I,m divorcing him as many of you may already know because of his meth addiction,and although it not been easy I have stood my ground bcause of many atemps and broken promisis about getting off the dope and lying and all the other crap thats not good in our relationship.anyway hes been thretning to kill me almost constanly because I wont stop the divorce and let him live with me ,hes been (restraining )me from leaving the house when been bullying and badering me takes my keys and phone and makes me stay in the house ,he has a real fear of abandament because thats what keeps happening to him .yesterday morning he was suppose to go to work first time in two weeks when we woke he started in again again and asked the same question over again, why wont I give him A chance ,well its because I remember how many theres already been and things were just getting worse and Iso I told him that I CAN NOT AND WILL NOT STOP DIVORCE , He got up and came over and CHOKED me and told i need to Die
2007-01-03 01:20:21 · 17 answers · asked by cindybells 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was able to lie my way out of house hours later and called police now hes in jail and may be (stong chance)going to prison on 3 felony charges and is begging me to drop felony charges other people who know and Love him tell me to let it happen and I just dont Know what is best way
2007-01-03 01:26:26 · update #1
jail? prison? just rehab? or all?
2007-01-03 01:29:59 · update #2
The thought of an already abused and abandand from childhood weak drug addicted man in prison is an awful sight in my minds eye ,this is awful
2007-01-03 01:41:48 · update #3
I have been very thankful that people on yahoo answers have been there as I have let my self be taken away by this man from my work that I liked and interaction with other people ,so I could be with him every moment.I thought this was true love because last hubby was never home and dident care at all where i was or what i was doing .How does that saying go ? o ya out of the frying pan right into the fire.
love
2007-01-03 02:21:50 · update #4
the more your words become fact and not fiction he will try all sorts to get you to change your mind ,the down side is that he may actually go too far and so you must now look after your safety,literally,he needs to know not wonder that you are doing this because of his behavior,that he has had the help he wanted and has thrown it back in your face,,unfortunately the drugs won and he knows this too,,he knows he is a weak man that without you he has little else and more than likely he will continue with the drugs and them blame that fact on you abandoning him,,it is the way of the weak addict,,you however are strong but you are not unbreakable,be careful and do what you have to do,this isnt about him anymore it is about you and what you want from your life.if you need the help of the police CALL THEM,if there is a friendly neighbor who could come to your aid,,use them,,yes you would have to tell them but so what,,i would rather that than suffer at the hands of someone unstable through fear.keep yourself busy and make your life your own.i wish you all the luck in the world,
2007-01-03 01:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In An Abusive Relationship Such As Yours Seems To Be Darl, In That I Mean Your Husband Abusing You And Doing Drugs. There Is No Difference In My Advice If You Have Ever Retaliated To His Violence Or Done Nothing.
The Steps You Are Taking Now Are The Bravest Steps Of Your Life And Could Well Be The Most Important. Whatever You Do Darl, Do Not Back Down Either From The Divorce Or From Whatever Charges May Come From His Attack On You. You Need Him Out Of Your Life And If A Prison Term Is His First Step, So Be It. YOU Are Worth More Than To Be Treated Like Anything Other Than A Human Being Or Better Still A Lady Darl! Make 2007 Your Year, When Things Are All Good If Not Great In Your Life And You Have Turned A Corner From Your Old Life And Moved On To Reclaim Your Space And Your Life!
God Bless You And May All That You Wish For In The Year Ahead Come Good For You!
2007-01-03 01:37:23 · answer #2 · answered by Paul R 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are doing the right thing! This story sounds so familiar. My wife was married to a meth addict who was also manufacturing. He made lots of promises and also got very aggressive with her due to the paranoia he started experiencing. He always thought she was working with the police to bug their house, his car, his electric shaver, etc. There was a raid one night at their house and she was caught in the middle of it. He went to jail and was released until the sentencing. During that time he was arrested for shoplifting sudafed to use in manufacturing. While he was in jail the second time she was finally able to move her things out and she has never turned back.
Meth is a nasty monster and it takes something very drastic to get a user to quit using. In the meantime you know you have done everything you can do to help him and stay beside him. Now it is time that you just make sure you take care of you. There is no more you can do for him and it is time for the system to take over. Having him put in jail is more of a tough love situation and it sounds like this is his last resort. You can't keep yourself in harms way any more.
God Bless You as you walk out of this fire. It sounds like you have been through hell. Take care of YOU for a while. A good life is on it's way.
2007-01-03 01:33:01 · answer #3 · answered by PDH 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
fowl, i'm sorry you're going nonetheless this. Meth habit is an extremely selfish act that destroys households. the superb you're able to do now for the sake of your boys is to record for divorce as your spouse won't be in a position to be depended on. because of the fact that she has threatened injury and bodily hit you, you could record a restraining order and paintings with close by police. the precedence is to guard your boys. If there is a thank you to bypass someplace else (double examine along with your lawyer) than gain this. it is a shame there are shelters for women and young ones, yet no longer for fathers. stable success.
2016-10-06 09:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him out of your house and get a restraining order against him. If he's in jail now, get an order of protection from the court. You know better than most of us how unpredictable a meth head is. He may end up killing you. After he finally crashes the next time around, get your stuff and get out. Personally, I wouldn't wait til the next time. Meth or no meth, he is abusing you and you don't deserve that. He has to deal with his own issues. It has went past the point where you can help him. He needs to straighten himself up for himself. If he does it for you, he will blame all his failures on you. You cannot save him. He must save himself and most important, you MUST save YOURSELF!
2007-01-03 01:36:16 · answer #5 · answered by leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is me again too - the former drug addict. I know it is hard for you to think about what's best for you right now because you are so wrapped up in him, but believe me, you are doing the best thing for both of you. I ended up realizing that my own brush with the law was the best thing that ever happened to me. It was the very thing that made me wake up and get help for my addiction. Like I told you before - I have been clean for 11 years now. Keep going in this direction and allow him to suffer the consequences for his actions. If he doesn't, he will surely never stop and you could both end up dead.
2007-01-03 01:39:41 · answer #6 · answered by amethyst1195 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make sure hes stays in jail or he WILL kill you. Dont back down,,stand your ground and go through with the divorce. Get a restraining order against him and anytime he comes near you then have him arrested. You dont even need to explain aything to him ,,just do what you need to do, And like i said have him arrested anytime he threatens you or comes near you!!!! Noone deserves to be treated this way. Hes a very sick man and needs to be in jail.
2007-01-03 01:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to charge him with assult TODAY!!No you are not wrong, he will never change. Meth changes peoples perspective of reality and removes their "concience". He probably will kill you if he gets angry enough. Get him out of your house. Change all the locks and call the cops if he harasses you anymore. Maybe you should just pack your stuff and leave. I know you are sad about this , who wouldn't be. But i guarentee you he is not the person you fell in love with .Save yourself!!
2007-01-03 01:27:12 · answer #8 · answered by TakeNoticeNow 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you are still with him, you better get away. No it is not wrong if that is what you have to do to get away from him. Rehab might be good for him, to get off the meth. but not if he doesn't want to quit. The threating to tell you need to die, he needs locked up.
2007-01-03 01:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by CHEROKEE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he is violent. LEAVE. if he assaulted you have him put in jail. If he is ever going to quit, then he needs to bottom out. Jail does that for some folks, some not. However, the primary thing is detach yourself from this crazy situation.
Crazy people make you crazy, and if someone is strung out and violent then they are effectivly crazy due to chemical alteration of senses and consience.
2007-01-03 01:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by ELEcTrIc_HeD 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋