2007-01-02 23:54:26 · 25 answers · asked by jennifer g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Jennifer your husband is going through mid life crisis and you know what, this thing is going to end and he will come right back to you. A lot of men do this. I call what they go through PENOPAUSE. It s terribly traumatic for you and a nightmare to go through. It can last for a short while but when the young girl comes to her senses and sees what the age difference is going to do eventually shell dump him. If he has money you have a problem. Chances are he has lost face and now looking for greener pastures forgetting that there is manure on both sides of the grass. You an take her to court for alienation and sue her blind. You can sue him for a divorce too if you wish or if you still love him, ignore this and move into your own bedroom but heres the trick....be so sweet and nice to him and watch what happens. ANother thing is if you are a person who prays a lot, pray that God will frustrate the plans of evil in the mans life. All hell will break loose between them.
Read Love and Respect by Dr Emerson Eggerichs and better thanthat WIld at Heart byJohn Eldredge The second book will explain everything to you about men including this phase. The first will be to give you the right tools to win him back.
I feel so bad for you, because it is so deflating. Just remember you ARE special and God loves you. Turn to him and see what he will do for you. he helped me through my husbands phase and guess what h e is back with me again and has been for 9 years since the episode. There is hope.
God bless you!
2007-01-03 00:05:24 · answer #1 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is painful to end a 31 years relationship but i should congratulate you both for such a long marriage. Ther must be lot of good things in both of you to survive that long. You should try to win him back becoz that young woman is not a fool to hang around with an old man.
Take professional help if needed and read those two books suggested. Don't give up at the first sign of trouble. You can fight like a tigress if need be.
If everything fails then there is no other option but divorce but that should be the last resort. It is absolutely right to end a marriage if there is chronic infidelity. How come you feel so desperate after 31 years? There must be a way to get him back. Find it.
Best of luck.
2007-01-03 09:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who is to say if it is right or wrong? Are the people in the 31 year marriage still in love with each other? Do butterflies dance in their bellies when they think of spending time with the other? Or do they, like so many others, begin to see their life partner as an inanimate object, something to be dusted around, someone to grab a beer for them from the fridge? One person does not end a marriage...it takes two.
2007-01-03 07:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by trivia buff 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the question is not "is it right" the question is " is he leaving you" I am sorry if this is happening to you and he's a jerk if he's leaving you after 31yrs for a younger woman , but don't dwell on the right or wrong issue... try to pick yourself up and move on with your life
2007-01-03 07:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Michele A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Separation would be emotionally hard for you and your children (if you have). If he leaves you and he lives with the other woman, then wait for the divorce from him (the one who initiates it shoulders more cost). If divorce not allowed, consider filing a case. If he stays with you while having another, you both need counseling to sort the problem and decide on it finally.
2007-01-03 08:15:20 · answer #5 · answered by wynx888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to end the marriage; I wouldn't want to live with a cheating husband!
2007-01-03 07:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the husband is cheating, why would you want to stay? Of course, someones heart is going to get broken, but I could deal with a broken heart easier than wondering everytime he walks out that door is he going to be with her? Also, I couldn't let him put his hands on me again after being with someone else. Just knowing he had sex with someone else would turn my stomach.
2007-01-03 08:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question here is has he been intimate with her? I believe every man desires to be with a younger woman sometime or another, but to actually go through with it, it's wrong! If you let it go, he's only going to do it again and again. Men only do what you allow them to do.
2007-01-03 07:58:49 · answer #8 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible actually does give this as the only excuse for divorce. I feel that it is best to try and work things out, but if things can't be worked out you do have a valid reason for leaving.
2007-01-03 08:34:24 · answer #9 · answered by Jenn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's absolutely right to end it. Who needs a husband who cheats? What good can come of that?
2007-01-03 08:00:27 · answer #10 · answered by Heather C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋