Ok weird situation. We're both in the military. We went threw all our training together but we were really never that cool. We've known eachother for over a year. We come to our duty station and pretty much become bestfriends becasue we've known eachother for so long. We have now been here for over 6 months and we still hangout everyday. We dont have phones but we live down the hall from eachother. I was never really into her before until we came here and i got to know her more. We are always together people think we are dating but we're "just friends" we go out every weekend with friends and every morning she comes to my room and wakes me up. We tell eachother everything...Crushes and stuff. We dance at clubs and for new years i was her first kiss but it was on the cheek. and she could def. have her pick of any guy she wants becasues shes surrounded by guys and there arnt too many girls at all...so confused i need some help because now i have a crush on her.
2007-01-03 03:38:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
actually you have the best of it all, as friendship is the single and most important thing in any loving relationship. It is the seed from which love grows which seems to be happening in your case. I would tell her that you love her company, think she's brilliant, and that you are starting to think that she is just about the most brilliant girl in the world! I'd use words like that (don't use the term love or a crush, it's a bit heavy). She will be flattered and she will see that your feelings for her are growing ... she may respond in kind. But she won't be scared off by you being too heavy on her as the words you are using are flattering but aren't forcing her into a corner.
You are very lucky to have a girl like this, and her to have you. Believe me, being best friends is the SINGLE most important thing ever in any relationship.
2007-01-03 03:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by gorgeousfluffpot 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. dudeman. breathe.
2. okay. you already have a strong and trusting friendship, and that is the first step. additionally, you have acknowledged that, being in the military, she is surrounded by guys and could have whoever she wanted-- but she is around you all the time! you have plenty of chances, so i would say make the move. it doesn't have to be a huge extravagant gesture. talk to her about your feelings next time you chat, something.
of course there is a risk of rejection, which may scare you off. but if you make the move and she doesn't reciprocate, i don't think you will regret it, because at least you tried. since you are such good friends i think you will be able to move past any potential awkwardness that ensues and you will still have her in your life. and hey-- for all you know, she feels the same way and is just too shy so she's waiting for you. go for it!
3. good luck. don't worry too much. : )
2007-01-03 03:46:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful of the "In Love" bug. It creeps up on you and takes your heart someplace unexpected. You lose rational common sense thought and than panic sets in.
keep it as friends, in fact you talk so much about crushes why not ask her how she'd feel or what you guys would do together if you where dating each other............a hypothetical.
See what happens. But, make sure she brings more to your life than just a simple "I'm in Love", that tends to wear off after a while and hopefully what is true in the relationship (friends) now (friends and lovers) is still there.
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2007-01-03 05:02:57 · answer #3 · answered by NoAnswers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the way most people start off silly! Either not really liking each other or friends. Being best friends is the best though! You can hang out with each other and make out later....all in one day and it's great! If she hasn't made any moves, just chill and wait for the right moment. Is she has made it pretty clear that she wants you, take it further. Give her a hug or kiss and see what it leads to. Most importantly, don't let this ruin your friendship. But have fun!
2007-01-03 03:44:58 · answer #4 · answered by Tulip 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Friendship is a wonderful way of starting a relationship. Women love the attention that a male friend devotes to them and easily fall in love (or in like) with a guy who fell in love with them first.
One thing that women don't like is being put in "competition" with other women. E.g. when you tell her about other crushes or if you chose to give other women the same level of attention to desguise the fact that you're interested in her.
I'd start by giving her a level of attention that is just a notch above what you've been giving recently, and way above the level of attention you give to other female friends you might have. If she's not into you, she will probably grow a little colder. But for what you're telling, chances are she likes you too.
And if she says no, remember that she can always change her mind and start liking you after she knows you like her (just a possibility).
2007-01-03 07:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by december_changes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls want to be swept off their feet dude! Go for it.... It's the only way you'll know where u stand. But do it quickly before she stops waitin and finds someone else!!! Take a chance - could be the best thing u ever do
2007-01-03 08:54:32 · answer #6 · answered by TheDovic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm my ultimate friends convinced, yet even even with the indisputable fact that i like the girls I draw close out with, I wouldn't totally have confidence them. It sounds terrible yet i understand for a actuality that they now and lower back gossip approximately one yet another. the two way is say I even have some friends who're the two common climate friends and a few who're like sisters to me.
2016-12-15 08:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry my friend but u r just a friend and if u tell her how u feel shes going to dog u and every1 in ur hall is going to know but if u decide to do it, stand by ur decision in front of critisism and u might see some other hottie come along. just avoid looking uncool and that incldes lying about ur decision and cutting her down after she makes u look like this. either way take it like a laidbackman
2007-01-03 03:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can do is talk to her about it. Why not tell her that someone thought you were a couple and ask her what she thinks about it. That way if she looks horrified you can laugh it off, agree with her and your friendship won't be ruined. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 03:43:51 · answer #9 · answered by jan the gooner 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how u feel. If u have the reltionship u say u do then chances are she may like u too!Just go for it and tell her!
Hoping for the best!
2007-01-03 03:45:24 · answer #10 · answered by Kittyintx 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋