My Mums partner is 45, she is 67. He has always been a bad tempered control freak, but my mom wont leave hima sshe thinks she needs a man. I visited her yesterday to find that he had been out with the sellotape and had taped up the hot water heater at a level he saw fit for it to be at and also switched the central heating off and taped it down so she could not use it. Same with heater and washing machine. she pays the bills, he lives there with her!! turns out he does this from time to time along with checking the electric meters before he goes out to see how much is being used qhilst he is out. My mom is conditioned into thinking this normal after so long, how do I help???.. This guy also picks on people that cant stand up for themselves such as really small guys and kids.
2007-01-03 00:43:57 · 8 answers · asked by Abigail 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This guy is bringing your mom down fast, i would just talk to her heart to heart, at her age she should know this isn't healthy for her, get her out of the house and show her a nice time, i kinda was in the same spot with my mom, he wasn't that controlling, but he wasn't right for her, alot of drinking, leaving her home to watch his sick mother while he was out with friends all day, coming home drunk, telling her what and how to shop for food etc..the short of it is i went to get her to spend time with me and she soon realized she could do better, and she found someone who really treats her like a human being and she has been with him for 11 yrs and happy, happy. good luck to you.
2007-01-03 00:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by sweetemtation_123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom may need a man but she definitely does not need the one she has right now. She needs to put him out so that she can meet someone else someone that will treat her the way she should be treated. As for him picking on others all I can say is what goes around comes around.
2007-01-03 04:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by ctsnowmiss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother has made her choice in a partner. It sounds like it bothers you more than her. He is immature and obsessed with money. You cannot change him. Unless he is harming her you should butt out unless invited in. Your Mom will ask if she really, really needs it. Good luck.
2007-01-03 00:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by Stew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds bad to me and no disrespect but at her age she will feel the cold more,,if she isnt going to do anything about this there is little you can do im afraid,,some people accept anything from a relationship because it is their choice and to take away that choice will leave you on the outside looking in.do keep trying to talk to her but if she wont do anything what can you do.
2007-01-03 00:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is mad and bad...your mom needs HELP!!! he is using her he has to go, and get her someone who can take care of her even part time she doesn't need all that crab in her age she must be respected and happy and to enjoy the rest of her life and if he cant give her that tell her to kick him out !!!
2007-01-03 00:52:54 · answer #5 · answered by sky7th_7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take him out back and beat the sh*it out of him. He is just a bully. If you stand up to him, he won't bother you.
2007-01-03 00:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is abusive. My question is what other things worse is he doing. I'd get your mom away from this guy. He sounds like bad news.
2007-01-03 00:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by poof10958 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to help her to get out she doesn't desvere to be abused.
2007-01-03 00:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Renee B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋