My husband went skiing with his buddies. He called four days ago and said that he was caught in a snow storm. They had to drive out to another state.
I haven't heard from him. He is scheduled to pick up the kids today. I had no idea where he was. I sent a email saying that I would assume that he is picking up the kids unless I hear otherwise. (His blackberri(sp?) works anywhere and anytime. I get a email back saying. "I am here, in the office and tired. Thanks for asking." Is it me or is he a jerk?
2007-01-03 04:49:36 · 83 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Was he really in a snow storm? If I was you I will check it out.And if he was, yes your being the jerk. After that I think he would be tired too. You shouldn't expect him to pick up the kids. My goodness women your man was trap in a snow storm. Anything couldn't of happen. What if he was driving in a big blizzer came crash down on his car or he was going to be stick more days. And your wired about if he going to pick up the kids. How could you be like that.But on the other hand it sounds like you have some kind of doubt about your husband. If that's the real case here like I said find out if there was a storm.But though all that it was wrong of your husband to go to the office and you had to email him. He should of let you know first were he was. He was wrong. That does make him the bigger jerk. But you sound like you were so worried about if he going to pick up the kids, because you didn't what too.
2007-01-03 05:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first I am completly confused. Do you live together? Because if he is in the Office wouldn't you know if he is back? I would say maybe not a jerk but not very communicative. You both really need to work on that. If he were my husband and he didn't let me know he was back especially since he called and said that they were caught in a snow storm. I would be quite pissed off. He needs to be more aware of your needs and concerns and you both need to communicate better. That is ridiculous. I guess if you were you I also would not assume that he was going to pick up the kids especially since you have not heard from him. I wouldn't have even emailed him to see where he was. Next time if he thinks you should ask how he is he should let you know he is back and safe. Your husbands sounds like a complete moron.
2007-01-03 04:57:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since you guys are married I guess you're having a little bit of problems. Neither of you are being jerks...he got caught in a snowstorm and a lot of his buddies might've been freaking out and on top of that he has to work, although he did get to go skiing! Does that mean he IS picking up the kids? If that means he's not then pick up the kids and then when he comes home ask where the kids are haha, well. okay maybe not that last part?
Maybe he meant it in a different way then he said?
2007-01-03 04:53:37 · answer #3 · answered by Besch 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sure you're going to get lots of answers saying the same thing but ... He's being a jerk.
1) He goes galavanting around without letting you know where he'll be or how to contact him in an emergency (this is a PARENT???). He doesn't need to check in every 10 minutes but he should be able to be reached.
2) You're just trying to get in touch with him to make arrangements for taking care of your children and he gets all snippy and sarchastic? Maybe he should try a little responsible parenting as well as some considerate huband-ing.
3) He didn't seem to think much about whether you would be worried about his well being when he was incommnicado, only when it was convenient for him to try and make YOU the bad guy in this situation.
Stick to your guns. He's being an iresponsible, inconsiderate dick. He had his fun little vacation where he could pretend he had no cares or responsibilities (because you probably had to cover for him). Now it's back to the real world and he's got to get back in the game.
(By the way, this is coming from another guy, if that matters)
2007-01-03 04:57:10 · answer #4 · answered by zen_cop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldn't he contact you to let you know where he was 4 days ago? Although if I were in your shoes, I would have been trying to contact him if I didn't hear from him. I would have been worried something happened if I couldn't reach him. If you did that and he never replied he's a jerk, if you never tried to reach him either, then I would say you both have issues to deal with.
I would also have (since I hadn't heard from him for four days) assumed that I would get the kids. I would rather pick them up and make sure they were safe instead of assuming he'll get to it and leave them stranded (if picking them up from school or something). I have to assume that since you said you are married, he wouldn't be picking them up from your house to visit with them since he lives with them and you. If you are separated (it would explain things a bit) I guess I would assume he was coming to get the kids. If you're not separated, how did he come home and go to work and you not know, unless he went straight to work from the ski trip, but that is still odd. You guys have some issues...........
2007-01-03 05:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let's see: Your husband calls 4 days ago and says he's caught in a snow storm, and never bothers to call you back to say he's safe. You haven't heard from him in 4 days, after being told he's been caught in a snow storm, and you don't bother to find out if he's still alive. Yep, that just about settles it; you're both a couple of jerks.
2007-01-03 05:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is being a jerk. It's entirely possible that he did get stuck in a storm. But that is not an excuse for the way he is acting. If he really and honestly did care, he would have attempted to contact you first- and would not have given you the nasty comment he did about the office. Plus, the contact attempt would have taken place much sooner than it did, and his first priority should have been his family- not his workplace.
2007-01-03 04:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a real "winner" for a husband. How can it be that he couldn't get to a phone in 4 days but gets reception on his blackberry anywhere and anytime? He's full of crap and I would call him out on it. Loose the jerk honey!!
2007-01-03 05:25:14 · answer #8 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a jerk, totally irresponsible and inconsiderate.
This is a boy who never Grew up and lets you do all the worrying. If you do not change your strategy you will find your life unbearable.....
You must make him start taking on some of the burdens and tasks of the house, including the children.
You have to stop doing so much for him and being his mother.......
Take the time for yourself and start getting more involved in activities outside the house, clubs, fitness, girl friends, reading groups.. You need something to give you an outlet for your stress.
You have to demand what you want and take it, or he will sail along leisurely through life and let you do all the worrying.
2007 is time for a change....
2007-01-03 05:21:22 · answer #9 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a jerk. Why would you let your husband disappear for all that time with no explanation. Sounds like he's doesn't respect you enough to call and tell you he is alright and how he is doing. Also, it sounds like he doesn't respect this own children, b/c he did not call you to talk about a previous arrangement regarding them. I would sit down and talk to him. Ask him what's the deal with his disrespecting behavior and the reasons he didn't call. If he finds nothing wrong with the way he acted maybe you should consider separating. No one deserves to put up with a jerk like that.
2007-01-03 04:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋