once a cheater always a cheater.. is that true ?

Answer 1

Not necessarily. Granted, there are those people that are inherent cheaters and will do so any time the opportunity presents itself - it's just their nature.

But there are situations where the person just made a horrible mistake. Circumstances were just such that when the opportunity presented itself, they cheated, but under normal circumstances, they wouldn't.

A study was conducted that explored the reasons for cheating between couples. What they found were distinct things in men and women that if not met could lead to cheating and an affair. What was interesting is these criteria were pertient regardless of cultural background. What's needed by each member in a relationship is below:

For Women ---

1) Affection - not sex, but hugging, cuddling, holding hands, things that make her feel that she's the center of your world.

2) Communication - a partner that will talk to them, or just listen to them when they need an ear.

3) Openness/Honesty - which is the basis for trust on the woman's part.

4) Financial support - a guy that will take care of her.

5) Commitment to the family - a guy that has his priorities right.

For Men-----

1) Admiration - a lady that thinks he and what he does is wonderful.

2) Sexual satisfaction - self explanatory

3) A recreational partner - a lady that will do things with him and play with him

4) Taking care of themselves - a lady that makes an effort to take care of herself, her appearance and such.

5) Harmony in the home - a woman that isn't constantly nagging or creates a peaceful atmosphere in the home.


Now, mind you, I'm not arguing the correctness of the above items, this is just the way men are wired. Also, not all of them have to be present to satisfy the requirements of the individual. For example, I know one lady that is very financially secure and doesn't need any man to take care of her financially, but the other 4 are very applicable to her.

I know one lady that cheated because her husband neglected all 5 of the above criteria, and the thing about it is she's not the type to cheat. Doesn't mean what she did was right, it's jus that things were so bad at home that when someone came along that filled those needs, she succumbed to an affair.

So, to say once a cheater always a cheater depends on the individual. If they're an inherent cheater, then yes. But, if circumstances are such in their life that fostered the basis for an affair, then that does not necessarily mean they'll do it again. I know one guy that cheated, but the circumstances at home were awful. His wife constantly put him down, constantly belittling him and when a lady came by that stroked his ego and made him feel special, he unfortunately cheated. After he did, he was miserable because he knew what he did was wrong.

You must weigh the reasons for the "cheating" based on the nature of the individual and the circumstances surrounding the incident. Under the right circumstances/conditions/stresses, anyone is capable of cheating.

Answer 2

I've read that 98% of the time that yes, once a cheater, always a cheater. There's the 2% that stops cheating, but those are pretty bad odds, and I finally threw in the towel. If faithfulness is important to you, hold tight to that requirement and realize that 1) leopards don't change their spots and 2) you decide where you want to be, who you want to be with and how you deserve to be treated. You can't change/fix another person. All you can do is move on and do what you need to do for you.

Answer 3

Amanda Hello,

I think people who cheat will say that it's not always so. However I think that if someone cheats then it's a moral issue as well as a lack of empathy for their loved ones. Or perhaps they are not capable to really loving someone enough to prefer them?
In the experiance I have in my own family, it seems once a cheater always a cheater.

Answer 4

It's been my experience that it is true, sadly. Although, I'm sure that there is someone out there that only cheated one time, those who cheat just don't take monogamy as seriously as some of us do. If you're allowed to do something wrong and get away with it, why not keep doing it? Unfortunately, many of us who are cheated on, are so sure that no one else will want us, that we keep forgiving the cheater which just gives them permission to keep cheating. Grow a backbone and toss any cheating fool to the curb!!!!

Answer 5

Statistics have shown... Those who casually date before marriage (instead of exclusive dating), are more likely to cheat when married. They get used to the constant change and new relationships. If they cheat while dating... I would assume they would be MUCH more likely to cheat in marriage. There are those who beat the statistics, but based on the 60% divorce rate in America right now.... I would assume its a VERY small percentage of cheaters who never cheat again (probably .001%).

Answer 6

Cheaters tend to keep on being cheaters, true, but they can repent of their sins and turn from their wicked ways and change. The Bible says you can become a new creature in Christ, that means change for the better. (See II Corinthians 5:17).

Answer 7

not necessarily, but it depends: if u cheat once, that makes u a cheater, but it can very well be one, isolated ocasion, for which u r very sorry, u learn your lesson, and u never cheat again. if u cheat several times, chances are u will not just grow out of it...on the other hand it is possible, that u cheated several times on your ex-es, but u will never cheat on the one you`re in a relationship with right now, because u finally found everything u were looking for, therefor, u have no reason to cheat....my conclusion: it mostly depends on the situation, but chances are much higher for a person who has cheated before, to cheat again....

Answer 8

NO, I was a cheater. Then, I found the right one. The thought doesn't evn cross my mind. Except to apologize to the ones that I hurt.

Answer 9

Many people do believe that. I believe a person can mess up in life and never cheat again. Everybody learns from their mistakes. You can"t change the past, but you can change the future. If you are truly sorry for what you done and ask forgiveness,you can stay faithful again.

Answer 10

Nope. People grow up or find everything they need out of another person. People cheat when they aren't getting enough out of the relationship regardless of who is at fault. Most of the time is has something to do with the cheater...and other times the other party is responsible. I think people grow up and eventually learn that the better parts of life come from a strong relationship...and knowing you have someone to share your day to day with.