I think my wife is bored of how we have sex- I am... Can anyone help with new ideas?

Question

We normally have the same routine- I finger her g-spot a little bit and she gets really in the mood... she's laying down and I'm on my knees by her breasts... she then sucks my piece for a little while (and it feels great by the way) sometimes this can last up to 15 or 20 minutes... she is very wet and moaning and does not stop sucking... right when we are about to ***- we normally do it doggystyle for about 10 - 15 minutes and then she gets on top for the rest of the session. another 15 minutes or so. Now, I'm not complaining about it not being good... because it is! I think for both of us... plus... the way she sucks me and gives me so much attention, I know that I am a very lucky guy... but I worried she may be getting bored of the same routine whenever we do it. Can any wives or girlfriends relate? What do I do? I don't really feel comfortable "talking" to her about this... I'm scared of upsetting her by saying something I shouldn't.

Answer 1

communication is all you need it will be fine if you got that how else will she know

Answer 2

Maybe talk to her after you have sex. Ask her if she is satisfied. Tell her you love what you are getting but maybe want to add something or whatever.

You may want to increase the intensity by going to the movies, sitting in the back and necking from time to time, maybe do a little fingering or sucking. Maybe having it in the car (be careful where you park), or on the ground, in the woods. Surprise her with a vibe or some device.

If you want more creative ideas than you can handle, get one of the many "good sex" books available.

Also, do you have to have the big O every time? Can you gift her with a giant one every once in a while and she you another time?

There is a Tantric game that you can play. You sit cross-legged, facing each other (naked). The object of the game is to not have an O. You just manually pleasure your partner and they you. The one that has a big O loses. It's kind of a Win-Win situation.

Have fun.

Answer 3

First of all, you shouldn't be scared of talking to HER about it, but obviously NOT scared of asking random strangers...she is the only one that can give you a true and honest answer here.
Having said that, how long have you been together...ya know, how long has this 'routine' been going on? It can get a bit boring, even if it does feel good. Just ask her if she is happy with the way things are!
Ask yourself! Are YOU bored of it? Would YOU like to spice things up a bit? Would YOU like to try some different positions/ideas/etc in the bedroom? If so, then chances are she would as well. If she enjoys being with you, then she may be open to ideas of how to make things even better! Why not go to a bookshop (just a regular one, doesn't need to be a dodgey porn shop!) and choose TOGETHER a sex book, like the Kama Sutra or something about how to spice things up. It might be a bit embarrassing to buy the book, but get over it. Even if you decide not to try many/any/all of the positions/ideas in whatever book you choose, it could give you some ideas on how to make things better for you BOTH!

Communication is key! If you can have sex with her, but can't talk about it together, then there is something wrong there. The first time you talk about it, it might be humiliating for you, but get it out there in the open. Don't worry about it! I'm sure she won't be offended! Ask her if there is anything you can do for her to make her sexual experience better or if there are things she'd like to try or fantasies she'd like to fulfill, and tell her your answers to the questions...you never know: she might be up for anything you've got up your sleeve!!

Good luck and just have fun!

Answer 4

In my experience talking about it will make her think there is a problem, even if you say there isn't a problem. Try to change things more subtly by giving her the idea to make a change - go to a secluded beach and get oiled up in coconut oil... you wont be so likely to have the same routine then. Otherwise you could suggest watching some porn, or show her something "filthy" a friend has supposedly emailed you - they will do all sorts of different things and SHE may suggest trying new things then.

Answer 5

Firstly, buy your wife a clit kit from Ann Summers, then tell her she is not allowed out of the bed room until she has tried every one! Then get her to show you how to use it on her. Secondly, get on the Ann Summers web site and choose sexy undies and some toys, creams, lotions. The cone is a great toy, but quite expensive and I think over rated. Vibrators you can never have enough of these, share them play with them try anal! You have to be careful with women, especially where porn is concerned, you see if we are having a fat day then potentially it is a disaster!! But use visual stimulating tools dvds, mags, but the key is let the woman choose until she is comfortable at you bringing home visual aids too, woman have more issues about their body then men. Talking is definately a big must, I know it is hard to talk but why not try talking about your fantasies, go steady at first don't want to shock her too much into knowing you want her and her mate blowing you off!! After good communication and time believe me it is amazing being able to share the dirtiest and filthiest fantasies with the one you love. Lose yourself for a while. Try different times of the day, different places, get her to blow you off at the cinema, buy a book of positions off ann summers and then try every one, see which ones work for you both. Most of all make sure you laugh through everything, try things never be afraid to say you like something or want more of something or would prefer less of something. Never be afraid to ask questions, ask her what she likes, what turns her on. The most horniest thing in the world for me is knowing I am with my guy and what I am doing is getting him off and me. Hope this helps... Oh and just for a final thing, try looking at the videos on www.mrsnake.com together.... Get her to show you what kind of thing she likes..... It's great!! Me and my guy can't get enough.

Answer 6

You can't talk to her about it??? How do you communicate..mental telepathy???? The biggest sexual organ is your brain..use it. They say variety is the spice of life. I'm talking with your wife by the way. Would you want to have the same thing for dinner every night? Would she? The only way you'll find out is by TALKING.
Just don't put on a porno film, men are much more visual than women are. A lot of women are turned off by porno.

Answer 7

Massage reminds people what it feels like to feel good. Massage can be a way of assisting the body to heal itself from results of physical or emotional stress. Caring touch can have profound, positive effects on one's mental and emotional state; Massage is the use of hands to manipulate the soft tissues of the body, particularly the muscles. It can be used for relaxation, stimulation or rehabilitation of the whole body or part of it.
Massage is great for relaxation and getting to know your partners body and what pleasure them. Relaxing into orgasm is far more intense than being all tense.

Answer 8

add another woman, lol, talk to your wife, communcation is the key to a relationship, even if youre scared, dont be scared she's your wife , remember, do other things, add things, switch positions, maybe you should go down on her, be more romantic, candles, roses, baby oil, focus more attention on her instead of vice versa, i'm sure she would love it, tell her she's beautiful, everyday, when she wakes up when she goes to bed, spontaneous dont plan things, tell her she's hott and sexy. let her know how sexy she is, maybe youre getting bored of the same routine, spice it up, you know what to do, now get to it

Answer 9

First of all dude, you have given us WAY too much information. Besides you should talk to your wife. You don't have to tell her that you're bored just ask her what her fantasy is and if there is anything different that she'd like to try and tell her somethings that you would like to try. No one on here can tell you what your wife may enjoy. Good luck

Answer 10

try have sex outside at the beach or in the woods or car anywhere but the house or sex in front of a friend watch sex movie asked her what did she like or would like to try most women are shy but some are open to new ideal good luck

Answer 11

Try fingering her anal wise while doing her g spot. When going doggy switch to full anal, entering ever so slowly, especially the tip of your penis. If she doesn't have spasms, which can be involuntary, she'll love it. I've known some women who like it better than vaginal. Good luck.