why is it when you look at other people, their life seems so perfect, good grades, good in sports, polite and friendly. everything seems to be just straight for them.
then sometimes when you look back at your own, it seems .... not as good. why?
2007-01-02 22:16:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
we only see the exterior and we cannot see what these people's struggles are. i know several people who i think their lives are perfect compared to mine. yet when i get a glimpse their private lives i see many problems that make them human.
my cousin who seems to have it all his own real estate business, a good wife, two beautiful kids, a newly built home with a pool in the back and a yard that my son can only dream about. yet when i started spending time with them i realized that they are not so perfect. they are in debt for one thing, my cousin is a real jerk to his wife by not helping her with the kids or the cleaning, and on his wifes' side of the family they are a bit racist (she is white and we are a black family). so u see the grass is not always greener on the other side.
another girl i knew in college seemed so perfect. as i got to know her i realized that although she was so popular in school and was so beautiful, her home life and love life was so sad.
2007-01-02 22:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life always seems easier when it's not your life. I have a big problem of hating my current situation, my job, my finances. I'm always watching other people and thinking their life must be so much easier and better. It's not. It just SEEMS that way because I'm not living their life. Everybody has problems, things they want to change, etc. Some just APPEAR more put together than others. Doesn't necessarily mean things are what they seem.
2007-01-03 00:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you live in a minority, not race necessarily, but a political minority where your thinking although acceptable is not listened to or acknowledged, looking back myself, why would i do what some of the people do around me, since being of a race that others do not always like or want around, i see the world differently from some, and in this city where i have been for many years, unwillingly, i see things differently, would i have done better in life, i think so, would i have achieved financial wealth, i think so,
then you might be living in an illussion, and not really appreciating reality, but i am sure you are prevented from having and doing, and that is the paramont reason, health, people make people sick to sell drugs, it is as simple as that, not all mental patients are crazy, they are kept from being better then what is around in worlds of sports entertainment politics, law enforcement, your local police might not be too nice to you, and prevent you from living properly or as you should, think about it, there is an expression, all that glitters is not gold, and this can be applied to the police, and people who present themselves as doing good or what is right, this what is right business, is something to look out for
2007-01-02 22:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by chinpingmei 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont see it as negative, but positive and as a challenge to alter and put inspiration in your life for the new year! Think about and write down what you really want to achieve and set about doing them! Its something to set your mind on and keep you from being upset by other's achievments! Its a new year so go go and make the most of it! You never know, it could be great fun and potentially change your life!
Happy New Year x
2007-01-02 22:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by Talia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've got performed loads of analyze in this, i've got even traveled to Arkansas, this is a universe removed from California, and function discovered no life corresponding to ours. i've got run during clever canines, protection stress intelligence this is unquestionably clever (this is uncommon in all universes), and a universe populated completely of a race of hairdressers. unfortunately, I surely have discovered no information of any life including ours, i think of God tried it as quickly as and have been given the heck out of circumvent.
2016-11-26 00:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We cannot see what goes on behind closed doors..... Others "seem" to have the perfect life because we see what they want us to see. There may be a lot of problems and insecurities that you are not aware of!
Actually, you may have a better life than theirs! (you just don't know it)
2007-01-02 22:21:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure everybody feels like that
I'm valedictorian, and I'm great at tons of things
and still i feel like my life is bad, while other peoples
seem much better than mine.
You simply have to contemplate on all the good
things in your life that others wish they had.
2007-01-02 22:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by nancy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you don't know of their imperfections.
I do this too, particulary with my friends and at times I start to envy them.
"You always want what you can't have." But the fact is, you can have it.
You never really know what its like behind the scenes unless you are the actor.
2007-01-02 22:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by foolonadate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you honestly think these people's life is perfect, you are dead wrong. Everyone's got their own problems. They're just better at hiding it. I'll know, I'm one of those people.
2007-01-02 22:20:34 · answer #9 · answered by Diamond 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
2007-01-03 10:47:49 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋