriage gets really hard, a spouse may seek the comfort of an opposite-sex co-worker and end up in bed with them.
(4) Lack of God-led morals. LOVE, PATIENCE, HONESTY.. all things that many people don't know how to use in a marriage. Marriage was created by God, but people who don't live by God's ways can't make it work.

LASTLY, WHO YOU MARRY IS YOUR CHOICE. YOUR CAN ELIMINATE YOUR CHANCES OF DIVORCE BY CHOSING THE RIGHT PERSON TO MARRY, NOT HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE, AND NOT BEING QUICK TO MARRY.

I don't think feminism has anything to do with it. Women should be treated fairly and equally in any relationship.

Answer 7

divorce is high because it's easy and people don't put up with as much.... other countries have divorce too.. and in some countries, women have no rights to even think they want a divorce.. so.. this is America baby, love it or stay out.

Answer 8

Because people think that marriage means, "Make me happy." Americans particularly rely on outside "things" and people to make them happy. If they are busy and expanding their knowledge and experiencing new things, they become interesting and charming to the person to whom they are married. Try to fulfill yourself first and you won't rely on someone else. Even single people are not happy 24 hours a day avery day. We all have down and tough times. That is part of life and part of marriage but people don't want that part.

Like teen and unwed pregnancy, society has accepted it so it becomes common.

Answer 9

because is a lot to choose from thats why people get divorce...And just because is fun for them get marry and get divorce after...Divorce is like a tradition in America and all over the worl not just here in the US

Answer 10

People, and specifically women, have more freedom and economic options in this country, so there is less incentive to stick it out when things get rough. It's not completely a bad thing.