my bf got very drunk the other night and became horrible !!..teh next morning he begged me to forgive him which i did .... the same day he became distant and wudnt tell me wat was rong ..... until that nite and he sed to me it was just he felt like he wasnt sure if he loved me but now he knew he really did love me !!! i was upset because it hurt to hear him say that ..then he changed his mind and said that wasnt wat was rong and in fact it was that he had a brain tumor !!! i asked him if hed bin the hospital he sed no !! ...i wasnt sure wat to do i really fink he meant that he didnt love me but just sed the tumor thing to stop me being upset ... i have told him i think we shud split because it hurts too much rite now and he is begging me to stay and cryin wen i say i want to leave ..... i ont know wat to do do u think he is playin mind games?? please any help i will be grateful of :) thx x
2007-01-03 01:23:24 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It may be that he did not know he loved you... however with that put aside..playing around and saying that you have a brain tumor is not the type of person to be with. He is playing with your emotions. It would be like if you were going to leave and he said he would commit suicide if you did not stay. Not worth the emotional drama....Tell him that if he wants you to stay there are some conditions. 1. You will go with him to the doctor to see if he does have a tumor. 2. He needs to get counseling for the emotional issues. 3. he needs to look at whether or not he has a drinking problem...if he does not drink alot but changes severely in attitude than he may have a chemical imbalance and that will be seen and tested when he goes to the doctor...
But before telling him this you need to decide if he is what you want.
Good luck
2007-01-03 01:29:29 · answer #1 · answered by lynn 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there, you should take it easy. I would not believe the tumor thing. Especially if he didn't get it checked. Mostly many people like to use disease as a means to pressure others, to pity them to not leave them etc. So if I were you, I'd put him off for some days, by telling him, you still like him but are very up-set and need time to get over it, and to think. Don't tell him you don't believe him, that wouldn't work at this point. After a day or so, get your mind clear about him, about your relationship, and then decide what to do. If he insists on the tumor thing after some days, tell him to get a CT to check it out. But this shouldn't be a reason for you keeping a relationship with him. If he just made it up, it is a very low way of doing things, and not good for a trustworthy relationship. Anyhow, good luck.Ahu
2007-01-03 01:37:11 · answer #2 · answered by Ahugreycat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, learn to spell. Second, you should dump him and never look back. It is a very dangerous male you have there, and he will stop at nothing to keep you from leaving. I know not how old you are, but from the way you express yourself, I would say under 21. You are still young and too much a lady to get bogged down by a person who thinks nothing of you and only himself. Spread your wings and explore the world before you let anyone tell you, you can't. Stay with the guy you have, and you will be miserable for the rest of your life, for he is bringing you down to keep you close to him so he will feel as if he owns you.
2007-01-03 01:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by phishsports 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off what a horrible thing to say to you. 2ndly it would be even more horrible if he was lying about the tumor. If that is the case you can't stay with a person who flat out lied. But of course you first should believe him and be sympathetic. Tell him you are a part of his life and want to go see the doctor with him. If he refused it is clear that he is not telling the truth and you should move on.
2007-01-03 01:27:40 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think he is playing mind games. You said he hasn't been in the hospital. How about a doctor? If not then how would he know he has a tumor? And if he has one what is he doing drinking? He is playing games. Let him go. You don't need someone like that.
2007-01-03 03:37:46 · answer #5 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy sounds like a real loser. It definitely sounds like he's playing minds games. Is this the first time he's done something like this? Regardless, I would get out before he acts any weirder.
Good luck! I'm sure you can find someone else who won't play games with your mind.
2007-01-03 01:29:54 · answer #6 · answered by cey12000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, playing around with your health is bad! there are pple that really have brain tumores so it's not funny. concerning your question, your byf seem s to be mentaly disturbed, i seriously recomend seeing a doctor. he says one thing then he says another, crys, etcc..that's not normal. or maybe he's just very immature!
2007-01-03 01:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a saying about drunks, they tend to speak a sober mind. It sounds like he doesn't want to be with you anymore. How old are the two of you?
2007-01-03 02:25:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
On a serious note..... Do you really think that he should be messing with you saying he has a brain tumour!! If he has one then he should not be joking about it or taking it with a pinch of salt. To be honest gd luck to you on this one.
2007-01-03 01:38:51 · answer #9 · answered by Girl of Spirit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he really have a tumour? sometimes when you find out something that horrible you just dont think rationally....instead of dumping him why don't you be there for him when he needs you the most. How would you like it if you had a tumour and he dumped you???
2007-01-03 01:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋