Sometimes I notice case where when people come back together after a separation that love is stronger than before and so the relationship ..What do you think of that ..? wouldn't you say it's true for those who have experienced that ?
2007-01-03 00:36:37 · 24 answers · asked by bobby s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No -your just going through the motions so you don't have to be alone.
2007-01-03 00:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by David B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the the relationship in the first place and how long things have been bad before the separation. I separated from my husband after 10 years....the last 3 I was very unhappy but couldn't work up the courage to leave until I just couldn't take it anymore. We were separated for a year....got back together because he supposedly had changed, we got along better etc... But it wasn't long before things went back to normal. We separated again and I've never been happier. I think in a lot of cases like mine...the people involved change in the beginning just to get you back and then when they are comfortable again bad habits come back and things go downhill!!! That has been my experience anyway!
2007-01-03 01:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES l would say that there is certainly a lot more loving and caring for each other when you first get back together but after a while unfortunately it tends to wear off again a little. It depends on the circumstances of the separation of course. I hope the strength of the relationship just keeps getting stronger and stronger. I guess we all live in hope of that !! Happy New Year.
2007-01-03 00:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the problems that caused the separation are not resolved, then it is only a temporary emotional burst. The problems will return, the stagnation will return, and that will be the end of that. If the problems ARE resolved, then it is definitely true, but there are MUCH better ways to achieve the same thing. It was not the separation, but rather the resolution of the problems that caused the stronger relationship. Relationships take work in order to keep the spark alive. Separation is the symptom of a bad relationship, whether the problems get resolved or not.
2007-01-03 00:42:52 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is true because there is always a reason for getting back together. Both learn their lessons from the mistakes and pay more attention to each other's feelings which makes the relationship stronger. So yes, it is true as far as I am concerned
2007-01-03 00:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be good and it may not be good, but yes most people come to realize what they had together and IF there is love from the man and repect from the wife things will work out but if that is lacking there is no hope. I would suggest reading LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. It puts things in a nutshell! All the people I have know to read this book have had successful marriages since, better thanever before.
2007-01-03 00:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never known a case where a separation improved a marriage. Usually, the opposite is true and they grow further apart. It's like having a marriage that's bad already, and then adding in all the stresses of a long-distance relationship.
2007-01-03 00:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say that it is for everyone, but in my case. I was divorced from my first husband for 10 years and we got back together. Now 4 years later our relationship is still amazing. Our love is stronger and maybe it's because we grew up a little while we were apart and now know what we want in our relationship.
2007-01-03 00:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think a separation can be a good thing for a couple to "iron" out some differences, and concentrate on what caused the separation in the first place. Sometimes, we go so fast in our lives, and are so mechanical, that we lose sight of where we were supposed to be going in the first place. A separation, or break, gives us a chance to re-group, and re-focus....to start over...and head in the right direction.
2007-01-03 00:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People only get back together after a separation because they realise that they cannot live without each other. And when that happens, they will tend to cherish the relationship more.
I wish me and my ex would reconcile too. Even if its 10 years down the road.
2007-01-03 07:07:46 · answer #10 · answered by Mimi P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the people. in my situation we were married for 4 years, he walked out on me saying he needed time apart, but he still loved me. I said yeah right. Well 8 months later he came crawling back and we have been together for 15 years now and yes I believe our love is stronger. we would not be together now if we hadn't separated for those 8 months. he grew up so to speak and found out that the grass was not greener on the other side. i know in my heart and sould that he will never walk out again no matter how bad things get!!!!!
2007-01-03 01:11:56 · answer #11 · answered by appleblossom1228 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋