I can understand like... whenever I have issues I go to him... but men don't like to reveal their issues with women...
2007-01-03 04:04:32 · 47 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are truely best friends, then he will reveal his problems to a woman...
2007-01-03 04:06:44 · answer #1 · answered by Back in the game... 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are really best friends, he will reveal his issues. Many times the man doesn't reveal things to the woman he is with because maybe she takes what he says personal and gets upset. In that case it is easier for him to hold it in. When partners feel they can't share everything with each other is sometimes where the problem of cheating comes in. A husband or wife may not feel they can confide in their partner, so they confide in other people. This leads to feeling that they are more compatible with the other person and a feeling of closeness develops. A man prefers to share his feelings with his wife, if the wife will listen and be understanding. She needs to use the things he tells her to learn how she can help the relationship grow and become more bonding.
This goes both ways too.
2007-01-03 04:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by PDH 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a long period of time my husband was like that he didn't like to come to me with his problems because he felt like he would be weighing me down with it...It was only just a year ago when he finally started to include me on everything he felt and what was going on with his work.
Most men don't like to do that but if they do they are looking for your support and understanding in the matter. When a husband and wife can come together and talk out all there heartaches and problems that they have then a friendship has grown from there.
Most married couples cannot say that simply because they don't have that kind of thing in there marriage.....What does it mean when a husband and a wife are best friends? It means that both goes through everything together the ups and the downs, the laughter and the pain and just being together and having fun and being able to talk about anything...If you have that then you and him will be best friends for life..
2007-01-03 04:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it takes a lot of time and trust in each other for a man to be able to turn to a woman about anything subject. The thing is that sometimes we are judgemental about the way they express themselve since we are more emotionally sensitive.
I honestly believe that when you marry your best friend you are going to share your life with someone who knows the real you. This person has known you in so many different ways that regardless of your worst quailties they still love you and accept you for who you are. You have a loyal loving friend with whom you have a good communication that is essential in a marriage. You have a loving husband who is supportive financially and emotionally.
I am getting married to my best friend and I know that is the best decision I have made. We have know each other for 9 years now and have been there for each other through several relationship and my rocky marriage.
From that marriage I learned that there are some old fashion virtues need to make a marriage work such as Love, Trust, Communication, Respect, and Honesty. Without these in a marriage it would only be a matter of time before it comes to an end.
Futhermore, I have learned that all good things come to an end...Even Love. We have to go into a relationship/marriage with the idea that the most important thing is to enjoy the love have at that moment for as long as it last and not go into a relationship/marriage with the idea of "Till death." Within time everything changes, so do we and our views and values.
2007-01-03 04:39:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My girl stooped been my friend when she became my girlfriend, and stooped been my girlfriend when she became my wife, so i don't know. I didn't do with my best friends what I did with my girlfriend and I do not do with with my wife what i do with my best friend. I don't like that concept, a husband and a wife are more than best friends they become one. Not all men are the same and not all women are the same. I am completely honest with my wife and she is the first one to know anything that happens to me. She on the other hand, is more quiet and wont speak until I help her to take everything out.
So help him out, nobody is perfect and there is not such a thing as a perfect marriage unless love surpasses all the problems that there could be in a marriage. So love is the right answer.
2007-01-03 04:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am actually reading a really good book about this kind of thing right now and it makes total sense to me!!
I am married and have been with my husband for over six years now! I consider him my best friend absolutely!! And I know he does the same, but at the same time, there are just some things that a man is never going to be comfortable talking to a woman about and a woman is never really going to feel comfortable about talking to a man about!! Thus, why I still think it's ok to have a couple best friends! I'm sorry for those of you who don't agree with me, but I can go to my girlfriends and talk to them about my "female issues", etc., and they unlike my husband will always be able to relate and understand without freaking out!! :-)
So yes, my husband is my best friend, but I still have girlfriends I consider bests!!
Your husband, I'm sure considers you his best friend, but be thankful he might not feel like talking in detail every last detail of the last football game he watched or about every meal he had through the day!! Because I can assure you, he really doesn't care about what your shampoo is doing to your hair!! He will talk to you about what is important and meaningful! I promise!!
2007-01-03 05:00:08 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means a beautiful relationship... If ya' can read the book called "Don't Sweat the small stuff in Love" or buy the audio CD. You will have a better understanding of what this really means. Not all men are like that though, If you feel he is having a problem communicating with you, let him know how you feel, work on it and make him understand your concerns.
2007-01-03 04:19:29 · answer #7 · answered by Suntoosoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just what it is. My husband is my best friend...someone I enjoy doing things with going places with etc. He is my lover, and the father of my children. We tell each other everything. If we have an issue we talk about it and keep it short and sweet and to the point. We never play guessing or mind game with one another. That is what it means when husband and wife are best friends.
2007-01-03 04:43:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that no matter what the issue they are not afraid to discuss it with each other. It means that they only find comfort in each other. That they relay on their on honest opinion. It is a beautiful thing, I can say that my husband is my best friend and I am is. But it did take a while to get to this point
2007-01-03 05:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by Proud Momma of 4mth old Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A guy who is your husband and best friend will reveal issues to you. My husband does. And if not, then you might have communication issues. Confront these issues and express your feelings. If he can not be comfortable around you and have a lack of communication, then you might not really be best friends.
2007-01-03 04:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by pumpkinpie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are over generalizing men. Some men may not like to reveal their issues with women, but not all men.
My husband and I have a very open relationship and yes, we consider each other to be our best friend.
If your husband is not as open with you as you are with him, maybe you could seek out marriage counseling to work on your communication skills.
2007-01-03 04:08:18 · answer #11 · answered by purvislets 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋