my best friend is the biggest whore ever.. & ive tried to tell her that whut shes doing is wrong but she dont listen. i even think she has some STD's but she wont admit it. how can i help her or make her realize whut shes doing is wrong.
2007-01-03 04:46:37 · 30 answers · asked by Amanda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
she has a bf whos like 23 ( shes only 15 ) they've been together for like 8 months but like shes dating this other kidd too nn screwing around with one of my friends..
2007-01-03 04:52:02 · update #1
You can't.
She hears you and I'll bet se hears it from many other people as well.
You are her friend, right?
So stay by her side, the more you tell her she's wrong, the more it will push her away and she won't trust her to open up to her.
Remind her how much it hurts you to see her damage and degrade herself like that while at the same time be there for her beause she's going to need it.
She does this to herself because she's insecure and there are probably deeply embedded psychological pains she is trying to cover up that even she doesn't realize.
Trust me, it may take time, years even, but she will get over this and hopefully soon she will see that she is worth more and she deserves more.
She will always need her bestest friend by her side to help her through the tough times, just be there, be her friend and constantly remind her how much she is truly worth and she deserves a man that will treat her with respect.
She needs more people like you to tell her this too.
Be by her side and I promise things will get better eventually.
I KNOW because I used to be her.
She needs you.
2007-01-03 04:57:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i also had a frend who was a whore. i tried to help her become a good person. ( im a very decent gal n im well known for my gud char) bt insted of mendin her ways ,she startd bad mouthin me 2 others. n finally wen her parents caught her havin an immoral relnship she lied 2 em tht I m the one who forcd her 2 hav such a relnship bcos i wantd bcom a whore. i was horrified by this incident.
so wat i wud lyk 2 tell u is tht. if she dusn lisn 2 u. end all relnships wid her. the more u try 2 chng her, the more she will resist.n the more she will hate u. finally wen she gets in2 trubl otha ppl will blame u. so pls quit this frendship b4 ne damage is done.
always remember the saying" u can only take the horse to a water body. u will not b able 2 make it drink the water. the horse can drink the water only if it tries to drink it". similarly, u can only advise her 2 mend her ways. u wont b able 2 make her decent, unless she tries
2007-01-03 13:29:22 · answer #2 · answered by Invisible 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u can drop some pamphlets on the various diseases. or get somebody she trusts, to talk to her. like someone older. maybe u can tell her abt a 'friend' who has one of the diseases and how she has become better after treatment. dun show that what u are saying has anything to do with her. make it seem like u're telling her a story abt ur mom's fren's daughter or something. hope it works out fer u.
2007-01-03 12:51:04 · answer #3 · answered by Smashing Energy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her adult boyfriend can go to jail for statutory rape; does she know that? Unfortunately, if her parents don't put a stop to her destructive behavior, there is not much you can do. As painful as it may sound, you might be better off shutting her out of your life. Best friends listen to each other!
2007-01-03 13:00:47 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's searching for approval and love. She's hurting herself mentally and physically. Let her know that she's loved. Lecturing her isn't getting your point accross but you can let her know that STD's can lead to mis-carriages and sometimes make it impossible to even have a baby in the future.
2007-01-03 12:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Tasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best friend was the same ten years ago - she grew out of it and is married with a baby now. Dont give up on her she needs a positive influence.
2007-01-03 12:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by Carrie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her a brochure on STDs anonymously. If that doesn't work, then I don't know what will...
But it's her life; she has to choose how to live it. Sometimes you gotta let people make mistakes and learn from them. Just hope that she doesn't take it too far.
2007-01-03 12:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There´s really nothing you can do until she accepts that her conduct is unacceptable. Her problem is likely associated with low-self esteem, counseling would be the best advise. For your part just be there for her.
2007-01-03 12:51:25 · answer #8 · answered by Camilo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT you can do is not push her, she going to be who's she going to be, WHAT you need to do is set an example, WHAT she hopefully find out is that things like that won't make her happy, when she's sees that you are happy and you aren't a big slut, she'll wonder WHAT you're doing
2007-01-03 12:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by kristonianinstitution 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be careful because you will get a bad reputation because you hang out with her. You've have done all you can, you are being a good friend.
2007-01-03 13:02:15 · answer #10 · answered by tkdehay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋