A friend of my wife, found out she was not carrying a gene for a disease that is 100% fatal. She had a 50% chance of having it (Huntington's Chorea). After years of her (decades actually) husband supporting her, taking her around the world, fathering two wonderful children, she decided after finally having the nerve to take the genetics test that she didn't want him anymore because she was interested in other things (men, world, work....etc,) and left him (taking the kids.) Is she evil, free spirited like my wife says, or screwed up after years of stress. I mean her husband is suicidal now. I give her two thumbs down. WHAT ABOUT YOU?
2007-01-02 22:50:14 · 4 answers · asked by Huguenot 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She may be a free spirit. However, free spirits are generally free, even under the specter of a life-threatening illness.
Evil? Well, that is hard to determine. Does she have a history of "evil" behavior? Such as doing what she wants no matter who gets hurt? Is this a one-time situation? Usually, someone who has a serious personality disorder (socio-path or psychopath) will generate some feelings of revulsion and distrust no matter how good they are at hiding it and faking normalcy. If you want to know more about this sort of thing, read M.Scott Pecks "People of the Lie." If you have known this woman for a year or more and have not had suspicions about her, she is likely experiencing what is described below.
Yes, the stress and fear of maybe having this illness may just have wrapped her up pretty tight. Finding out she didn't have the gene may have broken the dam.
Also, you don't know what went on behind closed doors in that marriage and may never know. Let your wife remain friends with her hopefully, because when she comes down from that high she will need support. If this guy is a friend of yours, be there for him. Neither of you need to take sides. It just is how it is.
2007-01-02 23:23:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
EVIL. Pure and Simple. The man that stood by her for years, and she just picks up and goes. IF she was a freee spirit should would have taken up the things that interested her when she thought she was going to die. NOT after she finds out she is going to live. Sounds like a ***** to me, and I hope she never finds a man like that again.
2007-01-02 23:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by FILLME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not evil nor a free spirit but a little self absorbed. But who are we to judge because unless you were in there household 24 hours a day, no one knows what may have been going on behind closed doors.
2007-01-02 23:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by juicie813 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say to you MYOB. This clearly is not your problem. You can be supportive to your friend but there is another side to the story that you're clearly not being told. There are always 2 sides to every break up story.
2007-01-02 23:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋