My wife is seeing a therapist but I get the feeling that my wife isn't telling the therapist the things she is embarrassed about (like she hasn't wanted sex in two years, she has been fired from jobs for anger, etc.) so the therapist isn't working on what are the real issues. My wife is very social and is able to make friends with anybody, but she has some real anger issues and only lashes out at the people who can't really leave (such as family).
I really want to talk to her therapist but I know it is probably wrong!
2007-01-03 03:29:23 · 21 answers · asked by parkdad73 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If your wife's therapist is interested in keeping her job they will refuse to talk to you about their confidential sessions.
2007-01-03 03:31:16 · answer #1 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Actually I'm a bit surprised that her therapist has not interviewed you. This is customary as the home life is important to the situation. If it has been more than a couple visits and the therapist has not talked to her about interviewing some of her family make sure she asks them why. Do not expect to get any information back .
Is it wrong, no, it is a part of a diagnosis.
Remember her therapy is HER therapy. If she is in individual therapy, not couples, the therapist is not really concerned with you nor should be. They often interview the family to find out for themselves the prevailing opinion operating around the patient.
Then they can help pinpoint issues which the patient needs to resolve. Often, one is dealing with those families opinions.
2007-01-03 03:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't know what your wife is telling her therapist, and to ask your therapist about your wife's problem might not get you anywhere. There is a thing called patient, Dr. confidentiality. Maybe you might suggest to the Therapist that you go to a session to discuss problems between you and your wife. Maybe your wife's problems stem way back before you were even with her. These are things the therapist needs to help her deal with first.
2007-01-03 03:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right yes it is wrong to do that since your therapist and wife have a confidentiality agreement. The only way to get her to talk about the REAL issues if for you two to see a therapist together. That way you know that she can get the help that she needs. Im glad to see that you are concerned about your wife and are trying to help her! Good for you!
2007-01-03 03:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an appointment with her therapist, and rely your feelings, and request that you would like the marriage cousenling as a couple to work on issues on your and your wife part, and It is not wrong to seek professional help. The therapist would be helpful of all the issues you both have. Go for it.
2007-01-03 03:34:25 · answer #5 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her therapist has a client/Dr privilege that has to be upheld. He/She can't share anything about their sessions with you. It might also be a conflict of interest for you to see her therapist as a patient/client. Even if it wasn't a violation of trust between you and your wife for you to talk to her therapist without her permission, the therapist can't tell you anything. Something you CAN do is ask your wife if she would be open to having you come sit in on one of her sessions. If she is open to this, you may be able to get some insight and might even be asked to offer input. This would be the only acceptable solution.
2007-01-03 03:36:27 · answer #6 · answered by PDH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her therapist would not and should not discuss your wife's session with you, as a health provider, the therapist is bound by patient confidentiality laws.
If you are serious about helping your wife, why don't you join her for a couple's therapy session and work things out together?
2007-01-03 03:33:07 · answer #7 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could you talk to your wife about going with her to therapy? There are a lot of confidentiality issues in your talking to the therapist without your wife being there.
2007-01-03 03:33:43 · answer #8 · answered by cldb730 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really a moot question since no reputable therapist would talk to you about your wife unless you were participating in couple's therapy. Doctor/ patient confidentiality would prohibit this.
2007-01-03 03:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by arkiemom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you definitely have the best of intentions, but unfortunately, even if you share your concerns with her therapist, it is likely that the doctor will not bring up these issues or provoke their discussion unless your wife does so first.
i know that you said your wife sometimes lashes out, so you may not be inclined to do this, but really the only way to bring this to light is to persuade her to talk about this herself.
2007-01-03 03:33:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋