i am married..i had a one night stand with a special friend of mine..it was great..i find myself more romantic..more poetic...i know it won;t happen again..still i imagine all those things when i make love..is it normal??can a women love 2 persons at the same time??
2007-01-02 21:56:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, being unfaithful isn´t very common in married ladies... but, things like that happen.
I suppose sometimes love can become very confuse.
Sometimes you are married with somebody so many years and every day seems to be the same and there ain´t nothing new to discover - everything is just a routine ----
---- and then there appears somebody new in your life and fills your life with joy, tenderness and attraction...
That´s why spouses should never permit the routine to ruin their partnership...
I understand that you are very confused now and that you are still thinking of this other guy. But, I think it would be best to give him a special place in your memories and try to sort our your marriage.
maybe you think it´s love, but it´s just atraction and maybe you think you´re in love, because this guy gives you this attention that your husband doesn´t give you.
The most important thing is: Keep your secret with you and don´t tell anybody!!
2007-01-03 00:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anita P 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes the whole concept of love becomes confusing...as in your case.
No. You are not a S L U T as someone mentioned, and you cannot be termed as normal either. It is just a little abnormal to be like that - but for all other reasons, I can vouch that you are perfectly normal.
All you need is some solitary thinking. You don't go around Yahoo!, Google etc. asking for answers...it's there deep within you - and bear in mind, that the sacred vow of marriage unto a man is something that you should necessarily abide by.
You can love 2 people at the same time. That is, if you are ready to make your marriage a hell and bring in hatred and disgust between you and your spouse.
2007-01-02 22:10:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If what you say is true about the feelings you had with
a special friend then it will not be just a one night stand,
Evidentally you are missing something in your marriage
because you are not in the keeping of vows in a marriage,
As for if a woman can love two persons at the same time
yes it can happen but it will definatley overtime ruin a
relationship with one of them.
2007-01-02 22:15:35 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that what you are feeling is love. The grass is supposed to always be greener on the other side, or something like that.... That's crap. folks get bored and a little change seems so thrilling, but that other guy..... you don't live with him 24/7, so you don't really know his crappy habits. You're just lustin' over something you're not supposed to have. And for the love of pete, don't tell your husband. If you love your husband at all, just treat him extra special and forget this lust for your friend. It's not worth messing up a good marriage.
2007-01-02 22:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by mom of 3 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes things happen for a reason, maybe your married life has become boring and not much excitement left in it. I do not agree with having affairs and think that there are better answers to this solution. You and your husband need to sit down and discuss the real issues at hand. It sounds like you need to add excitement to the marriage. After a while married people stop looking at one another and seek out others. I feel that is what happened to you and this old friend. So sit down with your husband and be honest tell him how you are feeling and what you need. Is a one night stand worth throwing your years of marriage and trust away? Best of luck to you.
2007-01-02 22:12:41 · answer #5 · answered by victoria_bell_99 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You broke your vows and cheated. For a few moments of "special" lust you endangered a relationship you are supposed to have been committed to.
More romantic, more poetic, yeah right. Look in the mirror and be proud of committing the most selfish act one spouse can commit on another.
Why don't you tell your spouse what you did and see if they think it was poetic and romantic?
2007-01-02 22:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
natasha u said ur married for how lng u have been married , do u have children ? as my anwer will depen on anwering this 2 questions and regarding loving 2 persond at same time it is possible and it happens to many women but it depends how u handle it .
as for me marriage is the most imp.thing in my life even i was attracted to 1 of my close friend but i have 1 child and my hubby is very good i cannot think of breaking my marrriage so i stopped thinking about him . so now i m happy.
2007-01-02 22:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by simran 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hii Natasha... looks like the one night stand was out of drudgery of sex with your spouse. But then for few hours of pleasure you have put your marriage at stake. Just imagine the amount of hurt and pain your spouse will experience if he comes to know of it.
But then do not get me wrong ... i am just saying what everyone would tell. Well if this episode has brought some joy/ change in you then good and may be it will enhance the relationship with your hubby
2007-01-02 22:30:08 · answer #8 · answered by Sudden 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One night stand? To me it is an impulsive move to sleep with another person other than the lawful partner. Maybe it is fine for some, but me, an old fashion one will definitely say "NO, IT'S WRONG, IT'S NOT NORMAL."
Can a person love more than one, I don't know but when I am attracted to another opposite sex, I will always tell myself "Wake up, MARRIED, married, MARRIED."
2007-01-02 22:20:48 · answer #9 · answered by j t 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would leave the relationship for shame. How can you look your partner in the eyes knowing what you know? If you do stay, it'll haunt you--and if you have or will have children in the future, your past mistake could leave a devastating scar on their lives. You made a mistake, and are rationalizing it, and that's normal. But this is a mistake you don't want to live with. Besides, your husband deserves to know who you really are and what you really think is acceptable in a relationship.
2007-01-02 22:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋