I am pregnant with my 4th child and trying to make a life for my children and I. I think I would have a great chance to do this in NY with my sister but there is this really amazing guy _would make the perfect hubby and father that wants me to stay in CA and marry him...I only have doubts about a few small things that bug me about him...I am just having a hard time making this desison..help!!
2007-01-02 20:20:32 · 10 answers · asked by Amy Oh81 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say you have doubts about him, even though they
are minor, that should make you think twice before you
act towards marriage. Remember you have 3 kids and
one on the way. You definately do not need any problems
in your life as you have children that need your love also.
You say that the guy in New York would make a perfect
hubby, but remember that is what you percieve it to be.
A man will make a good husband when he accepts you
un-conditionally and will also accept your children in the
same manner. Make sure he Loves you, Respects you,
Supports you, Communicates with you; is with you in
your ups and downs, will share in responsibilities in
the home and help in raising your children with respect
and last but not least has that Committment to be faithful
to you . When you see all of those things in
a man then that is the time you need to think about
marriage. This process takes time so no-one can rush
into it. If you have an opportunity as you say to go to
NY and make life better for your kids that is probably the
best move to make as your kids are priority in your life
right now. If this man that you say would make a perfect
hubby for you really loves you and your kids then he will
follow you no matter where you go, and then that is just
another step that his love for you is real. Good luck.
2007-01-02 20:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can he be "perfect," and you have doubts about him at the same time?
If there are only a few small things, but he's otherwise "really amazing," then I'd probably marry him. But only if you're sure.
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2007-01-05 00:32:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what those few small things are. Some small things could become major ones after you're married. The best thing is to follow your intuition; if you have a bad feeling follow the bad feeling. many people who have gotten divorced had a bad feeling from the beginning and just didn't follow it.
2007-01-02 20:23:36 · answer #3 · answered by uknowme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people marry when they're 100% sure but still end up in divorce. On the other hand, I've been told by some successful couples that when they married they weren't sure. A part of it is a leap of faith I guess. Being sure doesn't guarantee success in marriage. Listen to your heart.
2007-01-02 20:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by charlie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're leaning to NY. But have you really looked at it realistically from all angles. How's your sister feel about this?
So this guy would make the perfect father/husband, for WHO?
If he bugs ya now, PLEASE DONT marry him. The 'bugs' will only grow larger in a very short time.........
2007-01-02 20:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clear your small doubts about him before they become big problems !! you already have a course of action (to make your life in NY), don't change course till the offer package (complete package) is attractive.
2007-01-02 20:24:47 · answer #6 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our professionals describe you as an appallingly boring fellow, unimaginative, timid, lacking in initiative, spineless, really ruled, no experience of humour, tedious employer and irrepressibly drab and undesirable. And while in maximum professions those will be major drawbacks, in chartered accountancy they're a good boon.
2016-10-16 23:12:18 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cant work out the problems and have any doubts about him. Then you should not get married!!
2007-01-02 20:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts ... he's not Mr Right .... although no-one is perfect ... there shouldn't be doubts
2007-01-02 20:23:27 · answer #9 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have doubts, how is he Mr. Right?
2007-01-02 20:30:32 · answer #10 · answered by dixiegirl687 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋