Last night after a few too many glasses of wine my husband and I got into a heated discussion. There are a LOT of underlaying stresses going on, but not having to do with that particular conversation.
I'm afraid I was this total ranting and raving, nagging biotch from hell. I mean, many of my points were valid, but it was the way I presented it which made it such a mess.
This morning we were pleasant, as usual, but with that running in the background of our minds.
I sent him an email at work saying I was sorry...it was short, but to the point. I haven't heard back and presume he is still rather disgusted with me.
What can I say or do to repair this?! Please help!!
(okay, no more wine...I get it)
2007-01-02 23:53:18 · 28 answers · asked by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, I know you want to repair things, but in this case, I believe that both of you are at equal fault, and you were the better person to try to work things out, even being nice enough to send an apology (which I wouldn't do)! Leave it be... let it blow over unless it's reaaaally tense. In that case, I think a sober discussion on this issue wouldn't be such a bad idea. However, don't make yourself out to be too desperate... if he sees this, he can probably take advantage and blame the entire thing on you, which'll make things even worse. HE should also be apologizing for his behavior. It there are problems, then it's most likely because both have issues, not just one.
Seriously, just act as if it didn't happen. Don't prod unnecessarily just because you "feel" like you have to patch things up. Sometimes, it's better to let time run its course.
2007-01-02 23:59:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all say things we really don't mean when we get angry. I'm sure it's not all your fault. Yes l guess you can blame the wine but my mum has always said people speak the truth when they have been drinking and l'm inclined to agree with her. Perhaps you went a bit too far but you were only letting off a bit of steam about the things that have been bothering you and it got out of hand. You sent your husband an email saying you were sorry and l'm sure he will be fine when he really thinks about it. Don't stress too much he is probably just busy. Have a nice meal on the table when he gets home and apologise in person. Oh and by the way, no wine tonight OK !! Cheer up everything will be fine. Happy New Year to you both.
2007-01-03 00:18:43 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like with you, it may take some time to get over some of the things you said. Give him some space. Apologize in an adult fashion, but also, make it a point to let him know that the alcohol escalated what you were feeling. If some points were valid, try to explain why you said what you said, while sober. Make sure you tell him that you know you acted out of control, and realize it. Again, give him some time, he'll come around.
2007-01-03 00:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens with me and my Husband sometimes to because I get very emotional when it comes to somethings and I know I come off wrong so here's what I do.I would wait until he gets home from work tonight and then I'd sit down with him and just explain that your sorry for the way you came off toward him last night and that you know you were in the wrong because of the way you presented yourself. And then just let him tell you how he's feeling and listen to him! And NO MORE WINE! lol I hope you guy's get everything straighted out soon. I know how hard it can be when you feel so bad for the way you said somethings.
2007-01-02 23:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by jenpoesavon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with him. Tell him to have a cool chat over matters and that you dont mean to be a raving, nagging biotch from hell. Haha!
At times, accumulation of stress and misunderstanding will cause any volcano to erupt. So, there's nothing wrong with being a raving, nagging biotch from hell at times. At least your concern has been raised.
Dont worry! There are many reasons why he didn't reply; maybe he's too busy or maybe he's thinking himself...
Men are different from women. When they think,, they prefer to be in their caves, thus they wont reply.
Unless he reckon his pride is hurt, therefore maybe you should approach him and tell him that you love him and talk it out(communicate!!!).
Cheers!
2007-01-03 00:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by Mary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just give him time to digest what you said and tell him that a lot of the things you came out with had been on your mind for a while and that you realise it was not best said under the influence. Make him a nice meal and sit and discuss everything that was said until you feel it is all resolved. Promise to talk more in future and not bottle things up to pop out at an inappropriate time.
2007-01-02 23:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make a point of communicating with your husband everyday so that things don't build up and you use the excuse of drinking too much wine to get your point across. Anytime you are sorry for your behavior say it in person instead of a email.
2007-01-03 00:09:12 · answer #7 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww..we all do this at one time or another. Are we just trying to challenge them to see how much they'll put up with? I've been a nagging biotch myself..but hey sometimes you gotta be. You can only ask so many times before it eats away inside of you. Your doing great apologizing to him, sometimes I can't even do that. The whole stupid pride thing. He'll accept it...just give him sometime..and yes...lol easy on the wine! and easy on the whine! :)
2007-01-03 00:04:19 · answer #8 · answered by Hear2Help 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say a drunk person speaks a sober mans mind.
However this was probably not the best time or way to express your issues with him. He probably did not take any of them seriously because he know you were drinking.
However, appologize in person to him, not over the computer. He is your husband and if you feel you were wrong he deserves more than an email as an appology.
Good Luck
2007-01-03 00:00:36 · answer #9 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will get over it, I would say sorry in person though. And dont baby the situation I mean if he cant get over it than something is wrong. When you say you are sorry for what you have done and you truly mean it, then it is up to the recieving person to accept it or not. I am sure he loves you very much and will be ready to put things behind and move on.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 00:09:39 · answer #10 · answered by ae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋