I'm scared, I think my parents my divorce.?

Question

So, we live in Australia, but we're from an other country, Uruguay. My parents have been working hard here to make good money so then we an go back to our home country.

We're leaving in a few months, so we're already packing stuff in boxes and fixing up the house etc. My dad's been REALLY stressed lately and has a very short temper. He gets angry at my mum for no apparent reason.

My mum's been stressing too, and she's fed up with my dad. I talk to them, and my dad says something things like "I can't stand your mother, blah blah blah" and last time I talked with my mum she told me "You're father is geting on my last nerve." I even asked my dad if he still loved my mum, he said "I dunno anymore."

There love life is very bad at the moment, but I think it's just because of all the sgtress of moving to an other country (we're also a big family)

But I'm worried, as in VERY worried. Any thoughts or opinions on what's soon to come?

-Thanks for reading this.

Answer 1

I believe your parents are just stressed and perhaps disappointed that things didn't go as well for them as they had hoped and planned in moving to Australia.

Things will settle down, but before they do a few more outbursts can be expected.

Perhaps you and your siblings can do something special for your folks like make them a dinner that they can share together while the rest of you visit friends? They may just need some private time to sort things out.

Hope this helps and that things improve.

Answer 2

My wife and I have been talking about moving from where we live now, and have lived for 13 years, to someplace closer to where I work, about 40 miles (about 100 km -- I don't know if you use metric or English in Australia) away. Even that seems stressful to us. Your parents, on the other hand, are moving their large family to a whole different continent -- that has to seem overwhelming! When people are under a lot of stress, they tend to become angry more easily, and that appears to be what is happening with your parents. My advice to you is not to worry yourself too much about their marriage just yet. Give this some time. After the move, and after the family has had time to settle in after the move, probably sometime in the middle of 2007, things will start to get better. They have been married for a long time, so they won't let that marriage go easily.

Answer 3

There is a possibility this is all being caused from the stress of the moving around and the working so hard lately. Give it time things could smooth out once everyone is settled back down.

But if it does not then Please do not blame yourself. Sometimes adults grow apart and need time away from the other person. Although this will hurt other people, in the long run dont you want them to be happy?

If there fighting is involving the children ( which I see it is) sometimes its best to seperate yourselfs, more harm can be done to the family by the constant fighting then by spending some time apart and trying to work on the issues.

There are no easy awnsers here, hopefully they will do whats best for all involved.

Good Luck

Answer 4

For now you have to hang in there.Just because their fighting don't mean they don't love each other.Sometimes when your hurting you strike out at those closest.The stress of moving , especially to another country can be overwhelming.Hopefully they won't make any life decisions before they get back to Uruguay.Once home and if the situation continues I would gather the family together and talk about whats going on.You as siblings should tell them how concerned you are about them.I would advise against saying what is going to happen to us.That will put more stress on them.I would suggest counseling through the church or a private Consuela.Don't give up hope.My prayers go out to you and your family.

Answer 5

I had this problem once when i was very young, and thank god it went okay. But it was dead serious. My parents prolly dont think i remember, but i do, very well.

They fought (physically) and verbally and i kept on hearing 'I wish i didnt marry your father' or 'One day im gonna leave him/her' among many other things. Waking up at night to screaming fights was horrible.

I think i may have played a part in it being solved though, i remember one day i was crying and dad asked why, and i told him i loved them both and i 'dont want mommy to leave'. I have no idea what happened after that. It got better and now everythign is normal although i fear from time to time wondering what changed so dramatically.

My advice for you is to talk to them about it, individually when they're not pissed and maybe even together then maybe ask someone to help like a couselor.

Remember to talk to someone too ! Everyone needs a person to offload stress onto. If you need help you can contact me thru my profile. I'm only a late teen though, in case you need someone older.

Answer 6

Maybe you can talk to your other brothers and sisters to see how you all feel. Then all of you can sit down with your parents and tell them how you feel. Let them know that you know they are under alot of stress, but you kids are afraid they might get divorced. Tell them that you would like to see them work through their problems so that you can all stay a family.

But sometimes marriages don't last, Sweetie. It's not your fault or the other children's fault. Sometimes people fall out of love or one or the other outgrows the other one, kind of like they don't fit as a couple anymore. For your family's sake, I hope they stay together. But if they don't, they will try to help you kids through it. Good luck!

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like they're headed for divorce. Rather, they're just stressed out. If you want to do something to help them, give them some time alone. Suggest that they go out for dinner or a movie. Even a walk in the park can be relaxing when two people are under stress.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Yes, some people gets stressed by silly things and they release the stress by insulting others to the point of saying they don't love anymore their spouses. Very stupid words that the wind takes with it. I hope your parents keep still together.

Answer 10

My angel so many young people are feeling this and life is not always fair. Buy your mother a wonderful book called LOVE AND RESPECT by Dr Emerson Eggerichs. Tell her to read it from cover to cover and to do everything they tell you to do in that book. It is really a wonderful book and helps people to solve their marital problems. I also suggest you pray for them. Pray that God will intervene and frustrate all the plans of the devil in their lives. And you my child, you dont worry because God will take care of everything. Dad might be going through a crisis and even if they separate for a while, you just keep praying for God to restore what the locusts have eaten. Also remember that none of this is your fault. Love them both and dont take sides. Be impartial. Its very hard for you and I too am going to pray hard for you. Thank you for sharing your problem.

God will give you beauty when there are ashes and he will bring you joy in times of mourning and a garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness. When you feel heavy just praise him. Thank him for what you have asked him to do and thank him for who he is and for what he has done ans is going to do for you in the future.

God richly bless you and give all your worries and cares to the Lord, because he loves you so very much and wants to see you happy. Trust him with mom and dad and believe that he will bring them together again. Get the book. The isbn no is ISBN 1-86920-572-3. GOD RICHLY BLESS YOU.