Is the sense of humour really the first thing that women look for,or is it all about the money?

Question

Or perhaps it's different in different countries/cultures?What's your opinion?

Answer 1

First thing I notice is the eyes :)
Money isn't a factor, I've dated men whose worth is between -£40,000 and £1,000,000+. Money didn't make a difference at all :)

Answer 2

I think that a man with a subtle sense of humour is very attractive. However it doesn't mean he should be cracking jokes ten a penny! It is all about the whole personality really. When you fancy someone you usually pick up on something you admire. It can't be just about looks or money. Who would want someone with money who is horrid and cruel? However a man who does not have a job or won't get off of his backside to do an honest days work is not an attractive quality. So if someone works hard and is genuine, honest and has a sense of humour too, but does not have a lot of money to through around would be attractive. What women don't like is someone sponging off them and expecting to be supported when the woman has enough on her plate as it is.

Answer 3

Actually American men are far more materialistic than American women (which dosen't necessarliy mean that they chase women with money but rather that they are often obsessed with money in general). This is why they often want to see American women as materialistic. Now there is also the woman that primps herself up like a pin-up in order to attract men with money. Many men without enough sense to look for a women that has a good heart above all, with ignore the good women and be drawn to the pin-up girl (because they like bright shiny things) . Then when they finally discover that the pin-up girl only really cares about money the man wants to try to make some kind of statement about ALL WOMEN. I'll tell you what, grow a brain, become interested in women for something other than superficial things, and then come and tell us about ALL WOMEN. (And by the way, all pretty girls aren't materialistic either) Now the person that said that 40% of American women have "looks" as their priority is utterlly clueless about women. I would have to say that a sense of humor is a MAJOR factor of attraction to women . A common sense of humor between two people says alot about their similaries. Atleast as a man i have found this to be true. :)

Answer 4

Definitely, you have to have a sense a humour to be married to me!!!! My husband and I started with nothing, money was never the attraction.

I know that in some countries, the status of the man is considered, over and above his looks, personality etc., personally, I do not agree with this - love, respect and mutual attraction should be the basis of a relationship, not a bank balance!!

Answer 5

No its not about the money. A sense of humour is important, but I think chemistry and compatibility is more important. We have to work together and find common meeting ground for problems. Appearance, wealth and humour are all nice little extra's but not essential.

Answer 6

deffo its different in each country and culture.
in general I wouldn't say that the sense of humour its the first thing that women look for, although money in a way does count for some, sad but it is.
its terrible, but in Mexico, where I am from, most of my friends they check up first if the guy has money cause they want to get married and assure themselves a life without having to work, plus remaining with the benefits that mom and dad gives them.
for some other its just about chemistry, a nice guy who treats them nice, its romantic, a gentleman who cares about them, basically they are after a cute guy like the chick flick Hollywood films they have seen.
personally what i first notice in a guy its his conversation, how intelligent he is and if we can have something interesting to talk about.

Answer 7

Depends upon the woman, take the type that hang around the night clubs looking for footballers for instance, then look at the type who just want clean honest love from a man. Initially, the footballer girl scores since these guys are loaded, however, after a time when they are busy chasing younger girls, things don't seem that good after all...usually by then though it is too late for them to wake up as most of the decent guys are taken..

Answer 8

It is not the sense of humour but its strenght. This strenght is perceived differntly by different women and dependingon the culture she comes from. Weathiness is only one way of strenght, others are intelligence, sense of humour, personal stability, physical strenght, good looks, etc.

One remark: that funny ladder theory mentioned above is placed in the webpage that it deserves: www.stupidity.com. Curious, isn't it?

Answer 9

It isn't money (as long as the person is rock-dirt poor with plans to stay that way), and it would never occur to me to list "sense of humor".

A person has to be nice (genuinely nice not just to a woman but to everyone and animals as well), intelligent, and have something about his appearance that's attractive (which doesn't mean amazingly handsome - just some sense of what it takes to make the most of his appearance).

(Just a note: With the right type of intelligence comes a sense of humor, whether or not that's something I'd put at the top of a list.)

Answer 10

A nice personality and a sense of humour is vital....and a nice bottom!!! Money is immaterial but at my age (late 30s) i wouldn't date a man who had never worked or had been unemployed for years. You have to have aspirations,not necessarily financial ones but i find anyone,man or woman without goals very shallow.

Answer 11

When I meet a guy most of the time I don't have any idea how much money he makes. When dating them I don't have any idea how much money they make unless they say something. I never ask either because it's none of my business. If a guy is nice to me and treats me with respect from the start thats when I will go on a date with him when asked. Nothing else really matters.