I am in my twenties and I am still a big V I am under 25 but I feel like I am going to be like this forever I never seem to meet people?
2007-01-02 21:57:15 · 37 answers · asked by hayley 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
dont stress about it.theres nothing wrong with that,when you are ready the time will come and you will wonder what all the blimming fuss was about...lol only joking,sorry
2007-01-02 21:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Judging from your previous questions it would appear that you have some psychological issues that may be centred around your self esteem, that is how you see yourself, and how you perceive that other people see you.
It is a hard step to recognise that the issues you have are to do with yourself, not those around you, but once you can accept this you are already part way towards resolving your issues and moving forward.
I recommend you go to your GP and discuss how you feel about everything, the doctor will most likely refer you for an assessment appointment with a counsellor. At this assessment both you and the counsellor together can decide if it will help you to have further sessions.
Go for it and have a better 2007.
2007-01-03 00:08:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's simple to solve by finding out about emotional intelligence. Lots of books on the subject as relates to everything from sports, people skills, relationships and self esteem. Better yet, find out about intuitive thinking. Woman like to be understood. You can understand how they are feeling better than they can, because you are more object, not inside the problem. Intuitive thinking can even give you the kind of self control, where women will be chasing you. Get good enough and you can pick the right one. Practically anyone you choose will be available. I know of no other way besides drugs to not need them at all. Do you really want to end up with monster kids, a nagging wife, and bills? Alas, truth is stranger than fiction.
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Emotionalintell/?yguid=293593604
2007-01-02 22:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in exactly the same position, and its more worst for me cause I'm a bloke and I get really frustrated and I I'm guessing that its kind of more frustrating for men the way we are. Every time I see a girl i like or someone really hot I think just do it, but with my life style, too good manners and social status it's not easy so my choices have been cut down to meet the right person who I am sure to be committed to at least for a while, and its really difficult with the people I meet and places i go.
But I just get on with life and take this suffering and I'm sure god can forgive my sins seeing as I have voluntarily never had and have held back from having sex for such a long time even with all the temptations around me (at least he best do!!). and worst of all I feel embarrassed when all my mates and some still in their teens going on about their sex life and there's me with nothing to say.
I'm sure we'll find the right people soon enough and it's best just to get out and make friends and take it from there. And it should be that much more easier for you as unlike myself you won't (I'm assuming) have many restrictions. Just make sure you trust the person and don't rush into things and don't let sex run your life as it is one small part of your life (enjoyable as it may be).
2007-01-02 22:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by vik 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 25 and I'm still a virgin. Funny story - I went out with a man last year for 10 months, I was thinking 'at last, I'm going to get some' and turned out he was impotent!
I'm gaining confidence as I get older, I used to be really shy. I'm relaxed about meeting new people and enjoy practicing talking to new people. Just haven't met that 'special someone' yet. Try going to new classes to meet people.
Don't know whether I'd tell the fella that was going to take it though, it's a big responsibility for him! Don't worry, you're not alone. It's better to be like us than sleeping around catching all sorts of STI's.
2007-01-03 00:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by gymcoach81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont meet people just to have sex with them. Sex is something which happens in a relationship with understanding, caring, loving, etc.
Just not having sex should not be lowering your self-esteem as it has nothing to do with physical pleasures. It is high time you stop thinking that your self-esteem is becoming low because you didnt have a physical relationship.
If you are concerned that you are not meeting people, becoming friends, then there might be some problem with your outlook and your basic nature for which I would advise you to go and visit a counselor who can be of a great help to you.
If you are just worried about having sex, then there are other ways to have it!
2007-01-02 22:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by R Murali 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your self-esteem should be based only on your accomplishments in life.
Wait a minute, you just admitted that it was...
My bad.
Seriously, anyone can fill out their self-esteem by being well-rounded and having accomplishments in a variety of areas (education, work, religion, volunteerism, leadership, artistic talents, helping friends, etc.)
As a matter of fact, if sex is the only thing that you think influences your self-esteem, you will NEVER feel good about yourself because you're letting the rest of your mind and soul starve.
2007-01-02 22:02:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is no big deal pal.When you get out and about in a socialcircle eventualy it will happen and with the right person for the right reason.not just for the sake of having sex. It is an overrated pastime anyway.Deep down love is harder to come by than sex as you will find out in later life. That is why most marrages end up in divorce.
2007-01-02 22:07:24 · answer #8 · answered by bighammy1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best thing i ever did was by myself a vibrator - seriously!! Once you learn how to turn yourself on it's amazing how sexy you feel when you are in the company of others. Alcohol ALWAYS makes me feel horny too so go out clubbing with your mates, get mildly piddled, have fun in the loos (you can even buy mini vibrators in some pub loos!!) and go out onto the dance floor a totally different, confident woman! You will SOON meet someone - even if its not Mr right, as long as you use protection you can use and abuse him and have a planned one night stand that you can gain experience from! You never know, it may lead to a longer lasting relationship......
By the way, sex isn't as good as everyone says it is - i can't orgasm unless I've got my toys to play with!!! Some of my best orgasms have been alone.........!
2007-01-02 22:14:25 · answer #9 · answered by cuddlymummy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm...i say just relax...casual sex and meaningless sex are rife these days..dont be jaded and feel that your inexperience is a disadvantage in the bedroom cos many woman complain bout the lack of their sexual partners prowess in the bedroom cos all the guy is focussing on is how big his erection is and if the woman is performing some gymnastic porno routine in bed(with high heels preferably) rather than just focussing on his womans needs.take this time to understand woman and naturally u will be an accomplished lover when your time comes...size does matter for woman..so dont bed a woman with a small cold heart...be all the man u can be and she will love your accordingly..happy hunting!!
2007-01-02 22:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you just want to have sex with some random guy then go to a club and keep coming on to people and it will happen soon enough. (id guess you dont really want to do this cos if you did it would have already happened by now.) if you want to find a boyfriend who will care about you to have sex with, just go out a lot and talk to lots of people you dont know. if you find this hard, youll have to keep forcing yourself to do it otherwise you wont get more confident. THIS IS THE ONLY WAY! if you never seem to meet people.. start meeting people. just talk to people. its not that hard. have a drink before hand if it helps. ive found people are attracted to confidence, and they often like it if you just go right up to them. i hope you have the strength to make yourself more confident so that you can meet people. when you meet more people, youre bound to find some one you can have sex with. hope that helps
2007-01-02 22:10:33 · answer #11 · answered by john9999999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋