He is selfish and egoist and never care for your feelings,stubborn and have bad attitude .
2007-01-02 23:24:25 · 22 answers · asked by yin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Absolutely! Enough is enough, you have the right to be loved, and respected.
2007-01-03 00:01:33 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am assuming here that you've tried talking to him about the way he makes you feel, and because he's a selfish egoist, he doesn't care about your feelings. If that's the case, by all means you are justified in wanting to end your marriage.
Sounds like you put up with a lot for the sake of your kids, and now you'd like to be able to be happy, and enjoy your life again. If you think it would help, tell him he either goes in for some couple's counseling, or you are leaving. If you've already tried that route, just leave. You DO have a right to be happy.
As far as people telling you that you took a vow to marry for life, let me remind them that your husband took a vow to honor and cherish you. How come he can break his vows, but you have to keep yours? I am REALLY tired of seeing people post that nonsense. Anyone who thinks that getting married is a free pass to treat another person badly FOREVER needs their head examined.
God doesn't want you to be treated badly. He loves you. I wish you luck.
2007-01-03 09:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by homebuyer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are unhappy, youre children are grown and you feel that there is no other way to solve the problem, go for it.Why would anyone want to stay with someone that obviously after 20 yrs you know there will be no love lost? Get out, get you a new friend and be happy. Dont grow old with someone you dont love.
2007-01-03 08:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Brat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
20 yrs is along time to just throw away without trying to work out your problems. You have put up with all his bad habits for this long so what's changed ?? Has he gotten worse, or are you just realising how much it annoys you ?? Have you changed maybe ?? I would definitely suggest that you discuss your feelings with your husband, let him know that it is getting you down so much that you are contemplating leaving him. Hopefully that will shock him into changing his bad habits and you may be able to save your marriage. If talking to him doesn't help and he is not prepared to change at all, then l guess you should consider leaving him but at least try to fix things first or you may regret it further down the track. Good luck to you.
2007-01-03 07:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not a very good answer but in my opinion perhaps you should understand first why he acts that way. Counselling certainly helps as both knows whats in each other's hearts. If you still plan to divorce,think again,does your children agree on this or happy about it?
Besides your marriage lasts for 20 years don't you think it's a waste to divorce over a small issue?(whatever the issue is)
2007-01-03 07:34:27 · answer #5 · answered by FloralLover 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever tried counselling? If he is willing to have a third party intervention by way of counselling, chances are that things may work out favourably for you both. If on the other hand he rebuffs all such attempts, then your best bet may be first separation and eventually complete divorce. Who knows, there may be another love lurking out there for you!
2007-01-03 07:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Paleologus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if were in your shoes, i wont give up my 20 year relationship though your kids are all grown ups but still that doesnt count that you can easily escape with your problems. just deal with the trials your encountering right now, you have kept your promises with one another by entrusting and spend your life with your partner for the rest of your life. you have been with the person half of your life, you already have accepted whoever he is from the beginning so, at this point of time dont easily let go. you might feel guilty in the end cus you let go the person you truly love (20 years is a proof!). Thanks!
2007-01-03 07:35:50 · answer #7 · answered by leoNpari 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If it meant living the rest of my life happy I would totally do it. Why spend the rest of your life living unhappy with yourself and him? You still have a great chance at being happy either by yourself or with someone else, your children are old enough to understand and it is probably about time you did something for yourself! Goodluck!!
2007-01-03 10:42:45 · answer #8 · answered by auzzimama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
And you married him 20 years for better or worse. In the house of god. were you in love then? I think you need to talk about the days when you two met and bring back old memories and tell him it's time it goes back to those feelings or your going to change...........He'll hate cooking,washing , He doesn't know what he's got until it's gone.
2007-01-03 07:36:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the ideal time to end your marriage with grown children who doesn't need his support. You are free to go. Run!!!!
2007-01-03 10:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dont end your marriage bcuz u have a grown up children and now is the age for them to start thier life if u both seperate now they will feel very sad other wise if u want to leave him its your wish
2007-01-03 07:43:28 · answer #11 · answered by priya5343 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋