Ok I've been with my man for 14 yrs,things have been up and down yet the only thing that has kept us together is loyalty to one another. Now I'm having my doubts that he's being completly faithful. Here are some examples; sits on the computer on forums till 2-3pm tham comes to bed for some action but no real passion if you know what I mean. When I deny him he says there's something wrong with me,yet its hard to get turned on when your asleep. I also know a womens calling him ,tonight his moblie rang just after tea i went to get it for him and saw the name Lynda on it he came and got it and took the call outside. Not long after he rang a customer of his to go and do a job and said to him I'll be there after I drop something of to some one. I listened to some of the conversation didnt sound deceiptful or anything yet I'm getting paraniod .Last night I asked him if he was having a emotional affair with anyone he said no{of couse} I really dont know where to go from here. Any advice.
2007-01-02 20:51:21 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh he said that he has women customers ,mind you he's a self employed boat mechanic. I dont know of many women that own boats or chat on boating forums, I really want to believe him for the kids sake but I need real proof before I tell him to leave.
2007-01-02 21:00:58 · update #1
I only deny him at 2pm after I've been asleep for 3 hours . If he wanted me he would come to bed at the same time dont you think.
2007-01-02 21:02:40 · update #2
rather than seeing negative, see the positive. You are with him for 14 years and there seems to be a strong relationship. However, there seems to be communication issues that must be faced. If you have your worries, your fears. If you suspect, sometimes that alone is enough to ruin everything, even without actual proof.
Go get councelling and put everything out in the open. If he does admit to an affair at least you will know what you are facing and can decide based on FACTS not suspicions...
good luck!
2007-01-02 21:02:34 · answer #1 · answered by avishtevi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that the only thing that kept you all together was loyalty. If you are just now after 14 years getting the vibe that he is having an affair then he probably is. But then again you want to give him the benefit of the doubt. My advice is snoop around on his computer. Read his e-mails. Search his cell phone. If you find something confront him about it. If you don't then drop it.
2007-01-02 21:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by ProudToBeWhite 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your questions should be an alarm bell for you. Fourteen years of this, or is it recently? If I were you, and if this is not a marraige, then leave him, otherwise find an attorney and start documenting everything that goes on there. Oh, if its California, forget about documenting, its an equal state, they just give the divorce.
2007-01-02 20:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by kaliroadrager 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loyalty is not a reason to stay, seems like neither one of you are happy to be with eachother. Honey he is using you as a recepticle instead of a lover. I don't think you are being paranoid at all. Life is too short to stay with someone out of loyalty.
2007-01-02 21:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound good. Couldn't say if he is cheating but the potential to cheat is there. Sounds like if you are going to find out you will have to do a little detective work. Good Luck
2007-01-02 21:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is cheating. Period. End of story. You already know this.
2007-01-02 21:12:16 · answer #6 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he has an itch, you Deny him so hes going to go scratch that itch
2007-01-02 20:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋