stupid arguments? is it worth it?

Question

me and my husband fight over the most stupid things and he can get really mean. For example he had 2 ice creams before dinner leaving one left. I thought the last one would be nice for desert so I went to greab it and as soon as he saw what i grabbed he decided he wanted it. He snatched it off me and ate it in front of me saying 'mmm this is such a good ice cream, dont you love how creamy these are?' I was pretty upset, not coz i didnt have it, but because he didnt even want it it was just out of spite. I said to him that it was not very nice and he looked me in the eye and told me that he hates me. I dont understand what I did. I know its such a petty thing, but it kind of hurts. Any suggestions? every time he drinks he gets like this, but I cant stop him drinking

Answer 1

He thinks you like that................maybe you do?

Answer 2

I have read your other Questions and quite honestly I think both you and your husband need some serious Family Mediation. I cannot understand for the life of me why he would buy you a kitten for Christmas three months before you are due to give birth, and why you are the one having to clean up the litter. I cannot understand why you sit back and allow him to go off to visit 'friends' while you sit at home alone night after night with no family or friends to support you. I cannot understand why you allow him to taunt you over ice cream, eat his meals in front of the computer, drink to excess, tell you he hates you ... in short, I cannot understand, dear Little Miss Bump, why you are living with such a complete and utter troglodyte. I can only presume that you are very young (your screen anme as well as your attitude woud suggest this) and I think for the sake of the baby it is imperative that you leave that situation and return to your family. Your fellow playmate has a lot of growing up to do before he can be considered suitable material for parenthood.

Please do not touch that cat litter and stay well away from your husband when he is drinking. This is said out of more concern for the baby that anything else.

Answer 3

Of coarse it hurts, he meant it to. The thing with the ice-cream was petty but what he said to you wasn't. What you could do is buy him more of those ice-creams before you leave. That will show him that the ice-cream isn't what the issue was but his words. Then separate from him. Dint divorce him, I am sure the man you married is in there somewhere he just needs your help and that is what unconditional love is about. Sticking it out (you can still do that from a friend or relatives house.). Don't go back until he quits his drinking. Good luck sweety

Answer 4

put some money aside, pack your bags and leave him!! You may still love him - or perhaps you do not - but any person should be treated better than this. The fact that he is so petty, the fact that he stated he hates you, and the fact that he drinks are all signs that perhaps your life may be in danger if he gets a little too drunk one night and thinks he has found a way to get rid of you and not get caught!!

Answer 5

He's obviously got some serious emotional baggage. Arguments in a relationship are fun, most of the time, they keep things from getting too monotonous; however, that having been said, for him to simply go out of his way to make an example of you, to let you know without any doubt that he is the master and commander of the relationship is disgusting. You are entitled to the third ice-cream, it's an unwritten law of nature and reciprocity.The alcohol notwithstanding. Yes, alcohol is sort of to blame for his willingness to go through with it, but it was his idea--not the alcohol's, which in turn makes him a less-than-desirable mate. You could try reaching out to him, and helping him sort out whatever baggage he has, or you can make an ultimatum, tell him to shape up or ship out.

Answer 6

well its very sad. i reckon he thinks that he'll make u upset by doing such things n u do get upset with his behavior, yes any person can get upset.
but now u do one thing:
dont be upset as whatever he do.
dont show aggression.
dont argue with him that y he has done such thing.
just give him a biiiiiiiig smile
do this regularly
make him think that y u r happy
& eventually he won't do this which he thinks is making u smile
yes initially it won't give good results but finally u'll have results in ur favour.
this is called as GANDHIGIRI in my country.
all the best.

Answer 7

How long have you been married. Well, it doesn't matter because you haven't learned that drinking, and turning mean, means you have a real problem. It isn't going to get better until he stops drinking. Be careful, he will someday direct that meanness at you and end up hurting you physically not emotionally.

Answer 8

It's not petty. He's selfish and cruel. He says he hates you then why is he with you? He's got some major issues you can't change. see how you blame yourself "I don't understand what I did" you didn't do anything wrong and if you stay w/ him and tolerate this you will eventually blame yourself for everything. That's why abused women stay in relationships because they end up blaming themselves.

Answer 9

aaaw...that made me sad. im sorry you married someone like that. go buy a gallon of ice cream and shove it in his face when he's really drunk. if he hits you then go get a divorce. if he doesn't then go buy him a dildo and shove it up his a** and ask him how he likes it when your a d*c* to him. then break the bottle of liquer over his head and say "that's from carcin ogen" your example makes me hate your husband. sorry.

Answer 10

and you married him because...??????


you can't STOP HIM from drinking but you sure as heavens can get the HELL AWAY from him.

He ain't no MAN or a HUSBAND.

Move on girl.....many more good MEN in the world out there that you could be with other than that frickled faced orange skinned grommit fk head...okay?

good luck!

Answer 11

It isn't going to get any better, it's only going to get worse, unfortunately, I would bail, I fight w/my wife a lot, I don't drink at all, I would'nt ever say, or do that to her.