I am supportive and happy for her..I am throwing her a huge baby shower this month. But I am jealous because I want children so so badly but I don't know if it's possible b/c of some health issues. I'm also jealous that she is happy in a relationship. So women (or men, lol) have you experienced this?? Or am I just a biotch??
2007-01-03 05:52:18 · 12 answers · asked by goldengirl 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
That's normal........Everyone experiences jealousy when someone is getting all the things in life that they desire. Keep the faith.....your time is coming.
2007-01-03 06:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by Babyface 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm glad you asked that question because I thought I was the only one thinking like that. Even though I already have a child, I still get jealous of some friends and family having a baby. I lost a child due to health problems and one of my friends who lives in another state knew about it (cuz I told her) and she kept on emailing pics of her newborn/infant baby. I emailed her and told her I really couldn't look at baby pics right now because I'm still grieving and a month later she emailed pics again! Maybe she forgot or something. She could have just asked if I wanted to look at her and her baby's pics.
Also my sister in law kept on emailing her and her baby's pics (when I do not even care about that right now). I am not close to my sister in law. My sister in law talks to the wall. Especially when I'm still grieiving. And my parents in law knew that I lost a baby and they still emailed baby pics of my sister in law's baby.
Also my other ex-best friend who lives in another state kept talking about her baby and kept on emailing her baby's pics. Her baby isn't that cute anyway. I've been supportive of her. All our email conversations are one sided. It's all about her. She never asked about me. She never was curious to see my baby's pics for 18 months! And when I told her about it, she said I was a negative and toxic person LOL! what a hypocrite. So 18 years of friendship went down the drain.
The funny thing is that I do not even feel jealous of my cousin having a baby. Maybe it's cuz she's a laid back person. My cousin is the only woman I do not have issues with that I don't feel jealous about her having a baby.
Thanks for a vent. Maybe I sound like a biotch but it isn't my fault I have issues of these women because they behave like this.
*by the way I gave you a thumbs up!
2007-01-03 06:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by choosinghappiness 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What you're feeling isn't wrong; it's natural. However, you have to understand that it may take some of us a little longer to conceive than others. It's really not her fault that she was able to conceive and you're still trying. I was in the same boat as you. My husband and I were trying to conceive for 4 years before I became pregnant. I went through infertility treatments and everything. My husband's sister went through 3 pregnancies before I had my 1, but I never resented her for it. It's good that you're being supportive of her despite what you are really feeling. How long have you been trying to have a baby (or are you?)? I was diagnosed with PCOS and endometriosis. I was left feeling that I would never be able to have a baby, but now I'm 35 weeks and expecting my son. Have you tried talking to your OB or going to a fertility specialist? If not, maybe you should.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 06:00:10 · answer #3 · answered by JoesWifee 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it's normal to me, however think of the positive feedback from this, being that you don't have kids of your own just yet. You will be able to get some hands on experience and gives you a joy to help out especially if she is your best friend, you need to be there, it's the best you can do. I am sure that child will see you so much around that you will be something special in his/her life, just have fun with it and good luck.
2007-01-03 06:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Just Me and My Baby 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is completely normal to be jealous of others when they are pregnant. I was very jealous of my friends when they were getting pregnant(all seemed to be around the same time) so everywhere I turned someone else was telling me they were pregnant. Although happy for them (really I was) but I was soo jealous of them in the same token.
Plus there was no reason for me to be jealous since I already had a child. I am not pregnant again myself. But yes, It is completely normal to be jealous.
2007-01-03 05:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am the pregnant one whose best friend is super duper jealous. I was hesitant about telling her about my 4th pregnancy as her husband and her have been trying for years to concieve and just found out they have some pretty wicked infertility issues. She is happy for me, but very sad at the same time.
I do not think it makes you a bit**
2007-01-03 05:55:27 · answer #6 · answered by sally h 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I completely identify. I cannot have kids, and I have watched all of my best friends have kids. I get jealous as well. The relationship, well just make sure you pay attention to the bad aspectsof it...It'll convince you that you can wait for one.
2007-01-03 05:55:41 · answer #7 · answered by mzindica 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's perfectly normal. Just don't let it get the better of you. And remember, when she's awake at 2 a.m. with a screaming child, you'll be sleeping soundly :) Take a deep breath and remember that your time will eventually come.
2007-01-03 05:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lynda M ♥ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think as long as you are happy for her and you don't let the jealousy interfere with your friendship it is okay. Sounds like you are on the right path having a shower for her.
2007-01-03 05:58:20 · answer #9 · answered by skeegsboytwo 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
nar i dont think your a biotch as you call it lol, its normal your just asking the way my friends were to me but when your friend has her baby you will be likes its second mum because my best friend is to mine and i bet you will always be there lovin it and helping your friend out
2007-01-03 05:58:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋