how to really know if my husband is still sleeping with his babymother, she say they are but they say he's not he just talk to her because he has a child with her and he has to deal with her. when it come down to that, i really want to know why would say say all the time she is still sleeping with him is she really that crazy?
2007-01-03 03:43:00 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you trust him? That's what it comes down to. If you trust him and believe in him, then I wouldn't worry about the drama she is trying to cause. But if he is not trustworthy, then I would tend to believe her.
2007-01-03 03:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are going through this... I have been there. My ex (boyfriend, as wew ere not married) slept with his ex wife/babies mama repeatedly from the moment we started seeing each other... here are some signs I noticed you may also become aware of;
He never spoke to her on the phone in front of me, she would call and then he would magically need to go get a pop or gas, whatever.
he took these trips frequently, and then when i questioned him he would say...I had to check on my kids who by the way were 12 and 15 years old...
He painted his daughters room like 3 times...he always had one more wall to do...
He would claim his ex was ill, and he needed to be there for her in case something went wrong...and i was wrong to get up set that he would use our time to talk to her on the phone and he would drop everything to do as she asked. BTW, she was perfectly healthy...
he never left his phone down where i could get ahold of it...not that i would have looked, but he wasn't about to take that chance...
N E way, I knew the whole time...couldn't prove it, until she confronted us both in person...my point, if you really feel this is happening, it probably is...if you have a doubt...think twice before you end it.
one more thing...some women will make up anything just to get what they want...she may just be that crazy!!!
2007-01-03 12:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by ladyjno7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you have to look at past history is the ex a vindictive type that can not let go then she might be trying to spoil your relationship him. If they are friendly and just recently divorce then maybe there is something going on. If he shares with you the issues and doesn't hide things from you then take his word until proven otherwise. Communications is the key to any relationship talk to him before believing others including ex's.
2007-01-03 12:50:06 · answer #3 · answered by chancesare45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a "babymother"?????
From just the information posted, I'd say he is but it's possible she is just trying to create a crack in the relationship to make it possible to wedge herself between the two of you.
2007-01-03 12:15:24 · answer #4 · answered by Phil #3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably still has feelings for him and is trying to get you upset, if you trust him and he says he's not leave it at that or you'll go crazy if theres no reason to believe he's sleeping with her leave it alone or he may end up doing it just because everyone is saying he is anyway, men are weird like that, he may not be sleeping with her, but if people go on and on and accuse him of it he may end up saying fine i might as well since everyone thinks i am anyways, so let it go unless you have reason o believe and just trust him, he may no be doing anything wrong she's just trying to get you upset.
2007-01-03 11:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Nita and Michael 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, women like you think or he has you believing he (your husband) has to deal with her because they have children or a child together. Not true. If your married to this man now. You need to put your foot down, today. If you got this women telling you every time you see her she sleeping with your husband, that's not a good thing. Because she could be telling the truth. You need to put your husband to the test, today. You tell him with a strong voice. We are going to family court. And your going to get legal rights and we need a middle person for he and you don't see his ex, because you tell the courts she always trying to fight with you telling you lies. You or your husband don't have to
see her. And also put a re-satining order on her. Forget what your husband says. Do it. He might use the child in the middle issue. And trust me it's not. He just might be sleeping with her.Some women what the other women to know she sleeping with YOUR man. There are crazy women like that.You need to put your foot down, like I said, today. Can you see yourself living like this for the next 20yrs of your life with this crazy women, because your husband has a child with her? You need to do something.And if you think your husband is sleeping with her. Girl you need to play I spy. or hiring someone.
2007-01-03 13:29:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be that crazy but the bottom line is whether your husband is trustworthy or not......and only you can answer that.
I think if I was worried about what he's doing with her I couldn't stay married to him....there's would be no trust.
2007-01-03 12:05:11 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Virtually ALL divorced people continue to have sex, to some degree. Some all of the time. Some only once a month or so.
Live with it !!
2007-01-03 13:23:04 · answer #8 · answered by Pat R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive her...unless they both really hate each other and can't stand one another then she's only doing it to piss you off...But if they have a friendship and are coo with each other i'm pretty sure they have or well soon
2007-01-03 11:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by ?Whiskey Girl? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be jealous and trying to break up your relationship...If he was in love with her or wanted to be with her he would still be.
2007-01-03 12:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by Rhonda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋