My boyfriend is addicted to meth and we have been tring to help him and last night he went to get eggs and never came home.Hes been claen for 3 month as far as I know. and after the last time I told him i couldnt keep being hert. I dont have alot of money and my family leves in another state. any help or seg.please.
2007-01-03 05:35:53 · 12 answers · asked by tina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Seven years is a long time. You have children and still he has not married you. This guy is heavy into himself and his addiction. He cannot provide a good future for either you or your children. He needs to fix himself. You are not in a position to fix or help him. He cannot love you or your children. In his current condition he can only love his drugs and addiction.
You probably have some family that do care about your future and your children. They can and will most likely provide you with some help to get out of the situation. The most important thing for you to do is be truthful about the situation with your family and ask for help.
Do not wait and see. Start a new life with your children today. Be with those who will love and appreciate you and the children. You have already lost 7 years. This could easily turn into another painful 7 or more.
Do not wait or allow him to steal anything more from you. Leave now before he permanently damages your children's childhood or brings HIV home.
2007-01-03 05:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by professionalmuse4u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is, of course a pitty that he is addicted, but you need to put yourself in the first corner and just leave.
The next time e runs away, pack everything you want and move to your family. So what you should do now is to try to save money for the trip, and be as ready as you can. If you only have a few things that you want with you, you should have them ready and packed. Then leave, and _dont_ look back, _dont_ feel guilty!
You should not feel guilty for this, after a couple of months you can reconsider your situation and may bee you can help him.
2007-01-03 05:42:20 · answer #2 · answered by toxisoft 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since I myself am a recovering addict I can honestly tell you that HE must help himself.There is nothing that you can say or do for him that will help him.HE MUST WANT & SEEK OUT HELP FOR HIMSELF.Sorry but that is the COLD HARD FACTS.The best piece of advice I can give to you is TAKE YOUR KIDS,YOUR POSSESSIONS & GET THE H__L OUT OF THERE NOW.That is no place for children to be or grow up in.You are giving them the message that it is OK to do DRUGS, live this lifestyle,and to not GIVE A D--N about other people that are in your life by doing drugs.I'm sorry that you & your children are going thru this,it is not a fun place to be.GET OUT NOW BEFORE SOMETHING HAPPENS THAT YOU WILL REGRET FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE.It is a hard battle to fight but being clean is JUST GREAT.
2007-01-03 06:15:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously he is not clean or he would have came home last night. when a person becomes addicted to meth they normally have to lose everything and hit rock bottom before they realize how badly they have screwed up. You might have to leave him, for him to pull his head out of his butt. its kind of a tough love action but you cant have a active meth addict around. Trust me its for the best
2007-01-03 06:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not help him unless he wants to help himself. By staying with him is making life easier for him and harder for you.
I would suggest moving with a family for awhile until you get yourself together.
Maybe he'll hit rock bottom again and go and stay at a rehab for awhile.
Tell him that's the only way you'll even keep in contact with him, but until then you want nothing to do with him for the sake of your children.
2007-01-03 06:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being selfish and put your kids first. Do you really want to raise them with a drug addict? Just leave. Find a woman's shelter in your area today and just go, they will give you some time to pull your self together, and figure out your next step.
2007-01-03 05:45:07 · answer #6 · answered by Greg D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a phone call to A7E's Intervention, maybe you will be chosen to be on the show and he will get a free intervention.
You cannot stay with this man, he will ruin your children. They deserve far better than his example, and yours as well, you are teaching them to let a man walk all over you while you put up with everything and get nothing but hurt in return.
Kick his butt out!
2007-01-03 05:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex bf was a meth head, he was very scary and oput of control, i can t even imagine if that was my husband, usually i'd say get your kids and run, but will he check himself into an inpatient rehab, dont quit on him, unless he has quit on himself
2007-01-03 06:20:09 · answer #8 · answered by collegechick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can't help or change him, its your responsibility to your kids and to yourself to create a safe environment for them, and not subject them to all this, so u will need to leave this man. time to get out of it, even if u have to go to a shelter, or call family to help u. good luck.
2007-01-03 07:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You staying with this user and accepting what he is doing time and time again is only ENABLING him. LEAVE NOW! Get your children away from him and STAY AWAY until he is clean. You cannot fix him. HE has to want to fix himself!
2007-01-03 05:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by thoughts_in_a_blender 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋