What do you think about people that send kids to boarding school?

Question

Do you agree with it or think its child abuse and a way for lazy parents to have kids with out the hassle ?

Answer 1

well its a good way top get rid of the children!

Answer 2

Hi Carla, I do not think it necessarily abusive. I seriously doubt I would do it, if I ever have Children. Possibly, but I could not say I would necessarily want to. First, the expense, secondly, I think childern sent away to school at too young an age have less chance to trully bond with parents.
It must be remembered that boarding school is a tradition in some families that are better off financially generation after generation. It is simply done, no one questions it.
I do not see how it could be considered abusive, however, neglectful, perhaps. Neglect when parents seldom see the children on holiday, or treat them like furniture. But under those conditions it might be worse for the children who live at home.
Some people ought never have children, in my not always humble opinion.
Charles--That Cheeky Lad

Answer 3

People send their children to boarding schools for different reasons. There are also different type of boarding schools.

Some children are just such misfits that parents feel boarding school might be the best option to teach their children discipline. The alternative could, quite possibly, be jail eventually. Some children are so gifted in academics or another area that the only way to provide them sufficient training or challenges might be boarding school. In neither of these cases does it mean the parents do not love their children, abuse their children, or are lazy.

Answer 4

I don't agree with it, as boarding schools are no better than state schools, and by sending the children away, they will not form a good enough bond with their family.
Plus, the exapense and stigma that goes with them cannot be good for the child.
However, it is not child abuse, and in some cases, it may be for the child's best interests.
But on the whole, I wouldn't go.

Answer 5

not necessarily. although it is possible that some parents may send their kids off to boarding school to avoid hassle, but surely if that is the case then the kids in question are probably better off away from such negative influences.

generally, boarding schools are very sociable environments with higher standards of education and good opportunities for networking. the only real danger that kids who are sent to boarding school would be faced with is being removed from real life. maybe being surrounded with only people from privileged backgrounds they won't develop as much awareness of the real world as they might in a state school. but thats true of public schools in general, boarding or not. as long as the parents do their bit to keep the kids in touch with reality, i don't see the problem.

Answer 6

There's no stigma associated with boarding schools and they are certainly not for disruptive and naughty children.

People go to boarding school for all sorts of different reasons. I went to Boarding School because my father was in the Armed Forces and we kept moving up and down the country, not to mention abroad - we lived in 5 countries apart from the UK. I had already been to 12 other schools by the time I went to boarding school at the age of 15 and it was the only way for me to get some stability in my education. As well as a good education you are taught how to behave properly and to mix with anybody from any background. You also form really strong friendships. I am the only person I know, apart from my schoolfriends obviously, who is still really good friends with several of their schoolfriends even though we live in different parts of the country.

Answer 7

I don't think it's child abuse but it does make me question how much the parents really love and care about the child. If you truly love your children, you don't send them away from their family for months at a time. That's a sure-fire way to make them think that they're bad people or that they're being punished for something.

Answer 8

I would think that people do it because their children receive a better class of education at a public boarding school.

As to whether it is 'child abuse', how can it be, when the parent is not abusing the child!

Answer 9

as a "product" of a semi private boarding school, my parents certainly never abused me by busting their butts to try and afford the best education they could possibly present me with. for me, living in a very rural area and growing up as an only child miles from nowhere was certainly not the most social existence.

there were many tears seeing "us" students returning to school each semester, and endless welcoming smiles on "our" return home for the holidays. i do not know of one person i spent my high school with, who did not have that same relationship with her parents.

our parents loved us and gave us the best they could, even at financial and emotional sacrifice to themselves. i am eternally grateful for the opportunities they gave me. to state this is "lazy parenting" and "child abuse" is ignorance in the extreme.

as for such a school being for "bad kids", the only way you entered was through academic achievement and / or sports achievement of the highest standard. you were interviewed as if applying for a job, and if accepted, signed a contract as a committment to the school. if you broke that contract, you were expelled - plain and simple. i had a choice of subject matter to study that wasn't even heard of in a public school, and found myself past the average education of most 1st year university students after graduation. i wish all could have the choices i was given.

Answer 10

In itself it isn't child abuse, some children really benefit from being in such an environment. It's not meant to be punitive. Plus it's hard for the parents to see their kids go ...

Answer 11

I personally don't agree with it. The kids will get a better education but why have kids and then send them away to boarding school?