My ex is dating a 21 year old, he is 37! AND I think my 16 year old son has a crush on her. Would you be concerned?
2007-01-03 01:22:57 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not care what my ex does! My only concern is my son.... I know that he talks and text messages her daily.
2007-01-03 01:49:46 · update #1
He may have a crush and she probably is flattered. But I would make sure that she's not leading him on with what she may think is some harmless flirting. That's not healthy for your son since she is your exes girlfriend. If you can get your ex off his ego trip for a minute, talk to him about it. He should talk to his girlfriend and discourage all the emailing and texting. The bad thing about it is, his girlfriend is closer to your son's maturity level than his own. But that's not your problem, that's his. Tell him you are only concerned about your son's feelings.
2007-01-03 02:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess I would be concerned. Concerned, but powerless because your ex can see anyone he chooses. I know my step son ended up "doing" his "stepmom" when he was about 17 or so. My wife's ex married some 20 year old and he was 40 something himself.
Is there a chance your son may and up banging her? Yes, I guess there is. But there is a chance that your son may end up banging a lot of people in his life. You have laid the ground work for your son's common sense long ago. He will do what he will do. Even if he does end up doing something you fear, you will more then likely never know.
2007-01-03 09:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is your EX husband so who he dates should be of no concern to you. Is is normal for a healthy 16 year old male to have the hots of a 21 year old female? Hell yes it is! Your EX might be his dad, but the 21 year old is not his mother. Sounds to me like your EX is dating a young hottie to me.
2007-01-03 10:48:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as who your ex dates, no it doesn't matter. As far as who your ex exposes your son to, it does. So, is she a nice person? Does she treat your son with respect? For all practical purposes is she a decent role model? As long as your son is not being exposed to immorality and indecency, I think it's fine. She will most likely move on soon anyway. Young girls tend to gain some experience from the older men and then they go teach it to someone else (hopefully not your son). If she exhibits behavior that you feel is harmful to your son, then you should be concerned and you should address it with your ex. But use caution...your concern has to truly be for your son and not becasue you are jealous. If your ex is reasonable, he will consider your concerns if you back them up with some valid examples. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 09:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Big deal, it's called..Middle Age Crisis for some and enjoying something young for others.
It's your ex... you shouldn't care as long as she's over 18.
your son is going through what most 16 yr old boys go through...he's recognizing what he likes...either that or you'll find porn mags under his mattress...
good luck!
If he's talking and texting her, then you need to find out why and what type of conversations before you jump to conclusions.
If it's something to be concerned with, then I would exp to her how people live their lives with reg sex offenders signs in their yrd, or reg child pedophile...she'll get the hint and so will ex.
2007-01-03 09:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by Khandi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well in 5 years when she's done with your ex, she'll still be able to date your son?
Age doesn't matter, boys sometimes develop crushes on women regardless of who they are. So long as no one crosses any lines, all will be ok.
2007-01-03 09:26:52 · answer #6 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The only concern I would have is if your son is either having or trying to sex with his father's girlfriend. Adult men tend to punish the son [ sometimes physically ] when that occurs.
So now you have something to worry about.
2007-01-03 10:22:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 years older than my GF and she is 3 years younger than my oldest son. They tolerate each other.
Your ex's GF is none of your business on any level; your son is nearing adulthood and he is also your ex's son. Trust your ex to care for his son in his presence.
Mind your own business, trust that you've instilled worthy values in your son and get on with life.
2007-01-03 12:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Phil #3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes your ex so why do you care. They are adults and your son will probably have lots of crushes
2007-01-03 09:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by mnwomen 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No reason to be concerned it's the hormones in your son that are raging. Don't involve yourself in your ex's relationship.
2007-01-03 09:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋