Well I met this guy at my local bar, and we started talking and hit it off. Well a couple weeks later he told me that he was married...I was not suprised because he has a good job and good looking...Well he expected to get mad and walk away..But I have still been talking to him and meeting him for drinks occasionally. Well he never calls me, just texts and tells me to call..so it does not show up on the phone bill..Well Saturday he gets drunk and calls me over and over. Well I was out so I did not answer. So his wife checked his phone records and has been calling me and knows where I live and my name. Is there anyway out of this?
2007-01-03 05:42:43 · 25 answers · asked by haleigh b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never talked to her she calls private and hangs up. I do not want to be with him at all. I liked him, but more on the friendly side
2007-01-03 05:52:39 · update #1
Can't you find another friend? Are you that pathetic? Stop answering his calls and text messages.
2007-01-03 06:12:42 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with is wife if she calls you. Ask her if all of you can have dinner to explain that you just met at a local bar. Nothing has happened and you know he is married. Your friendship may be for business contacts or just for drinks. Have him in on the conversation as well. Let her know if she would like to join her husband for drinks you would be glad to hang out with her as well.
Tell her you understand that it may look strange but you are just being social at a bar. If she does not like that then just tell him to leave you alone and not to come back to the places you frequent.
Tell his wife you are going to continue to visit your usual places so as long as that is not where he is, you won't see him. No more Problems!
P.S. Change your cell # and don't give it to him!
If the wife or him still bother you get a protective order so that if they call you or show up they can go to jail!
2007-01-03 05:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haleigh, you're in the dreaded position of being the "other woman." Best possible thing to do is to leave him. Call him and say it's over, cold turkey, no more contact.
What if you continue this thing? Three outcomes are possible. One, he has a change of heart, drops you, and reconciles with his wife. You're left in the cold.
Two, he leaves his wife (or she leaves him) and you two are together. Knowing that he wasn't entirely faithful to you from the beginning (for the same reason he wasn't faithful to his wife), there's slim prospect for happiness. You're in a risky, distrustful relationship.
Three, his wife dumps him, things fizzle between you two, and now a family is wrecked while you're, again, out in the cold.
Just cease in this role. I'm sorry that you got duped into liking a guy you thought was single. That's his fault. If you continue this thing, it will be yours.
As far as telling the wife, she already knows. If you want to tell her anything, tell her you didn't sleep with him, tell her you're changing your numbers, tell her you won't be talking with him anymore.
2007-01-03 07:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Veritatum17 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is calling private, then how do you know it's her? Did she leave a message from the private number. You also said in your additional comments that you only liked him as a friend, well what do you have to hide from his wife? Just tell her that you all were friends. Let her know since this has caused problems between them, you will no longer be his friend. Change your number from there on. She knows where you live? well if she comes to your home, she is trespassing. So, change your number and cut off all contact with him. He is married and like someone else said, chit chat with someone on your level (single).
2007-01-03 10:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is not see him again to include not
talking to him on the phone, the wife will get the message
through your actions. Why in the world did you continue
to see him even after you found out he was married,
that part is your fault. If you want a happy relationship
with a man without any problems then go after the single
ones.
2007-01-03 14:23:48 · answer #5 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mmm. Well my dear, you put yourself in this situation now you have to pull yourself out. That's the price you pay when getting involved with married people. I suggest, since the wife knows your name, your number, where you live, you probably need to tell her how you met her husband. There's pretty much no other way to get out of this because wifey knows to much about you. Your next option is to change your number. Oh just remembered, she knows where you live.
Just tell her that you two are friends and nothing happened between you two (she will not believe it though). Just for future advise, don't get involved with married men because you will be setting yourself up for a lot of drama, lies , headaches and heartaches and sometimes worst situations. Be smarter than that and involve yourself with men on your level (single).
2007-01-03 05:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really... Have you talked to his wife? Have you talked to him about this? You need to move on honey and let the married couple deal with this. What he did to her is wrong and to be honest, you didnt stop it either when you found out he was married, so you really cant play the innocent one with her... Leave them alone and dont meet guys in a bar, not a real trustworthy kinda place
2007-01-03 05:47:29 · answer #7 · answered by slim27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do the wife a big favor and talk to her and tell her the truth!!!! She needs to know how her so called husband has picked up on you and it wasn't your fault he wont leave you alone. The truth may hurt but at least she was warned about his behavior and the guilt of you being a possible home wrecker will be off your shoulders.
2007-01-03 05:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you dug yourself into a little well-deserved hole. Shame on you for continuing to allow him to contact you. This is why the mistress is often blamed for affairs. YOU knew he was married, but you continued to see him as if you were some innocent and clueless participant. The way out of this is to stop seeing this man.
2007-01-03 05:53:45 · answer #9 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes talk to the wife and tell her how you all met ,then tell her that he did not tell you, that he was married and you now have no intrest in this man, if she stil calls you, go and kick her a##.
2007-01-03 05:52:05 · answer #10 · answered by shonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the wife the truth, She needs to know!!! You did nothing wrong if what you said is true.. Just friends right? hopefully then the wife will then focus her frustration on him.
2007-01-04 00:40:50 · answer #11 · answered by DJ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋