My lesbian partner no longer enjoy sex.......
She used to enjoy it..and even took the initiative to have sex with me..but recently she told me she felt very filthy to sex..and even mentioned that she has all along not into such physical sexual need as she had been living all by herself...she is 20 years old than me...
Please kindly give me some advice...how should I change her and make her understand that I am not trying to be too hard on her but to make her understand that I am like anyone else to have such need...
2007-01-02 20:33:05 · 9 answers · asked by Vapor 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Da ben dan:
Thanks for your advise..It could be due to her age..as she is reaching 50 soon...but the fact is she is also no longer to masturbate me or give me one side pleasure... her only reason is she feels filthy recently...
2007-01-02 20:41:52 · update #1
U B Happy: I got you..its the thing about her change which I am kind of hard to accept it..
2007-01-02 20:51:23 · update #2
just_ine_.: thanks for your advise..
She did said to me that she is still willing to give me care, concern and love...but just no physical sex..she also complaint that she have had enough..
2007-01-02 21:03:31 · update #3
Maybe you should talk to her. Or get a woman about your age.
2007-01-03 06:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Pink 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, I hate to say it, but your relationship has hit the dreaded "Lesbian beddeath" stage.
I don't know your partner so I'm simply assuming here, but since she says sex makes her feel filthy it could be someone hormonal or psychological...or even a combination of the two.
If she says she still loves you but simply has no desire to have sex with you, I'd suggest she see a doctor. There are several physical ailments that may result in lack of sex drive.
I'd also suggest couples counceling for both of you.
2007-01-02 21:00:22 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quit trying to change her to make her be what she isn't comfortable being anymore. If she says it feels filthy to have lesbian sex, why not respect that? People do change you know! (I've been trying to say this is possible through Christian conversion! It sounds like she is beginning to listen to her conscience. Don't tell her she should feel differently for your selfish reasons.) You resent people trying to change you so follow your own advice.
2007-01-02 22:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lovin' Mary's Lamb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is she? Could it possibly be a hormonal thing? I don't know I'm not a woman but I'd start by checking with a doctor if there's a chance that she is menopausal or something...I'd better let a lesbian give you an answer on this one :) LOL
2007-01-02 20:36:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have a few options. Live your life without much or any more sex.
Have an open relationship and remain with her but get sex elsewhere.
Call the relationship quits, and get on with your life with someone more compatible.
My advice: the latter, move on, she's stopped and staying put. She had her youth, and you have a right to experience yours.
2007-01-02 20:38:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't change her,and make her do something she doesnt want to,you'r best bet is to sit down and talk to her about,and explain how you feel,if it still doesnt get better may be you should think about leaveing the relationship and move on and find someone that whats the same as you
2007-01-02 20:37:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
try feeding her beef instead of fish menu might be better at her age and maybe the beef can help you.? unless you want to hear him talk while hes busy lol.
2007-01-02 20:56:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i respect your choice but lesbianism is not a natural and healthy form of sexual orientation. it undermines the foundation and future of society and humanity that based its survival and continuity on propagation of mankind.maybe you should try to seek some kind of religious counselling.peace be to you.
2007-01-02 20:42:28 · answer #8 · answered by DT 2 · 1⤊ 3⤋
maybe menopause he heh ehehehehe
2007-01-02 20:40:00 · answer #9 · answered by revolution 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋