spying play with herself but is this even normal p.s i put a stop to it right away
2007-01-03 03:56:13 · 27 answers · asked by steveo 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Hey Steveo you are obsessed by preteens masterbating and spying on each other. Get over yourself.
2007-01-03 04:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My niece was doing the same thing and my sister took her to church counselling not knowing how to handle this problem.
The wrong thing.They told her it was a sin. She shouldn't be exploring her body or even spying on her brother.
It's normal for a curious child to explore what they do not know. It's also healthy to explore ones own body at any age.How else are you going to learn? AS the spying on her brother, I would just tell her that it is not nice to do that.Would she like it if her brother did it to her.
You could do what my mother did with my sisters at an early age. Her got a magazine and sat down with them and explain everything to them How it works and why you shouldn't just let anybody view your treasure.
2007-01-03 05:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience and education in Child Care, this type of activity can be normal. It is how to handle this type of that makes the difference. Curiosity during the teenage years can be helpful or harmful to a child. Boastering and belittling a child when caught in the act can hinder the development. While, on the other hand, talking to the child about how it is wrong in a calm manner and trying to answer questions that child may ask can provide her with a better understanding of what is appropriate behavior.
2007-01-03 04:03:51 · answer #3 · answered by dragon_fireborn_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course its normal, some people wont think so but it is, its normal for for children to be curious about their bodies or the bodies of the opposite sex, especially at that age!! and masturbation is normal also, so why stop her? she is goin to be so embarassed and ashamed is u let her no u saw her!! so please dont do that, that can affect her mentally and sexually when shes older, she would think its wrong and its not...you are invading her privacy as i see it, its not like shes havin sex...
what you should worry about is if shes wanting to get sexual with her brother, but as long as that isnt takin place, everything is ok...
2007-01-03 04:47:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not normal,but many kids do this and are to ashamed to admit it,or there parents are even more ashamed because of the incest part of it.
You should tell her it's not appropriate to spy on someone in the shower,regardless of it is there siblings.
2007-01-03 04:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by hoobzor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi. i guess yer a mom. well, im a 14 year old girl. just dont worry. i know! im 14, && im very sexually active. well not really, but yeah. its fine for that age. not to be rude or anything, but werent you a child when you were that age? well times and years have changed i guess. many children at this age/years are becoming very VERY sexuallly active. not just me. haha, trust me. i also think yer daughter may have a boyfriend. this might be why. shes just maybe wondering wats going on is a boy life. so she could make the relation work out with her man? i know you love yer daughter. && ask her wats going on with her life. have a nice long "non- getting mad" talk.
i think i helped. good luckk?
oh, && her fingering or playing with herself. ahhaha. i do that. its normal. come on "mom" shes growing upp. but, also. i think its kinda wrong. becuzz, were 14. you know. we still have lots of more time for sex. yeah. but as i said. kid these day, like me. are getting very SEXUALLY active. not to scare you or anything.
but just talking to her may help her understand.
2007-01-03 04:06:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is normal for her and him both to be curious but make sure she knows it isn't wrong for her to be curious but it isn't right to touch herself in that way towards her brother. That looking at another even family in that way is wrong and was made for marriage and she should not do it. If it continues you might want to get some counseling for them. More might be going on then what you know.
2007-01-03 04:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normarl at that age, she is feeling new things and maybe curious if opposite sex pass through this too. My advice to you is to talk to her about sexe how it is important when we do it in a right way and timing and with the right person. Just talk to her as a friend.
2007-01-03 04:50:49 · answer #8 · answered by GK 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, its normal...kids are curious. At 13 she is trying to figure out what all the fuss is about...she is starting to have some sexual feelings and the kids at school are all talking about it. Gently explain to her that its ok to be curious, but privacy is important and that you understand what she is going through as her body prepares for adult sexuality.
2007-01-03 04:00:57 · answer #9 · answered by RedVengeance 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it is normal. Girls and boys at that age are becoming more and more curious about the opposite sex and their organs.
However, catching your daughter and indicating to her that you caught her could be extremely traumatic. My suggestion to you would to be not to mention that you caught her at all if you haven't mentioned it.
Kids at this age feel that sexual exploration such as masturbation is wrong for some reason. Indicating to her that this was wrong would only validate the guilty feelings that she is experiencing at this stage in her life.
I'd suggest making a call to a child psychologist for the best approach to this situation.
2007-01-03 03:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by degendave99 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋