2007-01-03 02:02:52 · 23 answers · asked by fastwateruk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I never did, but from knowing swinging couples, they all seem perfectly happy with their life style.
I believe it's very important to have a very serious talk between partners before making the decision.
You both have to be very comfortable knowing that your hubby or wife is in the other room having sex with another while your in the other room with another.
The "swinging" decision has to be 100% mutual. Or you will have problems in the marriage.
Swinging doesn't allow you to go out when ever and bed who ever. It's a "togetherness" thing. All in the same house.
Swinging isn't allowing your mate to cheat whenever.
IF your mate isn't 100% sure on if that is the lifestyle they want to try, then I suggest, you don't try it at this time.
2007-01-03 02:10:12 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
We've been swinging for years and our relationship is better than ever. We had a great relationship and great sex before we got into swinging, and it has only gotten better since.
But, you both have to be wanting to do it. It won't work if one person is being coerced or manipulated into it, or swinging is being used to "spice-up" a boring relationship or "fix" a failing relationship. All it will do is intensify those things that are already wrong. In fact, everybody I've ever talked to that said swinging harmed their relationship fell into one of the three categories above after more in depth probing about why their relationship really failed.
Swinging isn't for everyone. But for those it is, it works well for.
For good, objective information about swinging from both newbies and veterans alike, check-out The Swingers Board.
2007-01-05 17:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wife and I have been in the swinger lifestyle for over a year. We have met and been with some awesome couples. My only advise is to talk about everything...You will find that this lifestyle will open all of your communication levels to the highest degree. You better be upfront and honest with each other or else it can be devastating to your relationship. This lifestyle is not for everyone, For those that are making it work and everyone is fine. More power to you! Find out what turns you and on and go test it out! Just make sure you know what you want and are doing!
2007-01-05 05:04:47 · answer #3 · answered by In case you didnt know, I DO!LOL 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah man went to hyde park they got these big swingers just installed, but unfortunately fell off the swing broke a leg.
2007-01-05 10:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by one_faithful_mo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hubbie and me are swingers. Works well for us. In reply to what Chester57 said, we never go in separate rooms to swing. We all swing together whether its a 3some or a 4some or whatever. Don't do it unless both partners are totally happy and have talked about it thoroughly.
2007-01-03 04:39:13 · answer #5 · answered by Caroline 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
We go swinging in the parks all the time. We always have a competion to see who goes the highest.
2007-01-03 02:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
"Couples that 'swing' have obviously got something wrong in their relationship, even though they won't admit it. If you love each other deeply, you wouldn't want to share. " - Cinders
"Here here CINDERS...my thoughts exactly...its up front and in yer face cheating. " - Anonymous
Cinders and Anonymous are entitled to their opinions I guess, but bear in mind that they are offering UNEDUCATED opinions. They do not have first hand experience with swinging (thank God) and so, even though they swear by all that's holy that they KNOW how evil, corrupt, and destructive swinging is...the fact remains that they do NOT have first hand knowledge of the inner workings of a successful relationship that includes non-monogamy.
These two do NOT know my husband or me. They do not know or understand how it would be possible to synonymously have emotional intimacy and sexual non-exclusivity. The fact that they cannot understand it does not negate its reality, however.
I'm not nuts. I'm not off my meds. I'm not deluding myself. I am 100% aware of the choices I make. We did the monogamy thing for 9 years...and it felt forced and false. We were following someone else's rules without understanding why...because that's what we were told was "the key to marital bliss". Well, for us at least, it was a load of horsesh*t. We considered the fundamental message that the sacrificial offering of one's sexuality said, and we didn't agree with it. I don't want my husband to castrate his sexuality for my sake! I don't want him to kill a part of himself in my honour! That doesn't prove love to me. If he loves me, he'll strive to help me fulfil my vow to him, and that is to help him live the best life he possibly can. One with no regrets. So I want him to live, and live well. That includes good food, good music, good wine and good company!
We both want the same thing in life: one another's happiness. Period. If giving myself sexually only to him for the rest of my life would truly make his life better, I would not hesitate to do so. But we have absolutely no reason to follow a silly rule that has no meaning to our marriage. What reason would we follow it? To make the rest of the world happy? It's none of the world's business! It's not their marriage!
As long as it is done for the right reasons, and done respectfully, knowlegeably, and with self-discipline, it can be a wonderful enrichment to a marriage.
If it is done for the wrong reasons and in all the wrong ways, there's nothing but heartbreak on the horizon.
2007-01-04 07:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by intuition897 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I didnt wear underwear today so im "swinging" right now, to the left to the right hey its like a clock lol
2007-01-03 02:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
yes i tried swinging but didnt like it so im going to stick to the slides
2007-01-03 02:06:51 · answer #9 · answered by beer buddy 1 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Couples that 'swing' have obviously got something wrong in their relationship, even though they won't admit it. If you love each other deeply, you wouldn't want to share.
2007-01-03 05:39:33 · answer #10 · answered by S 4 · 2⤊ 3⤋