I mean......I'm over here strugglin'. Back in the day, I was a little on the wild side. The label "player" may have applied, but now I'm married. My wife is a total honey and we have a little son who is the greatest kid.
The thing is.....I must be sending off some kind of vibe or something. I don't know, but no matter how hard I try to be friends with the opposite sex .....just me being me makes women curious. I know I'm a social kind of dude and all...but I'm f*ckin' shell shocked right now because I think I'm being a friend to someone and then they turn around and want to get with me. And it's hard because by the time that happens, then I'm bonded to these people.
My wife is oblivious sometimes to it because we're both kinda flirty and she gets PO'd sometimes, but if she really KNEW how close I come to bangin' someone else.........man!
I'm totally clustered.
Do I need to just board up my doors and windows, and swear off all ties with women? Seriously.
2007-01-03 01:00:35 · 12 answers · asked by j.bertie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should learn how to say NO to things which you dont like. That is all. No need to isolate yourself becoz it will harm your outgoing personality. Nobody can get you if you are unwilling.
Yes you can be friends with women if you treat them like your sisters. Can you do it? Your attitude should reflect in your behaviour. Don't go ga ga whenever a woman smiles at you. You are married.
2007-01-03 01:15:42 · answer #1 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer is, yes, you can just be friends with members of the opposite sex, but I think you are clearly flirting A LOT with these women, or they wouldn't ALL assume you're interested in something more than being friends with them.
Be a good boy and stop teasing pretty girls, son. If you don't, you're going to end up in a whole lot of trouble with your wife and your little boy.
I know you like the feeling of being attractive to other women, but honestly, you need to back off with them just a little. You're still attractive, even if they aren't coming on to you 24/7, you know? Go home and tell your wife you think she's a "total honey", and buy her flowers for no reason once in a while. Flirt with her--she'll love it!
2007-01-03 09:18:22 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having this much of a problem with the women, then yes! Swear off ties with them. Don't be their friends. Go find some guys to watch football with and forget about it. That said, if you still want to be friends with the gals, there are two things you can do to make it work. First, tell them up front that you are ONLY interested in being friends. Tell them how great your wife is and how great your relationship is (and if your relationship is NOT great, then get to work making it so that it IS). Second, get your wife involved. Make friends with other women WITH your wife. If she is one of the friends, too, the other women will be less likely to try to cut in and get seriously involved. If they do, then they are cruddy friends and you should avoid them anyway. Good luck!
2007-01-03 09:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to be friends with women - Platonic firendship. All you need to do is put straight you limits of friendship. You are married and have a familiy, rub that on those you feel want you as more than just a friend and don't encourage/lead them on to think something could or is going on between the two of you. And if you love your wife, let her know your stand with them. That way she'll be assured there's nothin going on.
Otherwise,just keep off these women and don't do something you may regret later.
2007-01-03 09:11:13 · answer #4 · answered by divagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that mend & women could be just friends, but from personal experiences just like yours, I have come to think differently. I was just being friendly with a guy at work and he really thought something was going to happen between us (and we are both married). So, NO I don't think people of the opposite sex can be just friends, usually the friendship only starts because one of the people wants to get with the other.
2007-01-03 09:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by jacemo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea its possible!! I have more guy friends than girl friends. If you were originally a flirty person then you probably still are so you might have to change the way you do some things.
If you are trying to be friends with a woman and she starts trying to get with you then just talk about how wonderful your wife is and how you couldn't be happier with anyone else... if she still doesn't back off then tell her that you love your wife and you aren't planning on cheatin on her anytime soon!
2007-01-03 10:40:25 · answer #6 · answered by luvsick143 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds good to me..........just kidding you can be friends but you also have to let them no that you are a very happily married man and would never think of cheating so if they have any ideas they should get out now or you will.........
2007-01-03 09:05:00 · answer #7 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't kid yourself, or us. You are so used to being a "player", that you are still using the old "tricks" and you don't even realize it. These women think you are coming on to THEM, that is why you are having this "problem"......
2007-01-03 09:24:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start off in the beginning being honest tell them you want a platonic relationship.
2007-01-03 09:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are suffering from delusions of grandeur.
2007-01-03 11:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋