2007-01-02 21:06:44 · 23 answers · asked by mama leila 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I am also a husband and i haven't changed after my marriage. But to a large extent you are right. I muse when girl friends turn to be wives, boys become husbands.And if girls want to get their lovers back then they should try to become girl friends once again.
2007-01-02 21:17:50 · answer #1 · answered by raj303 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a horrible thing to say. Taking advantage of his good nature is horrible - don't bully him. Having children and buying a house should be joint decisions or you will be building your relationship on nothing, it is unlikely to last if you are the one bossing him around all the time. As for jewells? Wait til your birthday, christmas or another gift giving season; don't 'wrap him round [your] little finger' in order to get what you want. You are very lucky to have found someone who dotes on you and want you to be happy yet you don't even seem to care. If you don't respect him, he'll begin to disrespect you. Respect is two way as is a relationship. Also, if you don't know him that well he won't know you that well. Don't jump in making big decisions here and there, because he won't like it. This could end it an argument or divorce. Your attitude towards a marriage is unhealthy and you need to reflect on this before further implications arise.
2016-05-22 22:20:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husbands don't change. They were this way before you got married. Maybe, you didn't see it. But, it was there. Usually, in the beginning, everyone is on their best behavior. I usually think you need to go camping with someone to really see them. I think if you see them for four seasons, that's good enough. You have to see them when they are MAD. That will tell you alot. Anyways, why don't you try and do the romance thing. Remember, it doesn't take alot with men. Try wearing something sexy you like and see where it goes. If it doesn't work, try, try again. Eventually, he'll see what your doing. Remember, men are visual creatures. He;ll probably like that youre making the first move.
2007-01-02 21:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by CURTIS TERI C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not so much that husbands change once the ring is on the finger. For some of us I can say that as a single man I only had to think of myself, the next party and how to impress the woman I was looking for. Once married the thought that is in most men's mind is that our wife loves us for who we are and can we provide for a family the way a man should, not how many doors we open for you. I feel to provide a home, food on the table and nice things to wear is still a form of romance that never ends for I find no greater way of showing my love than to take care of the one who loves me.
2007-01-02 21:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by fthiele11 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same reason everyone to include women change after marriage. You have real life jobs and bills to deal with. As your life evolves so do your needs, wants, and desires. Women quit doing a lot of things that they once were willing to do, and the men are really sad about that. This is why people say you have to work at a marriage or relationship.
2007-01-02 21:11:01 · answer #5 · answered by girlcop1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost, have you changed? If you have not and still feel that way, it just meant that you did not know your husband well enough before marrying him. However, if you can't get him to be romantic, passionate, etc, you could on your part to spice up your life. Have a romantic candlelight dinner with him. Tell him how you love to experience all that again with him. If he truly loves you, he would surely find ways to accommodate your needs. All the best!
2007-01-02 21:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that before you marry they have to keep you keen but once you sign those papers its a bit harder to just up and leave.
I also think it's because you get so comfortable with each other that you feel you don't need all the romance stuff.
Yes it is very sad.
2007-01-02 22:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for your husband to do that, Everyone can take the initiate and plan romance dinners, passion etc. Don't wait for someone else to do it, You and everyone can change the things in a relationship that they don't like by changing their behavior.
Eveyone and you should take charge of you life don't wait for someone else to do it for you. You can change a lot of things in your realtionship.
2007-01-02 21:16:39 · answer #8 · answered by jm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually they say that it is the girl that changes., from the sweet, quiet girl, butter will not melt in her mouth she becomes a nagging, complaining, whining female. Men only react to this change by losing passion, sex drive etc.
2007-01-02 21:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why i have no faith in marriage... cos passion, romance... are the essential ingredients to keep the relationship going..and if there arent any of those in the married couples...i think the their r/s are over..and if they do sustain their r/s it's out of guilt and responsibility...
2007-01-02 21:09:12 · answer #10 · answered by cheeryviola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋