Should men help out at home if both work?

Question

Is it Fair to say that men dont need to help there love one, in cleaning, cooking, or washing. If Both work why is that one has to do more than the other, why cant it be a partnership, 50/50, or out of love. I know nobody really like's to clean but it all has to be done. so why not get help from the person tht you are with. Plus if you have kids that would put more on your plate, so I think it is fair that you have 2 people better than 1. Please leave a Opinon about this subject.

Answer 1

They should totally help out. Your husband has as much responsibility with that household as you do. Put your foot down girl, you should be doing it together. It is not all on you because you are the Woman!!!! I stay home with our 2 kids and I work part time. My husband goes to work full time, but you can bet when I come home from work the house is going to look just as good as when he walks in the door. He respects me like that. I think my husband knows it would stress me out to have to come home from working and then need to clean up after he and the kids. I leave the house the way I would like him to leave it too.

Answer 2

Yes, both should help out. I don't know what I'd do if my husband never helped...of course, the house would be messy and dinners always quick and easy (aka boring). I'm lucky though because messes seem to bother my husband more than me. He likes things neat and tidy, while I like them clean and germ free...so together it works out pretty well. I've heard though that you shouldn't focus on the 50/50 thing. Both partners should be trying to give 100 percent...plus, you may think your husband does 0 and he may THINK he contributes more like 30-40 percent. No matter what it'd be nice if each spouse were giving 100 percent of themself to the family (ie cleaning, cooking, working to pay the bills, spending time with the kids, etc.) Speaking of which, I better get off the computer and finish the laundry ;-) Good luck!!!

Answer 3

I firmly believe that the guy should help out around the house if both people are working, and this includes with the kids and cooking. Marriage to me should be a partnership, not a woman working all day and night so that her husband has a comfortable life. If I met a guy and he was unwilling to do his fair share, I"d leave him, because despite whatever feelings, and despite the added income, I'd be miserable and have twice as much work to do as I would if I were alone. Luckily I live in this day in age in Canada so the majority of guys out there respect the fact that this isn't the fifties anymore and are willing to do their part. If he truly loves you, he respects you, which means he respects the fact that you aren't a slave. So YES guys should help out, no questions about that whatsoever.

Answer 4

Absolutely not! I am a married women with children and I work 40 to 50 hours per week there is no way I would ever let my husband cook, clean, or do laundry. My husband who also works has his own chores which consist of fixing things around the house cutting the grass, and shoveling the snow. Just because a women works doesn't mean that she should have her man take over her responsibilities. Cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and take care of the kids is women's work and that is the way it should be. If a women takes care of her home properly then she wouldn't need a man to assist her in taking care of her home.

Answer 5

Please remember that is not just cleaning, cooking and washing. It's also yard work, car maintenance, home projects! Are you 50% helping in those areas? Yes you both have a 50/50 thing into this. But also keep in mind this is your loved one and both partners should be negotiable. Also my idea of clean is more intense than my husbands idea of clean, but on the other hand, he spends a lot of time worrying about the cars. I hope you and him can come to some guidelines.

Answer 6

Right now my boyfriend is the only one working, but he still helps out when he's not too tired or sore. He'll cook dinner, take out the trash, even empty the litter box. Our agreement is basically that he takes care of the outside work, ie lawn, snow shoveling, while I take care of the inside work. But he goes above and beyond when he helps me with the stuff I really don't like to do. I think for us it's more than a 50/50 partnership, but an "I love you enough to do this for you, and I don't expect anything back for it", even though it all comes out fairly even in the end.

Answer 7

Just to let you know some men do help with the house, my husband will always help me & the kids especially on the weekends, it has never been a one way deal. I have been married over 13 years & it has to be a partnership , if it aint you will have problems in the long haul. I understand my sister in law had that problem with her man , he felt he was the MAN quote un quote & we told him that we both cook & clean grocery shop & share laundry duties & guess what next day his sister & us woke up & he man was vaccuming , we thought it was cute . Some men just need to realize u can still be a man & do what needs done . Me I have to have a man who will do 50/50 bcuz i aint playing momma . There is a difference in being momma & wife/mate

Answer 8

i am a stay at home mom so when my hubby comes home at end of day the place is clean and everything is done. he is a great dad and helps out with the kids. however, if i was going to work everyday, i would think it would only be fair for both people to take care of the home. 50/50

Answer 9

I am a divorced mom and I have two boys. Their father NEVER helped me and we both worked and such. They got into the habit of not helping me either. I changed that very fast! Yes I do believe that if there is a significant other....they should help. I now have a Fiance we work two completly different schedules....when he gets off early....he helps me with supper or has it made by the time I can even think of what I am going to make. I have all of my weekends off and thats when laundry is done but during the week he will lighten my load by doing a couple if he gets off earlier than I do.....it should be that way....whether its on the females side or the males.

Answer 10

I definately think that the kids should help their mother! ...

I think that men should help with the housework, shopping, etc.. the problem comes when you try to define what needs to be done and what is work that the woman has volunteered to do. <*GriN* ignore that part Sweetie!>...

but then again.. while I'm in the "dog house" I don't have to do much work.. just cooking...

OK, I better go back to the Math & Science, Spirituality and Religion categories before I have to build a new dog house to live in.