If I say positive nice things to her she shruggs them off. If i complain or make a negative comment she goes mad. I feel helpless and want to pack my bag and leave. we have a five month old son.Help!!!!
2007-01-03 01:25:51 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever you do - DON'T LEAVE!! I suffer terribly with PMT and I think even if my boyfriend told me we won the lottery when I'm in that hormonal state, I'd find some fault with it and blow a fuse.
I'd advise the same that I tell my boyfriend, try not to take ANYTHING at all to heart. Of course you must receive the respect you offer your wife but I can honestly tell you that sometimes we are powerless to control the outbursts - I'm definitely speaking from experience.
Your wife may want to try some treatment for the PMS - there are many things you can buy over the counter at the chemist or her doc should be able to advise her on treatments for PMS.
Good luck and please, give your wife a hug from me because I totally sympathise with her and I understand your concerns too, so a hug for you too.
2007-01-03 01:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, Make The Most Of The Time That You Spend With Your Wife And Instead Of Talk Of Running Away, Help Her! It's Not Easy Coping With A New Baby And Raging Hormones, Let Alone Her Monthly Cycle. As Some Of The Others Have Already Said, There Are Various Treatments Both Over The Counter And Prescription But One Of The Best Things You Can Do Is Be Understanding And Comforting When That Is The Appropriate Thing Or Taking Care Of Your Son If Your Wife Needs That Kind Of Support And Believe Me She Does!
Medical Help Would Also Probably Do Your Wife Some Good But That Alone Is Not The Answer. I Know To You It Might Seem Hard Even Daunting But Try Seeing It From Your Wife's Point Of View. She Has No Control Over What Is Happening To Her Body At The Moment And That Has Got To Be Scary!
God Bless You All Mate And May 2007 Show You A Happier side Of Life As The Year Unfolds!
2007-01-03 01:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Paul R 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Complaints and negative comments are never helpful. Keep the positive, nice comments coming. Tell her you want her to be happy and suggest she talk to her OB/GYN about her PMT (?). I'm guessing you mean either PMS or PPD (post partum depression)...or atleast something hormonal. There are medications to make her feel like herself again.Depending on the nature and severity of the problem, she may take them for a short time or a life time.
2007-01-03 01:33:20 · answer #3 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't leave her. Sometimes some women go through a depression after having a kid. Our bodies change and we don't always feel good about ourselves. Also, the stress of having a young one is a tough job. She might not be getting enough rest. She can talk to her Dr about getting some meds to help her through this difficult time. Try to be patient. Things should get better, but make sure you take out some time for your own sanity, too. Maybe you can get a sitter and take her out for a date night. That would give you both some time to relax with each other.
2007-01-03 01:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are going through a similar ordeal. Our daughter is 6 months old. She may be going through the same emotions as I. Our self esteem is very low because we're really self-conscious about our post-baby bodies. Even though you guys may honestly believe we're beautiful in your eyes, we just don't see how you can find us so attractive. Just keep doing what you're doing, don't give up on us. Try to help her feel better about herself. Talk to her, ask her what you can do for her. Have you two been out on a date, just you and her since your son was born? If not, then you are definately past due for some romantic alone time. It's also probably partly due to some baby blues/post partum. If talking to her doesn't help then perhaps you need to suggest a doctor for post-partum help before it gets out of hand. Congrats on the new little one and best wishes! It's hard, I know but stick it through and things will be fine...she just needs time.
2007-01-03 01:43:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
take it from any woman's perspective...the last thing we need is someone trying to help us....we have hormones flying all over the place, we feel bloated, were in pain, we do not like to be bothered by anyone and if they try, then yep...we fly off on one...were best left alone when were like that...it's not a nice thing to have happen to you...this happens every month and some women suffer really bad....we appreciate what your doing but at the time it's not worth the bother because were just feeling like shat....thank god it only lasts for a few days....buy her some flowers or help out in the house, or better still go out for a few hours...lol...we cant help it....it just gets us when we least expect it, if she is having none of it, then just leave her till she feels better..she does not mean to be off with you, it's just the hormones playing with her...not nice at all...be patient and understanding....she's not gonna be like that for ever, a few days and she will be back to her normal self again...eveningprimrose oil capsules work wonders, you can buy them over the counter at any chemist or local shop....but don't suggest she take them while she's like this...she'll prolly ram them down your throat at this time....lol...but tell her at a later time that you got her some to help her along with he PMT, she will appreciate it...i hope....good luck
we Brits call it PMT= pre menstrual tension
americans call it PMS= pre menstrual stress
same thing
2007-01-03 01:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean "PMS"?
Maybe suggest that she seek medical attention. Do this a couple of days "after" her menstrual cycle as her hormones will be back on track and she (shouldn't) bite your head off!
PMS is very real (boy do I know!!!) and unfortunately effects all. Good for you trying to stick with it. She may have a chemical imbalance and need daily medication to correct it (like a Prozac type medication).
When you think the time is okay to talk to her about it, don't be defensive about it. Tell her you'd like to talk about something, sit down and ask her how she feels before and during her cycle? Ask her if she realizes how she behaves and treats you? And also tell her how it makes you feel. Ask her if she would be opposed to speaking to her gynecologist about it and to ask if there is anything she can take to help get her through what appears to be a tough part of every month.
Good luck and try to have patience.
mb
2007-01-03 01:33:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When she is having the problems is definitely not the time to talk about it. Her hormones are way out of control from 1)having a baby recently, and 2) the PMT. Wait till a good day, try to talk to her, suggest she talk to the doctor. There are medications that can help ease the problems. And, truthfully, she may not realize how tense she is and how the moods are affecting you. Good luck.
2007-01-03 01:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Buy her some evening primrose oil capsules then go on holiday once a month and take your son with you. Seriously though, she might need to go to the doctor, and get herself checked over. She should try some home remedies at least. The thing I learned was to realise when I'm overreacting due to PMT, my relationship has been alot easier since then.
2007-01-03 01:39:54 · answer #9 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is PMS, it is a syndrome that will pass. The best way is to go along with everything that she says and does. Women have literly gotten away with "murder" for PMS. Their bodies are in a wack. You made it through the pregnancy. That was for 9 months. Nothing you say or do will make a difference. Do those nice things after the PMS...they will then make a difference. This too will pass!
2007-01-03 01:33:23 · answer #10 · answered by Sheila 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋