She doesn't want it at all anymore shes 9months along and is extra uncomfortable, he haven't had sex for a few months and I'm not a pig or nothin but I'm goin crazy, I'm not the type of guy to cheat especially while shes pregnant, am I wrong for doing it? Should I just wait til she can do it again?
2007-01-03 03:12:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Good question. While the Bible does not mention masterbation by name (did the word even exist then?), it certainly does mention lust as a sin TIME and TIME and TIME again. Jesus told us it was a sin of adultry to lust after another person. Masterbation requires lust. Masterbation increases lust. Masterbation is the physical act of the internal lust in the actor. I think both actions are pretty clearly covered by the Holy Bible.
By masterbating, you are telling your partner that her worth is in her abilty to pleasure you...and that is all. If she cannot do that, you will find that pleasure elsewhere. Thus, sex between you two has warped from having been an act of love and mutual self-giving, to becoming an act of seeking self-pleasure (i.e. lust). It is totally possible to experience the sin of lust even with your own wife! If you are seeing her as a means to an end (namely, sexual pleasure) rather than the end it in itself (namely, to be loved in the act of sexual intercourse) then you are USING her.
Your heart has told you something was wrong with this desire to masterbate. That is why you are here on Yahoo! Q&A asking this question. But you can pray about this desire. Give it to God. He knows your heart and all of your desires. He will help you to overcome any disordered desires and He will help you to the man you were meant to be for your wife (and yourself!).
Thanks for reading and God bless!
2007-01-03 04:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is absoloutely nothing wrong with masterbating instead of pressuring your wife into sex when she just isnt up for it. I am 9 months pregnant myself, and I have to tell you, it irritates me when every night we go to bed and my husband wants it. To me, i've told him im just not up for it, i feel crappy, i'm tired, uncomfortable etc, and I just feel like he doesnt get what I'm telling him. I actually feel like less of a woman BECAUSE he constantly asks and I say no. I know he masterbates, and that's fine by me. The only problem I think your wife may have is if you are using pornograpy to help you along. That would definatly not go over well with me and my values.
2007-01-05 14:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jelly Beanz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. I remember when I was 9 months pregnant that sex was very uncomfortable.
If she is not willing or able to have sex, then I don't see any reason why you shouldn't be able to masturbate. But, to be on the safe side, just ask.
It may seem weird, but let her know how you're feeling and tell her that you don't want to upset her in any way. My husband and I went through this toward the beginning of my pregnancy. He was scared to have sex at all, but I let him know that it was ok. Towards the end I didn't want him anywhere near me!
Honesty is always the best policy.
2007-01-03 03:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by purvislets 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
sure, i in my opinion think of it somewhat is incorrect. back, in my opinion, i could be disillusioned with my husband if he did that with the aid of fact he's using somebody else to teach him on. Plus, some human beings surely strengthen an dependancy to this. Your pregnant spouse desires you genuine now. She in all probability already feels huge and disgusting, even however she is optimal carrying your infant. many situations, interior the 1st trimester, pregnant ladies are getting used to their changing bodies and don't experience very alluring b/c of each and every of the hormones of their bodies. the final element she desires is to initiate thinking which you do no longer locate her alluring. i could communicate on your spouse relating to the style you're feelling. tell her which you think of she's perfect and alluring, regardless of her new physique. tell her which you have the desire to make like to her, distinctly now this is she's pregnant with your infant. Ask her to make you come while she fondles you, or have intercourse with you. If she nonetheless refuses, tell her which you may want to speak on line to acheive sexual satisfaction. If she's happy with it, then your interior the sparkling. Who is conscious, in case you tell her sufficient that she is alluring and perfect, her intercourse stress only ought to improve. as quickly as into the 2nd trimester, ladies tend to get their intercourse stress back, so it only could take somewhat waiting. you're no longer poor, many couples have a no longer common time dealing with sexual family members during being pregnant. Take care and good success.
2016-11-26 00:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...the fact that you are even asking this scares me as far as your relationship goes. I have not had sex with my husband in months...haha...maybe twice since I have been preggers, and we found out in Sept. Poor guy!!! However...even if I was not preggers and was having sex with my husband, I would not mind if he masturbated!! I used to do it before I got pregnant. There is nothing wrong with masturbating in any situation. Thank you god you are not one to cheat. I know my husband is not one to cheat no matter what is going on in the relationship.
You should feel comfortable enough to talk with her about it, and maybe even masturbate with her help. There are other things you can do besides having sex!!! I know I have had to become creative bc I just dont want to have sex at all...but I want my hubby to get his!! I watch porn with him and help him in anyway I can!!
2007-01-03 05:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its completely understandable. if shes uncomfortable and cant seem to get in the mood to have sex. then if you masterbate. its a hell of a lot better than going out with some other girl which is harmful to her and you (stds ect) if i was a guy and my wife/gf was pregnant and i couldnt get it out of my system i would do the exact same thing. (but im on the other side, im the pregnant one in real life LOL)
2007-01-03 04:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She might be to uncomfortable for traditional sex, but why not suggest something like mutual masterbation or oral sex
(you do her, then she does you). I didn't feel like sex in the traditional sense when I was nine months pregnant but an
orgasm from other means sure felt wonderful. I bet your wife would feel that way to. Talk to her.
2007-01-03 03:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by txharleygirl1 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think its is normal. My advice though would be do it, just don't let her know you are. She might feel less of a women because she can't satisfy you right now. I would be happy if I was in her situation and my man wasn't asking for sex. It is really uncomfortable them last weeks. Just be there for her support, love, and make her feel good about herself. You are not wrong. Good luck to you and congrats on the baby!
2007-01-03 03:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sari 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm pregnant and my husband does it, there is nothing wrong with it. I mean she would probably rather have you masturbate instead of making her do it as she is soo uncomfortable. That's my opinion, as long as it is his hand then all is good♥
2007-01-03 04:11:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥USMCwife♥ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally i don't think there is anything wrong with masterbating any time. Under these circumstances, it's especially understandble. Keep it private, and don't worry about it. It's not like you're cheating.
2007-01-03 03:17:25 · answer #10 · answered by tabithap 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋