I am in a relationship .. 3 yrs relationship. i met him online then i met him real, we saw and shared each other for 5 days in life, he is my first love... now he is 27 yrs old and i am 21yrs.. i had sex when i was 19 may be i wasnt matured though to think about life whatever but still i love him a lot. the problem is we are indians we follow culture and tradition. my family wont accept this relationship because he is not highly or professionaly qualified and he do not have permanent job but still he earn his income to live.. he is ok.. now his parents started to think abt this marriage and he is getting so many proposals he asked me should i marry other girl or not and my answer was Follow your heart.. you decide with whom do u want to live with.. he needs to marry a girl in U.S. i am not a nurse so i cant earn money like a nurse. His parents are interested in him to marry a nurse that they prefer, i still love him but how we gonna live if i marry him? family will be against this..
2007-01-03 03:42:35 · 7 answers · asked by ann m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i am an indian girl, i am studying now... unfortunately when i was 19 i had sex with him i feel i am a big fool to do it but those days i was so innocent.. i cant live without him tell me what i have to do friends... is he interested in other marriage? wht should i do? i was a virign..
2007-01-03 03:44:44 · update #1
HE LIVES IN USA SO HE WANTS TO MARRY A NURSE AND I LIVE IN INDIA I AM NOT A NURSE TOO
2007-01-03 03:51:38 · update #2
I personally think marriage should be a commitment of love. With that said, I wouldn't advise either one of you to rush into marriage with each other or separately. You said you'd been together for 3 years, but you also said you were only together in person for 5 days. Is it possible to spend more time together in person (or did I read that wrong). I can't speak for you the importance of family nor do I completely understand the boundaries set by your culture. I can say though that my parents didn't like my boyfriend...years later they think he's a wonderful husband to me and father to our son. Of course, my culture doesn't assume that I will marry someone within a particular class, so I can't be too helpful from that perspective. I wish you the best.
2007-01-03 03:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are worried that your culture will not be pleased that you are no longer a virgin........ Honestly unless you have told someone only a doctor would know, it is not something that any man could be able to tell. I think you feel so angry with yourself for giving a part of you to him and he is not respecting you or your body. I think you should do your best to move on. I am not truly convinced that you love this man I think you lust over him because you gave him that special part of you already. It is not worth upsetting your entire family to be with this horrible man who has another woman on his mind. I can't believe that you even think that is okay. You should know that I don't even know you and I respect you enough to tell you the truth.
I am sure you are a beautiful intelligent woman with many choices in India,. If you do not like it there then please feel free to move, but do it for yourself and not for a man. If you move the America who knows you may find love where you least expect it.
Best of Luck to you!! Move on and forgive your self as God forgives. Do not look back just move forward with your life.
2007-01-03 05:29:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is okay for people to have their own expectations. If you do not meet his then he should find another wife. While he should marry you since he had sex with you, he is in America. That's what Americans do. They have sex and don't think about the consequences. I hope that your parents will help you find a good husband. Best wishes.
2007-01-03 05:38:14 · answer #3 · answered by Honesty given here! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he's willing to wait until you've finished studying. Once you're done studying, you'll be set, right? You'll be a nurse, he'll be looking to marry a nurse, sounds perfect. A little patience could solve everything. But if he won't wait, you may have to let him go.
2007-01-03 04:55:22 · answer #4 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone in the US just to get citizenship is against the law.
2007-01-03 03:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are out of luck. You tell him how you feel. If he still marries someone else I don't know what else there is for you to do.
Sorry.
2007-01-03 03:54:36 · answer #6 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋