I was just wondering cause it seems when I am really happy woman try to invade it and make me less confident and keep trying to make me insecure or jelous, and when i get upset and insecure beaten down its like there job is over she now can be happy like she did her job or try to rule over me. Then do it again if I am happy. What is this?
2007-01-03 02:59:48 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
To answer your question. I say "Absolutely Not" that would be very cruel and immature. However, reading between the lines and having lived through a lot for a lot of years, "I know what you are talking about." I don't think it is just with women though but maybe more so with them.For instance, I am a christian and I tend to have a grateful non complaining attitude, a lady friend of mine on the other hand is somewhat opposite. She finds fault, complains,resents and I know she wants so badly to get me in the frame of mind she is in and I am determined that I don't want any part of some conversation that is not going to leave me feeling good. I want to be happy,even if I have to fake it once in awhile.This same person has called me a prude in front of others when I refused to look at a nasty cartoon being passed around the Bowling Alley. So you are on to the game they play !!Its like a challenge to bring you down to their level and they are like jealous of your happy carefree personality. Am I right here ?? Stay clear of people like that, you and I neither one need that nonsense messing with our minds Keep smiling, its contagious.
2007-01-03 10:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jill ❤'s U.S.A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Insecurity, mostly, and in a lot of cases, poor self-esteem. Our culture has placed so much emphasis on a woman's ability to get and keep a man that some women are programmed to think that they should stay with a man if they've got him, no matter the cost. Their worth is defined by their partnered status, so they assume that putting up with abusive (physically, mentally, or emotionally) behavior from a partner is a type of compromise that they have to be willing to make. It's sad and upsetting. Perhaps if our culture at large shifted to a manner of thinking that did NOT insist that women are incomplete without a romantic partnership (horrible women's magazines like Cosmo and shows like "Sex and the City" included), these issues would not be so difficult for women to grapple with.
2016-03-29 05:57:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's just stupid. Do you have any idea how hard most women work to make a man happy - even giving up what's important to them?
Believe me, if any control is tried, it's usually the guy. He tries to control her by any means he can - cheating, withholding affection or money, physical force, emotional abuse, whatever.
Perhaps you've never seen a woman starve herself because her guy told her that her butt was a little big or that some other woman looked good. What is that if not trying to manipulate?
Control and manipulation are a both-gender problem with SOME people, but women in general want very much to make their man happy.
2007-01-03 03:11:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
I never want to see a man miserable or unhappy because then he will make me feel the same way. At times, you might want to make your man a little jealous because after you've been with him for a long time, it feels like he doesn't find you attractive anymore and is looking at someone else more younger, prettier, slimmer, etc. If hes jealous because another man is acknowledging your beauty, maybe he will realize what he has and won't start making you miserable by looking at other women. So I say no women don't want to see you miserable, they just want your undivided attention and if I have to make you feel insecure or jealous to get it, then so be it.
2007-01-03 03:13:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some PEOPLE like to bring others down when thay are happy. Jealousy probably. But to say it's WOMEN in general is very very wrong. It's not a gender related one, it's a human related one.
After all do both sexes not share certain aspects of humanity and personality? THese do include negative traits too. It's not "all women" just as it's not "all men"
stop generalising it's only makes you sound pathetic
2007-01-03 03:15:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
1. The women you have run into do not represent all of the women in all of history and all of the world, so that's one thing.
2. That isn't a gender thing. I've known my share of men AND women who do that to people (of either gender).
There is something in some people that makes them feel sympathetic and more kindly to those who are unhappy and down than to those who are happy.
In general, if you're sad and down and out people like the chance to try to make you feel better and do nice things for you; but if you're on top of the world everybody hates you and wants to bring you down. You may have heard of that old song, "Nobody loves you when you're down and out".... Well that's wrong. Everybody loves someone who is unhappy. Nobody loves you when you're on top of the world.
but again - it IS NOT WOMEN!!! People on this site think they know what all women are and do based on knowing a handful of women in their own little lives, with some of the women being from their own family and the rest of them being women they tend to be attracted to.
2007-01-03 03:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, they would have to be pretty miserable or insecure themselves to want to do that to someone that is happy and content. You are just a senstive soul, try to rise above it, but never sink down to the same level. Take care : )
2007-01-03 06:48:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you were truly happy and confident no woman could invade it and make you insecure or jealous. Granted I have had some women get upset that I don't get jealous when they want me to or that they become insecure when I get too cocky but believe me women want to please men far more than men want to please women if you want to generalize the subject.
2007-01-03 08:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by BluLizard 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ALERT WOMEN: This is likely a man who mistreats women and is doing a turn around just to confuse the issue. If you change all the the word, "women" to "men" and vice versa, you will see what these types of extremely sexist men do to women and how they are trying to "train" women to react.
Don't fall for this!
2007-01-03 04:12:22 · answer #9 · answered by sayyeswomen 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, I've never tried to do that. Maybe you're hanging around the wrong kind of women.
2007-01-03 03:07:41 · answer #10 · answered by redrancherogirl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋