I've been married for a year and a half and we have a 7 month old baby.Things were great until we got married.He has the shortest temper and we started to argue all the time about stupid things but during these arguments he gets violent.Not with me but he throws things and punches walls and once he pushed me.Once he calmes down i try to talk about it and he says that everything is my fault for making him mad.I want to do cuples therapy but he wont go, so i go, but its not the same.Besides all this i dont trust him.He usually comes home on time from work but if he goes anywhere he wont tell me where hes going and if i ask he gets mad and then i start thinking things.Before we started dating he was in a relationship and he cheated all the time.When we met things seemed to have chaged in him but im afriad hes going back to his old ways.My friend suggested that if it would bring peace of mind i should have someone follow him.But its expensive (i guess) and im scared he'll find out.
2007-01-03 05:10:18 · 5 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow honey this is a bad relationship. do you want your child to see this as he/she grows up? i know you say he hasn't hit you or the baby, but do you really want to stay around and wait for that to happen? what if the next time he throws something and it hits the baby? what if he punches the wall and hits it hard enough to go through to the baby? you need to put your childs life first.
if he's not willing to work with you, then you need to leave. i say leave before things get out of hand. i used to be in a relationship similar. we weren't married and i didn't have kids, but we had similar problems. everyone told me to leave, but i wouldn't bc he never hit me. and then he got to a point where he did. and by then i was afraid to leave him. it took some friends "kidnapping" me to get me out of the relationship.
honey i wish you the best of luck. just think of that baby. and of course yourself. but that baby could learn from his behavior. he/she will see what daddy is doing and grow up thinking it's ok to do that.
big hugs to you. wish i knew you, i'd come rescue you and the baby.
2007-01-07 12:20:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this the example that you want your child to see? I would hope not. I think that you need to get out and get on your own as soon as possible. It is a shame that you will have to have this man in your life for the rest of your child's life.
I wish you the best of luck but to me he sounds like the wrong guy for you.
2007-01-06 14:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these guys will follow him for free if you get on the tv show if you want evidence, but I think you have enough data to split from this guy now.
I've never pushed my wife...If I ever did, I would probably leave & have myself arrested
2007-01-06 14:05:23 · answer #3 · answered by Ted Jordan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, leave him, take your kid and get out of that household
2007-01-08 09:30:50 · answer #4 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should leave.
2007-01-06 21:27:30 · answer #5 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋