why they do think they are in love and end up having sex
i mean sex is sex which means when you want to have fun and love is love when you respect and do anything for your gf/bf wife/husband . do you agree with me ??
2007-01-02 23:26:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i am 16 and i have sex for fun not because of love .
2007-01-02 23:32:15 · update #1
me too...all fun, but i dont with people i "love", just hot guys ;-)
2007-01-03 07:23:04 · answer #1 · answered by chelsea 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is not a recreational sport my friend. Having sex has become some sort of social climing activity in that if you have it you must be cool. I do not think that the kids who are on this site that are pregnant or having sex a 12,13,14,15,16,17 are getting what they need at home from mom and dad. Girls who have not dad at home are looking for that lost male to love them and boys who are having sex, feel thay can give them that. In the end it really is a lot of due about nothing. In the end a baby is stuff for life with an unprepared teen parent, The parents never stay together to raise it. The guy usually leaves all the resposibility on the teen girl and the girl ends up uneducated and living at moms house on welfair. I have not even typed in the bit about the Aids and the STD's that run rapid in high school. SO, the fact that you have sex for the fun of it, you may want to really think about what you could end up with future teen dad.
2007-01-03 11:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teenagers think they are in love because they are excited with the thoughts or facts that someone may actually care about them, a person who has an attraction for them. Be honest, who hasn't in their lives felt giddy about knowing a person may like them? In a lot of situations, teenagers may mistake sex for love but that usually is not the case. Often times they break up or they just end up using each other for their physical attraction. These teenagers who become pregnant for mistaking sex for love are really clueless. I don't think a teen aged guy is ready to become a father at this age. So the girls you see saying they are pregnant may feel alone, not having a person whom they can talk to about what is going with them. I totally agree with you on the fact that sex is sex. If you are having sex with someone and you are not sure if you love that person, I don't think the sex would ever be meaningful unless you are friends with benefits. At this age, the discussion about love with teens is complicated. A girl may think just because a guy gave her a gift, it means he loves her. That unfortunately does not mean anything any more. To me, I think that love is taken for granted because its true meaning has been blurred and it seems people do not know the meaning of love these days.
2007-01-03 09:11:18 · answer #3 · answered by spyder90tishuez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%!!!
In this messed up world, sex is a sign of acceptance, security, confidence, and love.
But what they don't realise is...
SEX=pregnancy (among other things)
and
PREGNANCY=babies that are usually "kept" by the mothers, but are financed by the government and raised by grandparents so the mother can attempt to finish growing up themselves.
Granted, some teen mothers are very good mothers, but honestly, do they fully reach their potential? How many teen moms go to college, have a solid career, and are able to meet every physical, financial, and emotional need of their child?
Honestly, parents are either losing control of their kids because of the society we live in, or were out of control themselves as teens, so are continuing the cycle. Too many things are being "accepted" that shouldn't be. Parenting is getting tougher, and the younger moms are going to have it even harder.
God bless the young ones...may they know they are loved...Blessings
2007-01-03 07:48:36 · answer #4 · answered by Silverwolf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, sex is sex and love is love, but sex, IMO, shouldn't be had until you ARE in love with someone. Quite frankly, 'Hot Guy', you are too young to be having casual sex! You're not yet an adult, so why are you passing judgment on those who are 2 or 3 years younger than you are when they're doing practically the same thing as you? I think you are wrong with what you're doing and those 13 year olds are definitely wrong! You are all still CHILDREN living under mommy and daddy's roof and you should act like CHILDREN with mommy and daddy's rules...When you're an adult, THEN and only then should you be acting like one, and SEX is something adults do. You have the rest of your life to 'do it'...why spend the last part of your childhood doing it?
2007-01-03 07:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by BraidyLocks 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
What makes you think that they arent just having sex for fun, just like you said you do?
The way you say it, you are making it sound like you think that the only way to get pregnant is to be in love.
Most of them are not ready emotionally to have sex, but they do it out of pressure or curiousity. Sure, they might THINK they are in love with the person, but that is irrelevant when it comes to pregnancy. Since their bodies are not completely mature yet, their hormones may still be out of whack and so they experience weird symptoms which they interpret as possible pregnancy. (In fact, some symptoms of puberty or an oncomming period are the same as pregnancy).
2007-01-03 17:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In perfect world people, 16 or 13 or anyone would NOT be having sex because it is fun.
Sex is one of the most important we will do in out lives. To just 'do it' cause its fun be littles it and us along with it.
I am NOT saying that you are having sex with a lot of people. Please do not think that.
But to those that have sex with way to many people make me sad. Most worry more about loneing out their cars or jewlery or even their school book but have way less problem with jumping into bed with some they think they know.
2007-01-03 07:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
13 and 16 isn't much of a difference though is it. Everyone has a first crush were you think "i'm in love" but we grow up and realize it was stupid kid stuff. No one should be having sex just for fun though, whats the point? At the end of the day your still alone. Education is key, if were taught the truth about sex and life then we prolly would take it more seriously.
2007-01-03 07:39:42 · answer #8 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 6⤊ 1⤋
well hot guy 16 aint far from 13 n in todays world every age is having sex
n they r just stupid thats y they think they r in love at such a tender age n not using protection is another thing
well i cant fully answer your question but i think he boys got a way in making "fall in love" with them which = to having sex(unprotected)
2007-01-03 17:10:38 · answer #9 · answered by Kappy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats true and you know who we have to thank for the lil KIDS acting like this? thsoe stupid young celebs, mostly singers, but they come on TV (MTV) and dance around in no clothes singing about "love" and showing people having sex all the time or people shaking thier a$ses and its disgusting we shouldnt be showing this to younger kids it shouldnt even b on TV, especially when the singers themselves like rhianna are only 16!!!! this world is sick and yes you are right about the love and sex thing.
2007-01-03 07:30:28 · answer #10 · answered by ~*cRaCkNeSs*~ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
having fun with sex doesnt last you might get sickness.they cunfuss that is why .more info(www ffwpu)look for the fall of man
2007-01-03 08:23:29 · answer #11 · answered by minjong k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋