I am decent looking. I have friends. I have a job. Facts. Yes, I should be happy... however I am not.
I am not excited or proud of any part of my life. I am ashamed to be as old as I am and be as lame as I am. Secretary? With barely enough money to pay rent and bills? I don't even know what I want to do with my life. I don't want to even get up. I can afford to take the bus OR buy ramen. What a GREAT CHOICE!
Ignoring the feeling and pasting on a large fake smile is not working. Therapy... not working enough. I still can't stand being me.
I have tried getting a creative job. I have tried new places. I have sucked up everything like a vacuum cleaner with a giant smile. Yeah, it is all good.
Can I succeed at ANYTHING?
There isn't any more psyching myself into that *gee, Beaver... tomorrow will be better* krap.
I need something in my life that is just mine that I am proud of that makes me feel like life is worth getting up for.
And, please... no religion.
2007-01-02 19:20:08 · 16 answers · asked by wickeywickey 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Have you been born again, in...
Kidding.
Have you considered that you may be taking someone *else's* criteria for success and trying to apply them to your own life?
I would recommend one thing, and that's it. Learn to meditate. Doesn't need to have any religious connotation. In my experience it is the single best thing for getting right down to the root of who you are and what you want to do with your life.
It seems you feel that whatever tack you have taken using the analytic part of your mind has led you down a blind alley. The longer you keep convincing yourself that things are OK, and settling for that tinny simulation of real life, the worse the situation will become. You need to break out of the set of programs that you've been given to choose between. Any other type of "therapy", "self-help", religion, fad, or life-improvement program is basically someone else trying to answer a question that ONLY YOU can answer for yourself.
Learn to meditate, and you can cut through it all, and find how you really want to spend your waking hours. Once you Seriously do that, and find What you're meant to be doing in life, you will find that the conditions for success in it begin to fall into place. Strange but true.
2007-01-02 19:43:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree... the education thing sounds like a great idea for you!
Reasons:
#1.) Open you up to new exciting jobs of your choice (you get to decide what your degree will be).
#2.) Mental stimulation and thinking of ideas presented by your prof. and your book that you may take an interest to.
#3.) Connection to resources at the school: join a club, group or an organization. Do community service with a group for your resume!
#4.) Student loans can be used to pay the bills or to carry you through a rough patch if necessary.
I really think you need to jump on the education bandwagon.
I just graduated from school and it feels great to have a degree- I can't imagine spending years of my life stuck in a job I hate and now I will never have to do that! I'm probably going to eventually head to graduate school though, but that's AFTER I go to West Africa with the Peace Corps for 2 years!
Good luck with everything and sorry things look so down right now!
2007-01-02 19:35:34 · answer #2 · answered by Elysia 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Life is all about choices.
Once you wake up you're faced with a two choices, to get up and start the day and live it or to sleep through it all. With anything you do in life it's all about choices. The positive and the negative. You can cry about being poor, having a job you're unhappy with, or you can suck it up and do something about it. Go back to school so you can do something else, something that will make you happy.
I started college in September. I met a lady in my program, she was in her mid to late 30's. She told me that she was a secretary for years. Wasn't making much money, had no friends, and was very unhappy. So she quit her job, and applied to college. She made a lot of new friends from all ages in the program. So, maybe this is what you have to do.
Remember you only have one chance at life, there is tons to do out there. If you find something you enjoy, even if you don't make much money it wouldn't matter as much because you'll be happy.
So go out and try something new. Sometimes you need to make a drastic change to find happiness, other times it's something little. Find out what it is, and live life happy.
best of luck in the future, I hope you find something that's right for you.
2007-01-02 19:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, we all wish we could have that perfect life, the happy family, the riches, and the perfect mate. But, the fact of the matter is that their are so many people exactly like you, out there, I happen to be one of them, and I couldn't even afford to but my kids x-mas presents this year, because of financial difficulties, so my mom did, and put my name on them. Life is what you make it though, we still had a good x-mas despite the lack of money. I finally found another job, that will pay a little more, and hopefully the year will be better. My life has gone up and down as long as I can remember. Some day, something will change your life for the better.. Have faith, and hang in there.. Happy New Year...
2007-01-02 19:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by medgirl 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just think of all the people in the world who eat once a week if they are lucky, think about the 3rd world crisis & how many people die from causes that are not there fault, young adults with nothing to do because of there situation in life. No jobs no love no family the list can go on, go out & give some poor homeless person a drink or a sandwich, you will be surprised at how good it makes you feel just to help the ones who dont have a life & no choice.
2007-01-02 20:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by Mosez 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Develop your own signature product as in make a workable small home business plan (not networking)... then show it to interested investors, friends or relatives with extra money to invest in a business partnership.
If you do it with formality, passion, determination, aggressiveness and a will that could move mountains, you're on your way to become an entrepreneur (self employed, full time in your own business) or a worktrepreneur (if you continue on your regular work as a Secretary and do business during your spare time).
Success will come in trickle but you'll soon notice how the meager rewards change your outlook in life as the days pass.
2007-01-02 19:47:28 · answer #6 · answered by Willie Boy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"tomarrow will be better" change your outlook, fuq tomarrow, "today is good"
dont "paste a smile on your face" make it appear in the first place, really find a reason to smile. Take a second job, immerse yourself in a hobby, gym, stamp collecting, ect.
...i think im going to join the military (Im a systems engineer with a 4 year degree...I took a second job as a bouncer.....its still just too damn boring [all i can do about it is change it])
what are you gonna do?
or you could like get a puppy dog.
2007-01-02 20:36:35 · answer #7 · answered by Akshun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
You clearly have what it takes to be successful and enjoy life - intelligence, personality, looks (by your own account) - so I would suggest that the only thing stopping you is you.
In my experience the best thing for dealing with pointless, obstructive behaviour is hypnotherapy - basically you reprogram yourself to stop doing something useless. I see this as being different from other types of therapy which help you get over emotional issues from the past - this is about stopping doing crappy stuff.
It has worked very well for me in the past!
Good luck
2007-01-02 19:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by lozatron 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
There are a lot of good things about you, such as the fact that you are ready to face reality, and also that you are willing to take responsibility for improving your life.
You also describe your situation very candidly and very frankly.
You seem to have reached a point where you're ready to listen to good, practical advice, and are willing to try new things.
Maybe I can help.
I coach people (mostly women) on how to achieve career success, and business success.
Drop me a line if you wish, at omnidigitalbrain@yahoo.com (no, I won't charge you, I just like to offer my help if I can). :-)
2007-01-03 21:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by superscribe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about that turning a failure into a success crap....but you can make up a reason every day to make you want to get up....
For example tomorrow I can't wait to get up and I spend all day waiting for the perfect chance to flick a booger in my boss mans coffee when he isn't looking
or spend all day looking for the perfect chance to sneak into so & so's office and log onto her computer wrong enough times that it locks up and she/he has to call IT to get it unlocked
or slip broken pieces of paper clips into the lock on someones office door so that they get locked out the next day...
the list is never ending - just have fun with it
2007-01-02 19:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by kim 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋