My wife is on birth control and ran out. We got together for unprotected action and I asked her if it would be a good idea to get that Plan B just in case (since we already have 3 kids and hadn’t planned on having anymore). Now because I mentioned that, she’s all upset saying that I don’t want to have kids with her and all I care about is shoving pills down her throat so that god forbid I wouldn’t have any kids with her. I told her that it’s not that, it’s just a safe way to prevent an unplanned pregnancy and we have enough to deal with the 3 kids already and I don’t want to make things harder on us. Plus she was taking birth control in the first place! We had talked about not having any more kids and it seems she’s all hurt that I don’t want to have anymore kids with her! It’s not that it’s just we didn’t talk about it, she’s not sure she wants more, and it would bring undue stress on us but she’s taking it as a personal slight like I think it would be just horrible to have kids with her (our 3 kids are from other partners). I told her it’s not that but I’d rather have a planned pregnancy. She doesn’t get it and is pissed and I can’t get through to her about it.
2007-01-03 01:05:58 · 7 answers · asked by survivor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I strongly recommend you get a vasectomy. I have had one, and it's great not to have to worry about any more pregnancies. Your wife is getting emotional about birth control, but you two would be wiser to handle it rationally. Three are enough, so take permanent action.
2007-01-03 01:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 09:57:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she feels a little insecure in the relationship or that something else is going on. Does she know that you want a planned pregnancy and that you want to have a child with her at some point in the future? I would work on her security issues within the marriage first. She may feel that it's not really permanent if she doesn't have a child or that you were willing to have a child with another woman, just not her and if that's so, why not? She may wonder if you're planning to leave and just don't want to have to support another child.
2007-01-03 02:05:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so you 2 are married w/ children from previous relationships. Newlyweds still? Does she have current medical coverage? Is there another reason she hasnt kept up w/ her birth control regime? Has her health situation changed? Maybe your tone changed... & she has insecurities about your relationship due to unclear communication. Please see my response to the previous question: "Is there really such a thing as true love between and man and a woman?". It maybe a good thing to show your wife... share with her your concern & love for your current situation. Read through that topic answer together and see if she is receptive to making necessary changes as a couple. I wish you both all the best :)
2007-01-03 01:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen big guy- if you are so freaked about having another baby, YOU do something about it! Go get a vasectomy-there is a good chance your insurance will even pay for it! Tell her you're sorry for your inconsiderate comment- you simply were worrying about taking away from the children you already have.
2007-01-03 02:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like #1, she may have some low self estteem problems within herself . If she feels like you dont want kids with her. #2. Maybe women are totally crazy and its dam if ya do,,,,, dam if ya dont.
2007-01-03 01:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by Brat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO GET FIXED and forget this !
2007-01-03 01:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋