someone please help,im suffering from a paranoid disorder and its ruining my marriage,i accused my wife of?

Question

cheating on me,even though she was not,ive compleatly alienated all my friends,im seeing a councillor to help me but i keep cancelling the appointment cause i dont feel comfotable in talking to them,what do i do to relieve this problem i got,(please no silly answers cause im looking for advice from peolpe who might have been through this before as this is a serious matter to me or if anyone has good advice

Answer 1

My heart goes out to you. All I can suggest is telling your wife about each appointment you have and ask her to encourage you to go. You could also give yourself a little award for each appointment you do attend, such as meeting your wife for a coffee after, remember everytime you go, you're one step closer to getting there. Otherwise why not talk to someone who you cant see? As daft as it may sound, if you can't see the person your talking to, maybe you'd feel more comfortable, try searching for helplines on the net.

I hope you keep well, if you would like any further advice or help, I will take the time to make sure I can in any way that I can.

Answer 2

Perhaps in your moments of lucidity - i.e. when you realise that you are being paranoid you could write yourself notes to read when the paranoia sets back in.

Or keep a diary where you note down your thoughts, including your paranoid ones and crucially what set them off.

If you do not feel talking to your counsellor you could try a different one.

I have nevered been through what you are doing but it sounds as though you become locked in your own mind and try to think your way out of it. Perhaps then a thing to do is to distract yourself mentally, by reading, studying, working or at a pinch watching a lot of dvd's, tv series that you enjoy.

Perhaps you could raise your self esteem by doing something to help others, getting involved in local activities, try new hobbies etc

Ignore all the shameful people who write glib responses and only fuel your fears.

Answer 3

First let me say your not nuts..YOU have a condition and already know that so congratulations on seeing that.Panic attacks,anxiety attacks,personality disorder,paranoia ,all are mental issues which doesn't mean your crazy but the chemical in your body is out of wack...Dont cancel you appointments believe me they heard alot worse and the medication out their today is fabulous..
If you had cancer or diabetes you would get help but when its in the mind people tend to shy away for fear that people will think they are nuts...NO NO YOU ARE NOT..Its a real problem with real solutions.Get help before you lose the marriage and yourself cause it will eat you up..Good luck to you

Answer 4

I'm going through the same thing right now myself. See...the key is to pick and choose which friends you can still trust. Just think back to the ones that have always been there for you. Through thick and thin. Then you have to stop and look at yourself in the mirror. At this point you should realize that you arent in jail yet. So you have no real reason to be paranoid. And If your wife is worth keeping, she'll understand what you're going through.

Answer 5

Well, you just screwed yourself by not going to counseling. You need professional help, not freaking "Yahoo Answers". You better get to a counselor quick before she and your friends dump your sorry, self-pitying, a-ss. And if you've not been to a counselor how do you know you have a "disorder'. What are Dr. Phil. Log off the freaking internet and get to a counselor, between the counselor and maybe some meds, you should be in good shape to get your friends and wife back.

Answer 6

Nothing is really happening in your life. Keep it simple. Everything around you are only objects or lessons for you. Each thing represents something about yourself you need to learn.

From this point on do the entire opposite of what you feel. Like I say "be a Nike" and "JUST DO IT".

Eventually you will find what you are missing..........yourself. The point to life and our problems or issues is to resolve them so when we meet ourselves later we will be complete, happy.

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Answer 7

As others have said treatment is there for you, so go, you are not only damaging yourself, your wife is being abused by you which in turn will end up out of hand if she does'nt leave you first. You are hurting the one you love & thats bad, it has a domino effect on all that encounter this abuse, so,,
Do more things together, ask her for your support, make love not war go go Buffalo.

Answer 8

Paranoid? To relieve the problems?
Well.. I highly recommend you to read " How to Stop Worrying and Start Living by Dale Carnegie". I have read it. It really provides a lot of (not new), but often overlooked ideas/principles we should apply to our life.

ps. I have heard my teacher saying that she knew one student who changed his mind not to commit suicide after reading this book. After hearing all this, I, a very curious student, don't hesitate to go to a bookstore, and bought the book to read it. Give it a try. Good luck!

Answer 9

my wife has had this illness.. accused me of alsorts..
it's very hard but your wife needs to be understanding and remain calm and explain to you that the accussations are not true.. also you need to remain calm.. it is no good you both standing toe to toe and shouting at each other.
my wife was admitted to hospital for a week and went through a course of drug therapy.. it's all a matter of outlook.. before she was all doom and gloom and with very low self esteem.. now with working together this has changed...
try to keep your appointments to show your wife that you do want help...
good luck to you both

Answer 10

Get the help you need. Get off your *** and head out the door and see the councillor now".