i have been 2 local mother and toddler groups which i discovered 2 b of no help at all the mothers there had there own groups of friends and i felt like an outsider. i have no family where i live and it seems my pc is my only contact with the outside world. it isnt fair on my kids.
2007-01-03 02:07:24 · 17 answers · asked by dellyboppers 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i got a better one for you,, i am a stay at home dad of 3 boys,, i dont go to the mothers groups because i am a man,, at school all the moms are social with the other moms and i am left out because i am a man,, the kids get to go to others house but i cant because i am a man,, the moms hubbys would be jealous to have a man over while they are at work,, so i dont feel for you,, try it from my side
2007-01-03 02:11:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about taking them swimming, you could find out the times for the little ones and mothers. Outside activities are not an option this time of the year like the park etc. Did you give the mothers and toddlers a proper chance, they may seem in their own groups, but I'm sure you will fit in if you gave it a real go.
2007-01-03 10:16:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah bless. I'd have said Mother and Toddler groups. Perhaps you should go back and try again, they might just be a bit wary of a stranger. What about the Park? I feel for you sister, I have few friends, and the ones I have don't have kids, so I'm sort of on my own too.
2007-01-03 10:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Chickette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please don't stop going to the two mums and tots groups you've already tried. The groups of friends were once in the same boat as yourself. Soon enough you will mingle with the other mums and you will be included in all the activities and chats. Why don't you have a coffee morning in aid of a children's charity whereby you charge so much for refreshments, this way you'll end up with loads of friends and your children will have friends too. Good luck!
2007-01-03 10:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by Bonzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Determine the things you enjoy doing, and seek out groups in your area that have similar interests. Everyone needs human contact - the net is no substitute. You can use the net to seek out groups that may fit into your interest levels. But, remember to give people a chance to know you. You are as unknown to them as they are to you. It takes awhile to form bonds with people. Sometimes those who seem not to be a good fit can turn out to be very good friends. Friendship is a growth process, and offer others what you have who share common interests with you.....Please be careful of developing relationships for the sake of your children. You are entitled to have friends based on what contacts you would like to have for your own friendships. You deserve to have nice people in your life for your own adult conversations....Once you establish what it is that you need for your own human contact and connections, your children will play a part within those friendships. Be in touch with who you are first aside from your children....(Who am I? WHat do I want in a friend?) And when you find people that share a common interest, the rest will fall into place. There is someone out there for everyone....be it friendship, relationship, or soul mate. You have alot to offer. Ask yourself what will be fufilling for you, and the rest will come naturally. Listen to your inner voice.....It is your best counsel.
2007-01-03 10:22:03 · answer #5 · answered by Future Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried contacting your Health Visitor? She should be able to put you in touch with people your age, Mother and Baby groups are great if you already know people there, but breaking into those cliques can be a mission in itself, not something many people can be bothered with. Maybe if you persevere you might find some of them are quite nice....
2007-01-03 10:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you have a sure start toddler group where you live? They help you meet new mothers of all ages etc
2007-01-03 10:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by robopets1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Next time you go to a group...be open and friendly (fake it if you have to). Even if you don't make friends, hopefully your kids will and that may lead to a freindship (with the mom).
2007-01-03 10:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
Matchingmoms.org. Ive met many moms from there and its free. Youll put in your zip code and things about you and read about other moms,how many kids,their ages,hobbies,religion,parenting style ect ect. Be sure to meet somewhere public. Of course you already know that.
2007-01-03 10:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to babycenter, but watch out cuz some people on there are so rude! Im in the same boat as you! Good luck!
2007-01-03 10:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by kaelynnsmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋