i am bisexual and i got this friend who i can neva stop thinkin bout. ive known her for six yrs and i thnk i have feelings for her. she does not no i am bi and i dont no how to or even if i shud tell her. she is not bi or lesbian but sometimes i feel like she is flirting with me. im not sure if its a crush and ill get over it or if i am actually in love with her because like i said i alwayz think bout her and im alwayz puttin her before myself. and sometimes when she is talkin to me i find that i cant take my eyes off her coz she is so gorgeous. does it sound like im in love and i should tell her if so then how do i tell her or is it jst a crush that i will get over in time. plz help me.
2007-01-02 22:48:50 · 8 answers · asked by dudett 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I feel the exact same way about the girl I'm in love with, so you might want to take a chance. I did and it turned out really good. I could go into a lot more detail about how it happened, but I won't. To be honest, life is short, take some chances. You might end out really happy with her. Just flirt back and see how she takes it. Find out how open-minded she is to the bisexual thing. You can find out without even telling her you're bisexual.
2007-01-02 23:28:27 · answer #1 · answered by Magickal Goodness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shut up and forever keep your peace.
If you do not tell her you will never know. My guess is she feels something for you as well. The big gamble is if she is not into a bi relationship and avoids you after will you be miserable? Are you enjoying her friendship now that you still want to take it to next level which is probably just sexual?
Life is full of uncertainties! And if you keep quiet and keep thinking that you are the only bi in the world then suffer the consequences of your inability to communicate your feelings.
You make sure about your feelings for her and throw some hypothetical questions like " I think I am falling in love with a girl" and see how she'd react and if you think it is positive-GO GIRL grab her by the neck and give her a long French kissing LOL.
Bottomline-take the chance and be careful as well coz I know you value friendship more coz it is more lasting than a sexual act.
Good Luck!
2007-01-03 07:06:44 · answer #2 · answered by wolfass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand your English, so I am guessing that English is not your first language. I am not sure if I understand your question.
My suggestion is however is that you try being direct. If you have misjudged this person, they will let you know that they are not interested.
If you are correct and the attraction is mutual, your mental struggle will end, because you will have better idea where you stand with her.
If you have known someone for six years, then you have a better idea about how to approach her, that is, would it better to write a note, make a phone call, or invite her for a quiet coffee together.
Good luck.
2007-01-03 07:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by Kedar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take it slow and easy. Play it safe. Tell her that your a little bi-curious, and the reason your telling her is because you completely trust her in every way. See what she says, and how she feels about it. If she's cool with it than ask her if she has ever thought about it. If she says yes than I think you know where to go from there.
2007-01-03 17:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Q~T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a similar situation ...... Sounds to me like you are in love. When you think about someone constantly & you put her before yourself .....That is definitely a good indication. My best advice is to hint somewhat. Ask her how she feels about a Same Sex Relationship & if she would ever consider one. If she says she may be open to it......Maybe then you could tell her. However , you proceed ....Make sure you do it gently. Don't come on too strong. Good Luck !
2007-01-03 09:25:33 · answer #5 · answered by whatamithinkin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, learn to spell. it doesn't make you look cool to write like that, just stupid.
second, if you're in love, you know it. it's too distinct of a feeling to not know.
2007-01-03 16:48:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your not sure you love her den u dont its a simple as that........ love is the strongest thing you can feel and if your not sure its love then your not feeling it sounds to me like just like a really big cursh....
2007-01-03 06:54:23 · answer #7 · answered by kerryman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your definitly love her but you shouldnt tell her quite yet you should direct her to telling you or you can play trouth or dare to get it out of her.
2007-01-03 18:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by renee s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should sit her down and have this conversation with her and see what happens.
2007-01-03 08:38:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋