Im 25 now and have always turned bright red when, say in a room with strangers, and situations like that. There's a girl in my work that I don't like as i've made numourus efforts to talk with her and get along with in general, and she just stares at me and I get all red faced. i just wish it would go away. I'm confident with friends and people I get on with. My mum always said it's my Scottish blood, will it ever stop, it's a pin in the butt when i'm trying to build up my confidence..
2007-01-03 02:42:00 · 13 answers · asked by wragster 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Same here, hate it when it happens around people I don't like. I think the best option is to accept it and then it will dimish. If I know I will blush, I just let myself do it, at least I won't get wrinkles due to good blood supply to my face!!
On a more serious note, the mirror thing does work, or even visualisation. Imagine the situation that is making you blush, then let yourself do it over and over again, eventually you will blush less.
But you know at the end of the day it's not the worst that could happen. You can always laugh at yourself and that might break the ice.
I have actually made friends with people who used to make me bluch, they never once mentioned it.
BTW I think I am slightly blushing by just thinking about blushing, does that happen to you too? Or if someone is blushing you get a little blush too.
2007-01-03 02:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kitty Kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your imagination works fine, just spend some time standing in front of mirror and imagining the situation that makes you blush. For example, imagine you have to talk with that girl again and do real talking. If you turn red you are on the right way. Just practise and practise half an hour every day. Sounds crazy but it works.
2007-01-03 10:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by Naomi H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure I can answer the question to your satisfaction, but I, too, blush in awkward moments. I am very shy myself. I tend to laugh at jokes I should not as a way to cope too. It may be embarrassment or just feeling awkward. I do not attribute it to a lack of confidence at all. I believe it goes even deeper than that. For me it goes back to my past and never understanding how to deal with different situations. I am 31 years old and still have troubles. I find that in those moments my blushing often times eases others around me. They may feel the same way but express it differently. Some blush, some sweat, some tell jokes, and others lightly hit. Don't look at it at something to feel bad about. Instead think of it as a way to help others around you feel comfortable too.
2007-01-03 10:54:31 · answer #3 · answered by engagethisgeneration 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does it matter if you blush? Honestly, who is it hurting? Surely not yourself. If it really bothers you though go out and do something really embarassing in front of people you don't know. I mean like landing face flat in dog crap embarassing. The next time you think you might be turning red think about how bad that was and how easy the new moment is. How bad is standing in a room full of people compared to that?
2007-01-03 11:11:28 · answer #4 · answered by southco2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good friend wont care if you are blushing or not. A relationship prospect will see that as part of you if it is a healthy choice. It is a part of your wonderful self! Blushing or not, relax and choose friends who see you for who you are, and you won't have to worry about something you may see as negative when it is simply a trademark that made you unique. We all have unique trademarks. As for the girl who stares if you have made an effort to have a friendship and she refuses......You tried! Good job...Consider not wasting any further energy or time on someone that does not respond. Seek out people who value you for who you are.......and respect you for that. Good luck!!!
2007-01-03 10:53:41 · answer #5 · answered by Future Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people blush. You can get all sorts of advice on overcoming it, but it would be best to stick to advice from medical sources.
Here's a link to a page from the Britsh National Health service.
It lists several treatments :-
Cognitive behavioural therapy - to change the way people think or feel in social situations.
Breathing techniques - to relieve anxiety and hyperventilation (excessive rapid breathing).
Confronting fears - professional treatment for the sources of anxiety.
It also mentions medication, but I wouldn't go that far.
The 3rd and 4th links are for google searches for 'blusinhg', limited to results from medical authorities and results for patients.
2007-01-03 10:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by ricochet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I am confident with my friends and family but blush for no reason around strangers. I sometimes even blush in front of my husband for no reason. Hope you find a remidy. I could do with one too.
Good Luck.
2007-01-03 10:49:57 · answer #7 · answered by Baby # 1 - April 09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Warn them, beforehand, that you're about to blush.
Explain to them it's because you're about to ask them if they're up for a shag.
They'll understand - and if they DO turn you down - well, you don't need to worry about blushing cos you'll be blushing anyway.
It's a win-win situation!
Yer lucky lad!
2007-01-03 10:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, Black Cohosh (www.blackcohosh.co.uk) is a traditional remedy that's supposed to help. I personally wouldn't know, but it's something a questioner was asking about earlier today!
2007-01-03 10:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by DevilInBristol 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consume more salt. Salt holds water just under your skin and it'll dilute the blushing reaction by displacement.
you'll still blush, but it won't be as noticeable.
2007-01-03 10:50:02 · answer #10 · answered by halenstone2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋