baby mother?

Question

my husband baby mother use his son as a way to get what she want from him, and he fall for it what can i do she told me she does nor respect our married, but she still say he's sleeping with her even though we are now married, why don't she leave us alone.

Answer 1

Oh the dreaded baby momma drama....

Honey, I feel your pain. There is nothing like a scorned woman to make your married life a living hell.

First, you and your husband need to talk about the situation. The problem is not the child, but the mother, and since she insists on intruding on your marriage, then maybe he needs to set some boudaries. She will not quit, unless he addresses the problem.

Now for the third thing, the cheating accusations: Now this may or MAY NOT be true. However, I think you need to lay this out on the table if you feel there is any proof that your husband maybe sleeping with her. It is possible. It could explain alot of her crazy behavior. But this is only if you think he is cheating...

This situation will not change until your husband let's her know that you are the number one woman in his life, and though, he loves his child, and nothing will ever change that, he still has obligations to you as his wife.
Until, he sets her straight. She will continue to do what she's been doing....because she knows she can disrespect you and get away with it.

Answer 2

I tottaly agree with the last answer you recieved. I am too going thru the same thing with my husband, except for it's not the wife that I'm dealing with up close and personal, it's the kids. I think that the kids bad and rude behavior is stemming from the negative comments that the ex-wife is telling them or hearing her say. The old battle ex is just as bitter as a lemon but it's her own fault. I'm sorry they didn't work out, sh*t it ain't my fault. Know that our new baby is here, instead of keeping her kids away from him, now she rushing to drop them off. I don't mind her kids but why the change all of the sudden? My husband allows the kids not to speak to me when they walk in our house, that is foul. But, he'll understand when I say I want a divorce. You see, some men allow the ex's to have control over them with the kids. The man needs to step up his game and get all this sh%t right. The bottom line is that the ex wife don't wanna be married to him and she don't want nobody else to be married to the sorry sob either. And thats the way I see it.

Answer 3

It's up to your husband to lay down the law. If he lets her get away with this crap then you should sit him down and have a chat regarding boundaries. You are stuck with his baggage so it's up to him to put her in her place and not allow her to disrespect you, your marriage or interfere in your lives in any way.
You have to consider also letting him know that you had enough of this and if the situation continues you might want a divorce, let them have each other, while you are still able to start fresh somewhere else.

Answer 4

YOU NEED TO CHECK HIM ON THAT SET I TUP TO WHERE THEY EXCHANGE THE CHILD IN THE PRESENT OF YOU AND PUT HER TO THE TEST TAKE ALL OF HIS DRAWS AND PUT YOUR NAME ON THEM IF HE BECOME OFFENDED THEN HE MAY BE GUILTY, OR TELL HER THE NEXT TIME SHE MENTION IT TELL HER TO GO GET CHECKED BECAUSE HE HAS CLAMITIA AND YOU HAVE IT TO DON'T TELL HIM WHAT YOUR GOING TO DO AND SEE IF HE MENTION IT TO YOU. THAT WAY YOU WILL KNOW IF SOME THING FISHY IS GOING ON BETWEEN THEM.